There are a lot of psychological changes after pregnancy. How can I improve?

I hope my answer is helpful.

I've been there, and I understand. It's normal to feel some physical discomfort during pregnancy, including psychological discomfort. As a mother-to-be, we're experiencing these unknown changes for the first time, and it's natural to feel some anxiety. Don't worry or be afraid. With some adjustments, we can face the changes throughout the pregnancy with a calmer and more positive attitude and welcome the little one.

I advise you to:

1. It is essential to educate ourselves about pregnancy and childbirth so that we are prepared and know what to do.

I remember when I was pregnant before, I read books about pregnancy and childbirth, such as "Pregnancy Nutrition for 40 Weeks, This Book is Enough," "Concord Golden Recipes for Pregnancy and Childbirth," etc. These books will tell you what to do when you experience morning sickness. They will also help you understand other physical reactions during pregnancy and provide effective coping strategies.

The fastest way to stop vomiting in pregnant women is to drink fresh lemon water on an empty stomach. Lemon water is rich in vitamin C, which protects the stomach and intestines.

If you have severe morning sickness, eat lemons. They're sour, but they're an effective way to stop vomiting.

Second, you should eat more foods containing vitamin B, such as fresh soy products or milk products. Your body will lack vitamins after morning sickness, so you need to supplement with vitamins to enhance all aspects and immediately subside morning sickness.

From my experience, morning sickness has stages. After a period of time, it will not be as easy to feel nauseous and want to vomit.

2. We must seek help from others and take care of ourselves and the baby.

You say you don't want to trouble your friends, and your parents and husband are very busy. You don't think there's any point in troubling them. You feel that even if you do trouble them, there's nothing you need them to do. They can't help you bear the physical pain, but they can give you psychological support and companionship. This will ensure you don't feel alone and helpless, isolated and unsupported.

Tell your family and friends about your true feelings and discomfort. Chat with other expectant mothers to exchange experiences. They may not be able to help you solve your problems, but you will feel their care and understanding. You will also discover that everyone is the same, and every mother will experience these "sufferings" and changes. And it is precisely because of these "sufferings" that we can appreciate the depth and greatness of motherly love.

You can also come to the platform often to seek psychological support and help. Ask questions in the Q&A Hall, go to group chats, and talk in the Confession Room. Expressing and talking about your inner suffering will make your heart more relaxed and calm. Repressing it will make you more and more emotional.

3. Release your emotions however you see fit.

From your description, it's clear that your life has recently been simple and monotonous. You have no one to talk to, no hobbies you like doing, and you experience physical pain every day, as well as anxiety about the unknown changes of pregnancy. Of course you feel uncomfortable and miserable. We need to relieve the internal pressure and anxiety and help you smoothly get through the whole pregnancy.

In addition to reading books and finding the right people and channels to talk about your inner suffering, you can also relieve and adjust your emotions in the following ways:

Keep a daily emotional diary. Set aside half an hour every day to write in a safe and quiet environment.

Write down all your feelings and worries on paper. Don't worry about whether your handwriting is neat, whether your logic is sound, or whether your language is beautiful. Just let yourself go and write and express yourself. Once you get into the habit of writing to heal, you'll find that slowly, as you express your inner feelings in this way, your heart will gradually calm down, your emotions will find an outlet, and your thoughts will become clearer and clearer.

If you want to cry, cry.

Many people are wrong to think that crying is a sign of shame. In fact, crying is a very effective way to release emotions.

Crying releases toxins. It cleanses the mind and body. Toxic substances are released when people cry. Biochemical scientists at the Ramsey Medical Center in St. Paul, Minnesota, USA, discovered that tears produced by stress help remove stress hormones and toxins, while also relaxing the mind.

Crying is an effective way to relieve stress. Tears are the most powerful remedy for relieving mental burdens. When we are wronged or tormented by grief, crying is the best way to vent the pain in our hearts and improve our mood.

So, when you notice your emotions aren't where you want them to be and you feel like crying, don't hold it in. Let it out! You'll feel a lot better once you've cried.

Make positive suggestions to yourself.

