There has always been a feeling of depression, and it remained the same after the end of the high school entrance exam. How do I get rid of it?

Hello!

I can feel it. The questioner has always felt strong internal pressure in their lives, and this pressure can always cause discomfort. But don't worry! Most people deal with it by choosing to ignore the "small" things that don't seem like a big deal. But once emotional regulation gets out of control, you can feel a lot of anxiety and panic.

I'd really love to know why I'm so sensitive and "fragile."

I've been feeling unhappy for a long time and I'm not sure why. I feel a bit oppressed. This is still the case now that the exams are over. I'd love to know how I can get out of this state!

This has been going on since summer vacation in the third year of junior high school. It's been pretty rough! I used to think it was just because of the pressure of the third year of junior high school. Now that the middle school entrance exam is over, it's still the same. Sometimes, when I don't do well in an exam or don't master difficult knowledge points, I'll feel dizzy and have difficulty breathing, especially in mathematics.

I still have this problem now, too. Sometimes I just want to cry for no reason at all.

She had a few little breakdowns at school, bless her heart. She was often in a state where she wanted to cry but couldn't.

If I can just take a moment to step out of my own shoes and look at things from a third-person perspective, what's the first feeling that comes up for me? It's often a sense of confusion. And that's okay! It just means that I might need to recognize that some of my emotional needs haven't been expressed and met, which can lead to emotional expression problems and physical discomfort.

For example, a friend of mine often had an unnatural expression on her face. Whenever I asked her

"Hey, are you feeling down about something?"

She always replies, "I'm fine, I'm fine, thank you."

However, it wasn't long before she showed signs of discontent again. Whenever she became aware of these feelings, she would cleverly escape them. So she had difficulty truly realizing the emotions behind her unhappiness. In fact, she felt "hurt" or "suspicious" because of some of my non-targeted expressions, so she had strong emotional swings. But if she doesn't express them, it is difficult for the listener to realize the problem at first.

It's so important to remember that sensitivity and fragility are just part of who we are. We all express them in different ways, and that's totally normal! The most important thing is to acknowledge it and learn how to accept it better, without it seriously affecting our state.

So, it's really helpful for the questioner to be aware of their emotions. This helps them to get rid of bad, negative emotions in time by being aware, and instead adjust their perception, guide themselves with positive emotions, and break through the current predicament.

1. When you're facing a challenge, it's always a good idea to start with some emotional regulation.

When it comes to emotions, we often think that controlling them is the way to manage them. But even if this isn't true, it can still lead to anxiety when we lose control. We might want to try to control the situation to prevent an emotional breakdown. But a better solution is to first separate emotions from things. Then, you can regulate and calm your emotions before dealing with the matter. This will help you handle things better!

Let's take an exam as an example. When you're faced with a big test, your first reaction might be to feel a bit overwhelmed. It's totally normal to feel a bit nervous before an exam! But if you try to push down your feelings, they can start to take over. It's like you're holding back a flood of emotions. So, what can you do to calm down? First, take a deep breath. Then, remind yourself that you're capable of doing well on the exam. You've got this!

2. Find someone you trust and talk to them.

It doesn't matter if this person is a close friend or even a friend at all. It could be a cat, an unknown listener, a parent, or a caregiver. As long as you can communicate in a safe and trusting environment, you'll be able to relieve your inner pain. You might feel abandoned because you've cut off your connection with the outside world and imprisoned yourself with negative thinking.

Talking to someone is a wonderful way to feel a long-lost sense of relief and freedom.

3. Focus on something that can keep your attention focused.

It's totally normal to lose interest in things you usually enjoy when you're feeling down. When you're in a low mood, it's important to give yourself a little extra encouragement and help yourself recharge. Try to be kinder to yourself and avoid being too hard on yourself. Focus on things that can keep your attention and gradually, you'll start to feel better.

It's totally normal for us all to have low moods from time to time. We're all in this together, longing for more encouragement and sharing of love. So, there's no need to put too much pressure on yourself or set too many demands. Learn to relax first. When you're feeling low, let yourself "play" for a while and remember that the ups and downs of life are a very normal thing, and you'll be just fine. Oh~^_^

I'm rooting for you! Keep up the great work!

