Together for over a year, why can't he bear it every time we argue and he suggests breaking up with me?

Greetings, host.

In addition to sweetness, the taste of love also exhibits a sour, vinegar-like quality. These characteristics are indicative of mutual care.

It is not difficult to comprehend the behavior of the boyfriend. The question of who likes whom more and who is more jealous is a pertinent one.

It can be reasonably assumed that, regardless of the circumstances, when the other person is of the opposite sex, any verbal communication will be perceived as negative.

Your boyfriend is employing a strategy of emotional distancing and disregard to garner your attention.

The behavior may be likened to that of a child who is ignored by their parents, becoming sullen and silent, yet secretly longing for their mother's embrace and solace.

The boyfriend's current behavior may be largely related to the personality formed during his childhood.

It is reasonable to posit that, at this juncture, the girlfriend of the landlord will endeavor to console her boyfriend and facilitate reconciliation, thereby fostering a more harmonious relationship.

It is, however, not implausible that a state of cold war may eventually ensue as a result of such actions.

It is possible that the hostess may be able to tolerate such behavior on one or two occasions. However, if it occurs with greater frequency, the individual who consistently strives to make the other person happy may eventually become exhausted.

If one or both partners in a relationship fail to reciprocate the other's efforts to maintain a harmonious dynamic, it can result in feelings of frustration and impatience. In the absence of mutual accommodation, the relationship may eventually reach a point of dissolution.

The most optimal relationship for two individuals to establish is one in which each person is able to fully accept the other's identity and characteristics, without imposing their own expectations or demands upon the other.

I am simply who I am, and the other person is similarly able to tolerate me in my current state of being.

In a relationship, or in marriage, the only way to ensure a long-lasting partnership is to be able to be oneself and to maintain a positive attitude towards the relationship.

It is not a matter of attempting to alter the other person's deficiencies, of being unable to tolerate the other person, or of harboring resentment toward the other person, and then subjecting them to mistreatment with the aim of modifying their behavior.

Such a relationship can be described as a relationship of mutual depletion. There is no definitive right or wrong; rather, it is a question of who is more depleted than the other.

Ultimately, whether being in love makes someone better or worse is a subjective experience that only the individual in the relationship can truly ascertain.

It is advisable to identify a mutually agreeable method of coexistence and to endeavour to adopt a more empathetic perspective, contemplating the other person's viewpoint with greater frequency and depth.

It is essential to acknowledge and appreciate each other's strengths while simultaneously demonstrating tolerance for each other's weaknesses.

Ultimately, I extend my best wishes to the original poster and her boyfriend.

The month of June evokes a sense of warmth and affection, prompting me to express my love and appreciation for the world around me.

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

It can feel pretty unfair when you feel like you're not being understood.

When you have a conflict with your boyfriend, his attitude towards your response hurts you deeply. You didn't choose to express your true feelings at that moment. His attitude hurts you, makes you feel misunderstood and unloved. You want him to do something so that you can feel his understanding, acceptance and love.

It's important to be aware of what you're afraid of behind your choice to suppress and hide your true emotions. For example, are you afraid of being rejected, of being denied, of being rejected, of being denied? Does it mean that you're unloved and abandoned? And you're unable to accept and face this part of you because it may mean that you're bad and not good enough?

How others treat you in a relationship is largely determined by what you teach them. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you. When you habitually repress, hide, deny, and ignore your true emotions, your attitude towards yourself will suggest and guide others that you can be treated casually because you won't get hurt.

The boyfriend will often suggest breaking up when there are conflicts because it allows him to respond to his inner need to be valued and cared for. In other words, when he says this, you'll be more likely to give him the comfort, understanding, acceptance, and tolerance he's seeking. What do you think?

So, his casual mention of breaking up is basically a way for him to exert control over you.

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.