Suggestion is the most common cognitive phenomenon in our daily lives. It is a psychological phenomenon in which people or the environment send messages to the human body in a very natural way, and the individual unconsciously accepts this message and responds accordingly.

There are two types of suggestion: self-suggestion and suggestion from others. We will focus on the role of self-suggestion.

Self-suggestion is the deliberate act of influencing oneself by making a certain idea affect one's psychology, exerting pressure on one's emotions and will.

For example, some people see that they don't look well in the mirror and immediately jump to the worst-case scenario, imagining they have a kidney disease, feel weak all over, have back pain, can't go to work, and even go to the hospital for treatment. However, some people see that they don't look well in the mirror and choose to focus on the positive, suggesting to themselves that they should increase outdoor activities, do more exercise, and try to feel the fresh air around them, so they cheer up and go to work happily.

When we feel down, it's because negative thoughts have taken over our minds. We must break our negative thinking patterns, give ourselves positive suggestions, and replace old, narrow-minded negative thinking patterns with positive thinking patterns. This is a powerful technique.

We can tell ourselves, "Everything is for the best. I may not feel well right now, but I will have a happy mindset. I love and accept myself. I will easily get love and support. I will smoothly and relaxingly get through the whole pregnancy. Everything is fine..."

I am confident that the above will be helpful. Best regards.

A happy pregnant mother gives you a hug in the cloud.

The first trimester can be more challenging, and pregnancy reactions vary greatly from person to person. Some experience mild reactions, while others have more severe reactions. Your reaction is more severe, and it is normal for your mood to be affected. If I were in your situation, I would also be in a bad mood.

You need to go out for a walk. Being in touch with the outside world will distract you and help you focus on the good things. Your mood will improve.

I also experienced the problem of being unable to hold in urine. When I was pregnant with my second child, I often had to urinate.

Use sanitary napkins or sleep pants. They can't hold as much urine as diapers, but they're sufficient for holding the inevitable. Use them when you go out to avoid embarrassment.

Don't overdo it. You're not Superman. Take a break when you need to. Don't go too far. If you want to go somewhere, use a means of transport. If you're tired, go home and rest.

You stopped working because of the smell at work, and it's clear from this sentence that you love your baby in your belly more than you think. You are your baby's mother, and you protect it from odors.

You give it a sense of security.

You're experiencing severe morning sickness, various discomforts, plus mobility restrictions and emotional setbacks in the first trimester. You believe that these challenges are caused by pregnancy and have resulted in your current state of being less than free.

You love your baby.

I have given birth to two children. I also did the following exercises during pregnancy, which I am going to share with you now.

By the 16th week, you will feel the baby move. You can feel the baby move in a quiet state, and you will know that the little life in your belly is growing day by day under your careful care.

2. Feel your baby's movements and tell him/her how much you love him/her.

3. Take beautiful selfies and you will see how beautiful you are during pregnancy.

4. Tell yourself you're a brave, confident, and beautiful pregnant woman. Compliment yourself more often.

5. Listen to beautiful music to calm your emotions.

6. Talk to your best friend. It'll make you happy, but don't complain. Talk about lighthearted and interesting topics.

Another thing I loved about being pregnant was that pregnant women everywhere got special treatment, like being offered a seat on the bus. I felt like a queen during my pregnancy, hahaha.

When you are happy, the baby in your belly is happy too. You will have a smooth pregnancy and a healthy baby.

I'm Chen Jia, and I love the world.

Firstly, the morning sickness experienced in the early stages of pregnancy results in a reduction in food intake, while the fluctuations in hormone levels cause physical discomfort. These changes can impact emotional states, with the body expending energy when undergoing these changes and dealing with negative emotions. Consequently, it is important to recognise that these experiences are a normal aspect of pregnancy. Once this is acknowledged, the feelings of inner resistance, non-acceptance, or worry and fear will be significantly reduced.

Secondly, it is not uncommon for individuals to report a lack of strong maternal instincts towards their unborn child. Even after the child is born, maternal instincts do not manifest as a natural instinct. Rather, they emerge gradually through interactions with the infant after birth.