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Dear Sir/Madam, Thank you for your post. I have carefully read your post and observed that you are feeling depressed. From your post, I can see that you are experiencing a number of issues, including feeling that you care too much about others, that no one likes you, that you have broken up with your best friend, and that you feel abandoned in a family with a sibling combination. I empathise with you, as I am a sensitive person who is always afraid that what I say in my study and life is inappropriate. Please let me know your thoughts on this information. I believe that your depression may be related to

My name is Zeng Chen, and I am a heart exploration coach. I have carefully read the post and observed that the poster is depressed.

Furthermore, I note that you have proactively engaged with the platform to seek assistance, which will undoubtedly facilitate a deeper understanding of your inner self and enhance your ability to adapt and thrive.

I will now share my observations and thoughts on the post, which may help the poster to consider the situation from a more diverse perspective.

1. Determine the root cause of the depression.

From the aforementioned post, it is evident that the individual in question displays a tendency to care deeply for others, a persistent sense of isolation and rejection, and a history of significant interpersonal relationships, including the dissolution of a close friendship. Additionally, there seems to be a perception of being left alone and misunderstood within the context of a family dynamic involving siblings. As a sensitive individual, I recognize the importance of carefully considering my words and actions, particularly in the context of my studies and personal life.

You may feel particularly pretentious, yet also very proud.

Please provide your thoughts on the matter. It is my assessment that the depression you are experiencing may be related to the aforementioned information.

It appears that you prioritize meeting the needs of others over your own, and that you are overly cautious, concerned that you may say something inappropriate.

This is often the case when individuals are unable to be true to themselves and proceed with caution. Over time, this can result in a sense of oppression.

Your belief that you are not liked for who you truly are, coupled with your concern about being abandoned, impedes your ability to live your authentic self. Instead, you tend to live up to the expectations of others who approve of your actions and behaviors.

2. Attempt to express your emotions in a reasonable manner.

As noted in the original post, the host indicated a strong interest in writing. This is an excellent hobby to pursue.

Similarly, the original poster may also be able to more effectively convey their emotions through written communication. As observed in the post, the original poster has indicated a tendency to experience spontaneous instances of emotional distress.

I experienced a number of instances where I was overcome with emotion and shed tears at school. There were also occasions when I felt the urge to cry but was unable to do so.

This may be related to your repressed emotions. One solution is to try reasonably expressing your emotions by keeping a mood diary. This has three benefits.

Firstly, you can listen to and sort out your emotions. Secondly, your emotions will be reasonably expressed, which may result in their alleviation or even disappearance. Thirdly, it helps you better explore and understand yourself, become aware of what emotions you are feeling, and identify the underlying needs.

It is important to note that the objective of maintaining a mood diary is to document one's experiences. There is no need to be overly concerned with the specifics of the content or the rationale behind it. Simply document your feelings, thoughts, and emotions, and you can even inquire about your current mood and the factors influencing it.

These techniques can assist you in exploring and understanding yourself more effectively.

3. Accept your authentic self.

As observed in the aforementioned post, there seems to be a tendency for individuals to prioritize the opinions of others over their own needs and expectations. This often manifests as a desire for external validation and a reluctance to prioritize self-care.

It is important to understand that if we do not like ourselves, it is unlikely that others will like us. Similarly, if we do not respect our own feelings, it is also unlikely that others will respect us.

To like and respect oneself, one must first accept the self as it is, accept the parts of the self that cannot be changed, focus on the parts that can be changed, accept shortcomings, and recognize strengths.

It is important to focus on one's strengths and allow oneself to excel. When we accept ourselves, we become more confident and powerful.

I hope these words have been of some assistance and inspiration to you.

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance.

One may discern a profound inner longing to be perceived, accepted, affirmed, approved of, understood, listened to, accompanied, and supported.

Indeed, depression, sensitivity, fear, and abandonment stem from an internal inferiority and lack of self-acceptance that are often overlooked. This lack of awareness hinders the ability to affirm, accept, and support oneself, leading to the inadvertent placement of expectations for internal needs on external others. In relationships, individuals may intentionally hide, suppress, or even sacrifice their legitimate needs, particularly when the words and actions of others cause distress. However, they may lack the courage to express their true feelings and needs, driven by a desire to maintain relationship harmony through a lack of desire, empathy, thoughtfulness, and a need to be needed. This may be an attempt to alleviate fear and anxiety associated with being disliked, rejected, and abandoned.

What are your thoughts on this matter?

