The thought of going to school makes me anxious. Is it better to live in or outside the dormitory?

Indeed, it seems that your preference is to attend school on campus. This is evident from the numerous disadvantages you have outlined. Firstly, you perceive the distance between your home and the school to be relatively short, at approximately 6 kilometers. Secondly, you believe that you lack friends at the school, that your relationship with your roommate is unsatisfactory, that the conditions in the dormitory are poor, and that living in the school is emotionally unfulfilling. You frequently experience feelings of irritability, boredom, loneliness, and homesickness. These emotions have a detrimental impact on your relationship with the school. Even thinking about attending school evokes feelings of anxiety and a sense that there are too many demands placed upon you at school.

Ultimately, you were unable to establish communication with your parents, who declined your proposal due to their lack of availability to provide transportation. It is understandable that you may feel adrift and uncertain about the future. If I were in your position, I would also experience a sense of disorientation and helplessness. However, the prospect of returning to school evokes a complex emotional response, encompassing feelings of anxiety and even trepidation.

It would be advisable to arrange another meeting with your parents to discuss your feelings and the challenges you have faced.

Prior to proposing a solution, it is advisable to consider how one would address the issue of a 6-kilometre round trip in the event that one's parents are unable to provide transportation. It is unclear from the context whether the reader is a minor or an adult, but if the latter, it may be possible to take a taxi or bicycle to school. However, the journey remains somewhat lengthy, and thus it is prudent to identify at least three methods that would allow one to safely commute to and from school without compromising academic performance. It is important to recognise that parents have a profound affection for their children and are therefore concerned about their wellbeing and safety. They may therefore perceive boarding school as a more beneficial option for their children. In formulating a response, it is essential to consider the feelings and concerns of parents and to express gratitude for their efforts.

It is also possible that all the suggestions presented will be rejected by the parents. What other options are available?

From your description, it is evident that you experience feelings of loneliness at school. You lack social connections and the relationship with your roommate is not optimal. Could the reason for this be the conflicts you have with your classmates? What were the underlying causes for the discord with your classmates and roommates in the first place?

Indeed, for an extended period during my tenure at the university, my roommate relationship was also markedly poor. They exhibited a marked tendency to ignore me. Despite my own social circle, I often felt a profound sense of solitude when I returned to my dormitory and observed them engaged in cheerful conversation. I sought the assistance of the teacher on several occasions to mediate, yet these efforts proved futile. What, then, was my solution to this intractable problem?

I consulted with the head of our department on numerous occasions, assisting him with various tasks and providing him with insights into the nuances of student life in the dormitory and my own experiences at the university. When the opportunity arose, the head of the department was instrumental in facilitating adjustments on my behalf. In this situation, it would be beneficial to seek the assistance of a teacher who can act as a mediator. While a positive relationship with one's roommate is not a prerequisite, having a few friendly roommates can significantly enhance one's sense of comfort and ease.

In the event that difficulties have been encountered with classmates or roommates that have not been resolved, an alternative approach may be to adopt the perspective of the roommates and consider their thoughts and feelings at the time. This could potentially facilitate a more constructive resolution and enhance the relationship.

There are at least three or more potential courses of action to consider when dealing with challenging situations. If these prove ineffective, it may be helpful to take a step back and assess your own needs. Best wishes in finding a solution.