Third, it is presumed that this is your first pregnancy. As you lack experience with this particular stage of life, you may feel particularly cautious and nervous about any changes. However, based on my personal experience of having given birth to two children, it can be asserted that a significant proportion of the nervousness and anxiety associated with the first pregnancy is unnecessary. Consequently, it is recommended that you encourage a sense of relaxation.

Fourth, it is advisable to engage in activities that will distract oneself from the symptoms of pregnancy. Prolonged periods of inactivity may exacerbate the experience of morning sickness and other negative emotional states.

During my initial pregnancy, I remained at home for the majority of the day. The morning sickness persisted from the beginning of the pregnancy until its conclusion, and I experienced a general sense of weakness throughout. Additionally, I had ample time to reflect, which contributed to feelings of anxiety. After my second pregnancy, I resumed my regular work schedule, which led to a notable improvement in my well-being.

It is therefore recommended that you identify an activity to occupy your time.

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

I understand your morning sickness. You vomit when you're hungry, when you encounter something you don't like, or when you smell something strange. The number of times you vomit each day varies. Dry retching is hard on pregnant women.

I'm new to pregnancy, so I'm wondering why I got pregnant and why I'm going through all this.

Accept your feelings and thoughts.

The questioner feels sad and unhappy about the baby's arrival. As a new mother, she is experiencing normal feelings and thoughts. It takes time to adapt to new situations.

The questioner is very independent and would rather do things themselves. But sometimes we can trouble others. There is no need to live like a strong woman and keep everything to yourself.

Ask people who have been through it for advice.

Everyone reacts differently to pregnancy. It's important to talk to someone who has been through it so you know what to watch out for and what to do.

Like morning sickness in early pregnancy, the questioner can stop vomiting by eating something sour. You can eat at regular intervals to prevent feeling too hungry and nauseated at the same time.

We need companionship and care during pregnancy. The family is busy and doesn't know what to do for us. We also need to take care of ourselves. Don't worry about what others think. Friends and mothers-in-law can also give advice.

I can help you with discomfort during pregnancy.

How do you want to spend your pregnancy? My mental state is average.

I don't care about anything.

Distract yourself.

The smell at work made her feel sick, so she didn't go in. She has a free schedule now and wants to make the pregnancy easier on herself. She wants to reduce her sickness and make her life fulfilling.

1. Learn about pregnancy and what to expect after the baby is born. This will help you prepare. You can also start learning about the baby in your tummy. These things seem simple, but if you can stick to them, you won't be so focused on the discomforts.

2. Add hobbies: You don't have to stop exercising after you become pregnant. Try yoga for pregnant women, swimming, or walking. Look at flowers, trees, and plants nearby. This will help you relax.

3. Find pleasure in things: Do you have any hobbies? I like to do DIY crafts and cross-stitch. DIY is about enjoying making things with your hands. You can also try other things, such as writing with a brush, drawing, singing, etc.

Mothers are great, despite the discomforts of pregnancy and childbirth. The questioner is learning to be a mother, adapting slowly. You can find a pregnancy rhythm that suits you.

I hope this helps. Best wishes.

Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest and unassuming, just like I always have been.

♥How to view your own pregnancy changes.

After the first pregnancy, women's bodies and minds undergo certain changes. This is something that people who have not experienced it cannot fully understand. There are two hearts beating in one body, imagining a little life being nurtured within ourselves. At this time, we may not yet think about this because our roles have not yet changed.

Pregnancy reactions are largely related to our physical constitution, but they can also be greatly affected by our psychological factors. Different problems will arise in the early, middle, and late stages of pregnancy, and our bodies will behave differently at different stages. It is therefore essential to adjust our psychological state as much as possible. As you can see, the original poster is currently on full-time maternity leave, which is the same as when I was pregnant.

It's normal to feel this way at first. It's only natural to feel distracted and forgetful when you're adjusting to a new state of mind. You're still learning to embrace the role of motherhood. It's not uncommon to feel like you're still learning to love the baby in your tummy. But remember, you've already made the decision to become a mother. You've chosen to bring this little life into your life. You're already a mother in spirit.