It is essential to recognize that a harmonious and enduring relationship necessitates that each individual in the relationship is able to be authentic and express their needs. This is because a relationship will only be healthy and long-lasting when the rewards each person in the relationship receives are balanced with the contributions they make. As a complex individual with diverse emotions and needs, it is crucial to be seen, supported, and responded to in the relationship. When one's needs and expectations are persistently ignored and not addressed over an extended period, it can lead to feelings of frustration and anger. These feelings may stem from a sense of being overlooked, undervalued, uncared for, misunderstood, or unsupported. Additionally, when these emotions are not recognized or addressed, it can result in a lack of understanding and self-acceptance, which in turn, may hinder one's ability to respond to these emotions in a constructive manner.

An emotional diary can be a useful tool for recording the accumulated pressure from studying and the feelings of injustice and pain caused by a lack of understanding and support in interpersonal relationships. This can help individuals to better understand and manage their emotional experiences, needs, and responses. It can also provide a safe and constructive way to make emotions visible, express them, and release them. By engaging in self-reflection through writing, individuals can connect with their emotions and cultivate self-awareness and self-care.

For example, one might attempt to communicate to one's family and friends the painful emotional feelings and needs that one is experiencing, thereby seeking and gaining their strong emotional support. This will help one to understand that one is not alone, that one has not been abandoned, and that one is loved. As long as one is willing to give others a chance, one should try to accept the help and support of others.

Concurrently, one should endeavor to learn how to treat oneself in a manner that is consistent with one's own values and expectations. This process begins with an effort to accept oneself, to cultivate self-confidence, and to enhance one's sense of self-worth. One may facilitate this process by making a list of one's strengths, which can provide a constructive perspective on one's shortcomings and highlight one's positive attributes.

One may cultivate self-confidence and enhance one's sense of self-worth by maintaining a gratitude journal. Additionally, developing a multitude of interests and passions can facilitate a more fulfilling life, allowing one to assume greater control over their circumstances.

For example, one might cultivate an outdoor sport that suits them, read their favorite books, and better perceive and express their emotions through the practice of deep breathing and meditation.

It is my hope that the information I have provided will prove beneficial and assist you in some way.

You have mentioned that you have been feeling depression/the-sense-of-deprivation-makes-me-unhappy-with-anyone-feeling-unable-to-be-myself-isnt-it-hard-11450.html" target="_blank">unhappy for quite some time, and that you are unsure of the cause. You also describe a sense of oppression. Now that the middle school entrance exam is over, you still feel the same way. You have asked for advice on how to improve your situation.

Firstly, it is important to avoid labelling yourself or making a diagnosis. You mentioned that since the summer vacation before your junior year of high school, you have been experiencing feelings of depression. You feel dizzy and have difficulty breathing when you don't do well on an exam or when you don't master a subject. You find yourself crying for no reason, your sleep quality is poor, you have no interest in calligraphy, you are sensitive, you care about what other people think, you feel pretentious and proud, and you have the thought of disappearing. You don't think you have depression, and you say that a depressed state cannot last this long.

It is not uncommon to feel a sense of shame about depression, as if it is an illness that is difficult to talk about. However, it is important to remember that many people experience depressed moods. Whether or not you have depression or depressed moods is not for you to decide. It is always a good idea to consult with a specialist hospital and find a professional doctor to make a diagnosis.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to try to understand yourself, love yourself, and care for yourself. It seems that you always care about others, worry that no one likes you, and are afraid of being abandoned, which causes you to put yourself in a position where you have to take care of others. It is also possible that you have a lot of emotions inside, such as resentment, anger, sadness, and helplessness.

It would be beneficial to consider taking care of your own feelings as well as those of others. It is also important to express your own feelings and to be seen and to see your own emotions or feelings, and to allow the emotions to flow.

Additionally, it is possible that if you do not perform well on an exam or do not fully grasp a subject, you may experience feelings of dizziness or difficulty breathing. This could be due to your tendency to be overly critical of yourself when you do not meet your expectations. It might be helpful to focus on your efforts, acknowledge your contributions, give yourself more credit, and allow yourself some leeway.

It might be helpful to find a counselor or go to a hospital to find a psychotherapist to help relieve the emotional pressure inside. This could be a way to explore your inner needs without attacking yourself. It might also be beneficial to consider why you put so much pressure on yourself, why you are afraid of being abandoned, and why you care about other people. These are all important questions to think about.

I wish you the best of luck!