Here are some tips for adjusting:

Dear pregnant mother, take a deep breath. No matter what you are doing or not doing, your body is going through a lot. Rest when you can. Second, your husband may be busy, but you need to find time to experience the changes of the little life together.

❀Don't dwell on the fact that you're pregnant. Focus on your current state and what you want to achieve. Prioritize your goals and start making them a reality. You can do this!

❀When I was pregnant, I made sure to eat right, exercise, read, write, and sketch. I made myself happy. The state of the mother during pregnancy affects the child, so it's important to take care of yourself. This experience only happens once, so it's crucial to make the most of it.

Best wishes!

Congratulations! You're now a mother-to-be.

After reading your question, I want you to know that I've been there, and I'm here to tell you that you're going to be just fine.

Let me be clear: morning sickness in early pregnancy has both physiological and psychological factors, as well as the influence of the external environment.

The physical factor is caused by the gradual increase of HCG, which is a normal physiological reaction. This reaction varies from person to person, with some experiencing a stronger reaction than others. However, all of these reactions are normal.

Psychological factors are also at play. The saying in psychology is that the fetus is a foreign body that does not belong to the mother, so there will be a rejection reaction. In other words, the body wants to express its dislike of the fetus through morning sickness. This is an old theory, but it's fascinating because our understanding of our own bodies is actually very limited.

Our subconscious may also have some negative thoughts that we are not aware of, which may be expressed through certain symptoms. For example, if you hate children, but you cannot say this out loud, your subconscious will find an outlet. For someone who is just pregnant, morning sickness is a good outlet.

Or a lack of acceptance of one's own femininity, etc. This is just a theory, but it's a good one.

The external environment and our psychology also play a role. If you feel you are not a good mother, it will affect your physical condition.

Your parents and husband are both very busy, and you feel that you shouldn't bother them because you're just pregnant. Your subconscious doesn't think so, so you create symptoms to attract their attention and get them to care for you.

It's clear they didn't see your needs.

In an intimate relationship, tangible and visible values like your husband cooking for you are just the beginning. There's also an emotional value that can be provided in an intimate relationship. Don't feel like family members can't help you. They can provide a lot of emotional value, such as being able to chat with you, share, and look forward to the future together. Otherwise, you'll feel like you're fighting alone, which may aggravate your morning sickness.

Involve your husband in raising the baby. He has a role to play even though the baby is still in the womb.

Tell your husband how you feel. Show him your vulnerability. Give him the chance to care for and love you.

You should choose a name for the baby together, buy clothes, and even imagine the baby's appearance, gender, what school it will go to, etc.

Don't do it alone. Bring your husband along.

You should also talk to a counselor. I am a counselor who is often pessimistic and occasionally positive, and I love you.

Dear Poster, From your message, I understand that you are experiencing physical and psychological discomfort due to your pregnancy. I empathize with your situation. As a woman, pregnancy is indeed a challenging experience. In addition to the physical changes, you are also dealing with psychological changes.

First, it is important to understand the changes that pregnancy brings to us. Due to the significant hormonal fluctuations that occur during pregnancy, it is not uncommon for pregnant women to experience fluctuations in their emotions, making them more susceptible to negative emotions or manifestations.

As you have mentioned, you have been experiencing morning sickness, which is a common occurrence during pregnancy. This can cause stress and contribute to feelings of depression and unhappiness. However, these emotions are normal and should not be a cause for concern.

I recommend that you read some books on pregnancy and childbirth. This will help you to understand the changes your body will face during pregnancy and childbirth, and you will be better prepared mentally to take appropriate measures. As we progress through the second and third trimesters, the pressure of the fetus will cause us to urinate frequently and hold in our urine, which is perfectly normal. There is no need for you to feel inferior; every pregnant mother is like this.

During the third trimester, the growing size of the abdomen may cause difficulties in sleeping, with the occasional waking during the night. Hair loss and other symptoms may also occur. These are normal occurrences and will subside after the birth.

Secondly, it is important to be prepared for the psychological changes that occur during and after pregnancy. When a woman becomes pregnant, her hormones rise sharply, which can cause noticeable changes in her mood. After the initial surge, these changes will begin to subside, but the woman may still experience heightened irritability and sensitivity to anger.

Following the birth of a child, a peak in hormonal changes occurs. After the baby is delivered, hormone levels drop sharply, which can also lead to low mood. At this time, it is important for the mother to adjust her psychological state, and the family should provide support. It is acceptable to request assistance from family members, who should also be encouraged to provide care and psychological support.

It is recommended that you and your husband take relevant courses together if your family's financial situation allows. This will enable you to learn about relevant knowledge and understand psychological changes, provide psychological support, and seek relevant psychological counseling if necessary. This will be beneficial for you and your family, as it can reduce the incidence of postpartum depression.

It is important to note that pregnancy is not solely the responsibility of the mother. The father's involvement is also crucial. It is essential for the father to learn how to care for the baby, how to care for the mother, and how to provide her with psychological support when she is emotionally sensitive and changeable.

You are not alone in bearing the burden. While you are responsible for bearing the physical discomfort, the support of your family is also a valuable asset. It is not excessive to discuss your feelings. It is important to inform your family of your condition and request their assistance and support. This should extend beyond physical assistance to include psychological support.

I hope the above is of assistance. If you require psychological support, please do not hesitate to send me a private message.

Hello, question asker!

It's tough to give advice on pregnancy-related mental health in just a few sentences. Even so, I hope we can chat further and explore more options when you're feeling stuck.

Bringing a new life into the world is a big change.

Congratulations on the new life you're about to welcome! You may have been mentally prepared before becoming pregnant, but it's clear that your pregnancy hasn't been very pleasant so far. You've experienced a lot of physical suffering. Every pregnancy is different, so some people's pregnancies may not be much different from normal, while others experience severe morning sickness, with nausea and vomiting, loss of appetite, dizziness and headaches, anemia, insomnia, and so on.

It's natural to worry and feel anxious when you're experiencing so many physical changes. I just want to remind you that after the second half of pregnancy and for some time after your baby is born, your body and life will undergo many more changes. You can prepare in advance by reading about relevant medical knowledge and the real experiences shared by other new mothers.

Keep your social support system strong and grow it if you can.

Pregnancy and postpartum can be tough on our hormones, making us more emotional and prone to mood swings. This is when we really need a support system, whether it's our loved ones, family, friends, or other new moms going through the same thing, either pregnant or just giving birth.

In the article, you said that after you got pregnant, you "rarely went out," didn't want to "bother your friends," "didn't go to work," and didn't need to trouble "your parents, husband." It seems like you were isolated from all kinds of social interactions, which is very detrimental to improving your current negative emotions. Conception of a new life is not your own "battle." You need more allies to support you.

We suggest checking out the Babytree app, or you can look for similar apps with a community function for mothers.

Embracing the future with your baby

Now that you're showing, you'll probably start feeling your baby moving around inside you pretty soon. This is a great time to really connect with your little one while you're still in the womb. You can talk to your baby, tell it about your feelings, emotions, and experiences from the day. This can really help you get through this somewhat long and uncomfortable pregnancy.

Some physical pain is tough to deal with, but you can find ways to cope mentally. Even if you're not interested in a lot of things and don't feel like going shopping, you can still set up a weekly reward system for yourself to thank yourself for making it through another week, even if it was tough.

I hope the original poster is doing well and that the baby is healthy and beautiful!

Hello, expectant mother!

From your description, it sounds like you are going through a major transition in your life, which is an exciting time! Our identity transformation requires a process of understanding and acceptance, and it's a journey that will bring you closer to your true self.

Most of us are only children in this generation, which means we have the exciting opportunity to learn about pregnancy, childbirth, and raising a child from scratch! We haven't been exposed to the hardships of pregnancy and childbirth, so we have no mental concept of it. It will definitely take a process for us to suddenly come into contact with it, but it'll be worth it!

It's a fascinating process of cognitive construction!

There are so many great books about pregnancy out there! When we understand the unknown, we can conquer our anxieties.

If you can't find anything interesting, then get a piece of paper and a pen! Just sit there and write or draw whatever comes to mind, without any restrictions. Just follow your heart and write down whatever comes to mind!

You'll know you've been interrupted when you've been distracted from your own world. Then you can read what you've just written and drawn! You might be surprised.

These are the thoughts in your subconscious mind, and they are the real thoughts in your heart! The thoughts in our minds are usually processed because our thoughts are limited by many rules and restrictions.

This kind of writing is called spiritual writing, and it is totally different from keeping a diary. When you keep a diary, your brain is working, but when you write spiritually, your heart is in charge!

The possibilities are endless! You can write when you have nothing to do, when you are daydreaming, when you are feeling down, and when you are happy. All you need to do is start writing, and the rest will be taken care of by your heart.

You might just find the answer to all your prayers! Not only will you heal the anxiety of pregnancy, but you'll also solve many problems that trouble you in life and work.

I highly recommend the book Spiritual Writing by Bing Qianli for anyone interested in spiritual writing!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you!

Huge congratulations!

Hi, I'm Sky from Shanghai.

I've been in your shoes before. When I was pregnant, I had hyperemesis gravidarum and thought I was going to die. I vomited for three days and nights without eating because if I ate, I would vomit, and if I drank water, I would vomit.

Until you're vomiting and hooked up to an IV in the hospital.

This topic of yours reminds me of that time: I couldn't go to work either, and I was home alone with a dog. My dog and I leaned against the balcony and looked into the distance; when I went to sleep, my dog would climb into bed with me and sleep with me.

How did I make it through?

1. Talk to friends and get your current issues off your chest.

2. Stay in touch with your family by phone as much as you can. It's especially important to have their support when you're going through a rough patch.

3. Your husband's company: At that time, I threw up wherever I went, and my husband was really supportive. He said, "I know you feel bad. This feeling is like being drunk and wanting to throw up, right? You can also talk to your husband about it and ask him how it feels to be drunk and want to throw up, so that he feels the same as you. This will make you feel a lot better.

4. Watch an engaging TV series to take your mind off things.

5. Ask your family to cook your hometown cuisine. The taste of your childhood will make you feel much more comfortable. At that time, I thought of a lot of hometown dishes.

I'm happy to say that I now have a cute baby, which brings us a lot of joy. I'm sure you'll get through it too, so hang in there.

First and foremost, extend a supportive gesture to this expectant mother. It is evident that she is experiencing a multitude of challenging emotions, including feelings of distress, unease, and discomfort. When I perused her written account, I was compelled to revisit my own experience of pregnancy. During that period, I encountered significant physical challenges and also grappled with emotional distress, including feelings of apprehension about the future and a lack of interest in most things.

The experience is analogous to your current state of mind.

The initial trimester of pregnancy is typified by the onset of severe morning sickness. For a period of three months, I adhered to a vegetarian diet and experienced persistent nausea and vomiting.

I experienced dizziness and even discomfort to the extent that I was moved to tears while seated by the bedside. Since becoming pregnant, I have seldom ventured out.

Due to the inability to control urination, prolonged periods of walking result in fatigue, and exposure to unpleasant odours causes nausea.

You have endured a considerable amount of hardship, and I am in awe of your resilience in navigating these past few months. You exemplify fortitude. I am uncertain if you still experience morning sickness.

It is not uncommon for pregnant women to experience involuntary urination due to the pressure exerted by the uterus on the bladder. This can be managed by selecting a suitable location with convenient access to a restroom. During my own pregnancy, I also experienced frequent urination, and I was fortunate to have the support and understanding of those around me. It is important to note that the physical responses of pregnant women can vary considerably, and these symptoms tend to subside after childbirth.

I did not experience a robust maternal instinct towards the infant. There was a slight inclination, but it was not pronounced.

It is important to note that due to the temporary location of the fetus within the uterus and the presence of relatively strong pregnancy symptoms, it is not uncommon for mothers to not yet experience strong feelings towards the fetus. However, upon the birth of the infant, many mothers report a profound sense of love and appreciation for their child, which often outweighs any initial feelings of uncertainty or apprehension.

It is unclear whether you have undergone a transabdominal ultrasound examination, but this can provide an approximate idea of the appearance of your baby. It is worth noting that when your baby is born, if you compare the ultrasound image with your baby, they will appear almost identical. This is a remarkable phenomenon. It is therefore important to accept your current emotional state towards your baby. Sometimes, simply stroking your abdomen and talking to your baby can convey your emotions to them.

Given the demanding schedules of my husband and parents, I do not believe it would be appropriate to burden them with additional tasks. However, even if I were to do so, I would not expect them to perform any tasks beyond their already demanding schedules.

It is not possible to alter the physical discomfort.

Although family members cannot physically share the pain, they can psychologically support the pregnant woman. This is not an onerous task; it is simply a matter of offering assistance. It is important for the pregnant woman to communicate her needs and discomfort. In some cases, simply discussing these issues can alleviate a significant portion of the negative emotions.

It is also worth noting that engaging in discourse with others on this platform can assist in regulating one's mood, particularly in the event of experiencing confusion or pent-up emotions.

#I am unable to maintain a healthy diet during this period, and I lack the motivation to engage in shopping activities. How can I navigate the challenges of pregnancy with minimal distress? #

It is not uncommon for taste preferences to change during pregnancy. One can search for recipes and other information on dietary options for pregnant women online. Visual aids, such as images of food, can also be used to stimulate appetite. It is advisable to try a variety of foods to ascertain preferences. For instance, a woman who previously consumed a diet with minimal flavor may develop an interest in foods with stronger tastes after becoming pregnant. It is beneficial to experiment with foods that differ from one's usual preferences.

Emotions can exert a significant influence on behavior. It is therefore recommended that pregnant women engage in activities that promote relaxation, such as listening to soothing music.

Furthermore, reading parenting books and learning about the nutritional needs of the infant at this developmental stage can also help to alleviate stress. Additionally, it is beneficial to research essential baby products and items required during confinement, which can help to ensure preparedness.

I had written a considerable amount before I was aware of it. It is my hope that by responding to these queries, I can assist you in feeling better. The infant in your womb also desires a happy and joyful mother. I believe it must have taken a considerable amount of time for him to select you as his mother. It is important to take care of yourself! I look forward to your feedback.

Hello, questioner. I am Yang Yiqing, a listener on the Yi Xinli platform and also a pregnant mother-to-be. I can chat with you and provide you with warm company and help.

1. We are all the same.

I'm in the third trimester now, and the pregnant women I know are full of complaints and negative emotions during this time. You are not alone, and you don't need to worry about these emotions. I want to say that these emotions are normal.

Pregnancy is a transformative experience for women. I'm seven months pregnant and still adjusting to this new reality. Here's a list of the situations we're facing, or things you may encounter in the future:

1. Our lives have been forced to change too much.

Pregnancy brings about many changes that can make us feel out of control, especially when it comes to our lives, relationships, and bodies. It's a challenging feeling, but we can adapt.

2. You want a lot of care, and you know you can take care of yourself.

Pregnancy is a family affair, but the pain and other small things in life are only about you. This relationship seems contradictory, but it's also reasonable. We all want more care and companionship from others, but even if someone is willing to do a lot for you, only you can truly understand what you want.

This feeling is like a fish bone stuck in the throat, suffocating and uncomfortable.

3. You can't express physical discomfort, but you can't cure it either.

I was still suffering from the pain of gestational cholecystitis when I answered your question. This can only be treated conservatively due to pregnancy. Many other people have high blood sugar and high blood pressure during pregnancy, which may endanger the lives of both the baby and themselves.

Let me be clear: your pain is not a "minor problem." Most pregnant women experience this kind of indescribable and untreatable pain.

This pain is a constant reminder of the damage pregnancy has caused to our bodies and the price we have paid.

You may not be able to love your baby, feel pessimistic about life, or have much energy left to do other things or even be happy. It is already difficult to maintain a stable state of mind.

4. I am derailed from normal life.

Pregnancy often leads to a drastic reduction in social activities and a shift in lifestyle. Many people stop working and rarely go out to dinner. They spend most of their time at home, which can result in a lack of makeup and dressing up. This change in routine can be challenging, and some may even feel like they've transformed into a different person.

But there is nothing I can do about it.

5. The pain is overshadowed by the identity of "mother."

I'm sure you've heard the saying, "Pregnancy is like this, which one doesn't hurt?" Despite this, it still feels like you're not being understood. Thinking too much seems like being pretentious, but you can't escape the pain deep inside yourself, as if you were on an island.

6. "I do not have a strong maternal instinct towards this child."

I once had the same doubts. I wanted to know if every pregnant woman feels a strong sense of motherly love and what that is like.

I want to know why I can't feel it. Am I being selfish?

Later, when I was having the 4D scan, I experienced a "near miss" that gave me a little connection with the baby in my belly. However, as time went on, that feeling of connection was overtaken by the pain in real life.

I want to be clear that everyone is like this, and some people even find it impossible to fall in love with their child for a year after giving birth. Everyone's ability to accept a "sudden" baby who even has a strong attachment to you is different.

7. Fear of the future

Pregnancy represents an important identity transformation for a woman, from a young girl to a mother. This transformation is unfamiliar and even frightening for those who are pregnant for the first time. However, it is something that can be done.

We may not know how to live as a mother, even though there are millions of role models in the world. That doesn't matter. We are still the unique one. We may find it hard to imagine "selfless maternal love" and even reject it a little. We may also be a little worried about the "responsibilities" of being a mother and unable to let go of our past lives.

The fear and panic gradually become clear as the belly grows day by day, as if being pushed along by the pregnancy.

2. We can do something like this.

You can do this. It will be okay. Positive mental suggestion

Look at yourself in the mirror and say, "You're going to become a mother." Or speak to your baby in your womb as a mother.

These behaviors help us embrace our identity, confronting our reality rather than avoiding it. This is an effective way to resolve the conflict between body and mind.

Keep a diary.

Pregnancy is not easy, and it would be a waste not to record it. I didn't write much either. I bought a small tiger's planner and wrote two or three pages, but they were all written when I was having a breakdown or feeling particularly bad and confused. I don't know what my child will think when he grows up and reads them, but I'm sure it will be a wake-up call.

You should definitely try keeping a diary.

You need to find an organization or one or two pregnant women you can chat with to relieve boredom.

There are pregnancy groups on apps. Find one and join in the sharing and chatting. I really like our group. Everyone is very real and warm.

Find a pregnant woman or two you can talk to, preferably someone of the same gestational age. This way, you'll have someone to empathize with and understand when each antenatal check-up or period arrives.

Don't let yourself be left alone. Go find some warm hugs!

Create an environment full of energy.

Buy flowers, some lightly scented aromatherapy, or some small objects that make you happy and place them in your room. This will give you a lot of energy. Also, rearrange your room!

Develop an interest.

During my pregnancy, I picked up oil pastels (I only painted once), books (I read a lot), and recently, I learned crocheting with my mother. I dove headlong into the world of crocheting and couldn't extricate myself. When I had cholecystitis and was in pain, crocheting was the only thing that kept me company.

You should definitely do some simple handicrafts, such as kneading clay, making small dolls, and making a baby quilt. There are also many material packs online for making small hats and shoes for babies.

I know it's tough, but if you can find a pregnant woman who will do crafts with you, it'd be great!

You must learn to release your emotions.

If you have emotions, don't hold them in. Let them out, even if it means crying. Learning how to release emotions freely during pregnancy is a skill.

Free writing is the best way to release emotions. It's like keeping a diary, but free writing is more flexible, and you don't have to worry about format or content – just write whatever comes to mind.

Find a professional companion. There are many listeners on this platform, and they will always be there for you.

Forgive yourself.

Don't put too much pressure on yourself. Let go of those obsessions in your mind, such as your previous state of life, a body that doesn't hurt, the pressure of motherhood, etc. Be aware of yourself. See what thoughts are making you so miserable. Learn to let go.

You've got this! Give yourself a break, pregnancy is exhausting, let those thoughts come and go! Just make it simple and casual for yourself and get through this stage!

You've got this! Pregnancy is tough, but you're already a warrior on the battlefield. You've got this!

If you have any questions, come and talk to me. I'm here for you.