Uncertain about what is missing in life, not happy enough, life feels meaningless, without a goal?

Hello! I can see you!

I can see that you're feeling confused, and I admire your tolerance and acceptance of your family. I also know that the most important thing you can do is focus on yourself. Instead of trying to convince yourself that "contentment is happiness" and suppressing your feelings, or projecting anxiety and hoping for a better change in your children and husband, I think your question is very clear-headed and courageous.

It's totally normal to still feel a sense of deprivation and unhappiness despite having good living conditions and a good family. It's also totally normal to feel the need to explore what life is all about and what happiness really means to you.

It's not so much about the answer to the question, but more about the way you think about it.

1. I totally get where you're coming from when you say you're unhappy. I think we can all relate to that feeling of being lost and unsure of what we truly want in life.

What is happiness? Well, in my opinion, happiness is a state of life with hope.

When there's hope, even if things are tough and the work is physically demanding, you'll feel happy and content. But when there's no goal in sight, even if you're surrounded by luxury and fun every night, you'll still feel lost inside. This is just as the American "Lost Generation" author F. Scott Fitzgerald described in "The Great Gatsby."

I totally get where you're coming from. I agree with you that I feel unhappy about what you said, which may be a lack of goal expression.

2. Here's a way to find a goal when you're lost.

I really hope I can help you find a goal when you're lost. I'd love to share a way that I've found to do this, and I hope it can help you too!

Recently, I was faced with the prospect of leaving my job. I wasn't sure what I would do after leaving, so I was a little hesitant to go. I needed a goal! So I started writing "100 things I want to do after leaving my job." What I wrote at the beginning might have been very general, like "read for half an hour every day" for items 1-10. As I wrote, I found that the goals became more and more specific. For example, for items 20-30, I might write down specific categories of books to read. Later on, I might even get into which books!

I've found that when you write down 100 items, you'll feel a strong sense of purpose and be able to refine what you can do in the moment. It's such an amazing experience, and I'll definitely be doing this when I'm feeling lost. I'd love to share it with you!

I really hope this perspective helps you, my friend! Warm regards!

Dear friend, I empathize with your predicament. There are instances in life when one experiences a sense of incompleteness, yet is unable to identify the source. This phenomenon may arise from a tendency to embrace the status quo, coupled with a lack of structured plans or future objectives.

Facing the confusion and uncertainty of life is an emotional state that many people may experience at some point in their lives. As you have indicated, your family life is stable, which provides you with a solid foundation. However, this stability may also contribute to a sense that life lacks new challenges and passion.

An "existential crisis" is defined as a profound sense of confusion and unease that an individual may experience when confronted with the fundamental questions of life, such as its meaning, purpose, and value. This crisis can emerge for a multitude of reasons, including personal growth, career development, and shifts in interpersonal relationships.

This state of mind may be related to an individual's need for self-realization. According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory, self-realization represents the highest level of human needs, signifying the drive to actualize one's potential and creativity.

A sense of purposelessness may be indicative of an inner drive for self-actualization and creativity.

The sentiment of lacking direction and fulfillment is a common experience. Perceived inadequacy does not signify failure; rather, it indicates a pursuit of enhanced personal growth and fulfillment.

This represents a significant step in the process of self-discovery and self-realization. You have already taken the initial step of seeking assistance, which is a commendable action in itself.

You indicated that your children and husband are thriving, which suggests that your family life is relatively stable—a state that many people only aspire to achieve. However, you perceive a lack of purpose in your life, which may be due to the fulfillment of your fundamental family needs and the subsequent pursuit of deeper personal fulfillment and self-realization.

This is a typical phase of human development.

To address this, it would be beneficial to invest time in self-discovery, including an exploration of one's interests, passions, values, and long-term aspirations. One approach could be to compile a list of past experiences that have brought joy, or to identify any long-held desires that have yet to be fulfilled.

At times, rekindling a passion may result in the discovery of a new purpose in life. Once a more precise understanding of one's interests and values has been achieved, it becomes possible to establish both short-term and long-term goals.

These goals may be professional, personal growth-related, or health-related. Attaining smaller goals will provide a sense of accomplishment and may lead to the discovery of a greater purpose in life.

It is important to note that change does not have to occur instantaneously. Rather, it can be a gradual process. It is also possible that one may encounter challenges and difficulties along the way.

It is important to seek assistance when needed. Staying in communication with family members and discussing one's feelings and the process of exploration can facilitate a supportive and understanding environment. During the process of identifying life goals, new interests and passions may emerge, or previously overlooked aspirations may be revisited.

This is a journey of self-discovery and self-realization that may yield unforeseen outcomes.

It is crucial to recognize that each individual's life rhythm and path are inherently distinct. It is, therefore, essential to identify a lifestyle and set of goals that align with one's unique needs and aspirations. While challenges may arise during this process, it is vital to acknowledge that every step forward is a reason for celebration and that each attempt represents an opportunity for growth and development.

I wish you the best of luck!

We all get lost in the comfort zone of life sometimes, even when everything around us seems perfect. It's totally normal to feel empty or dissatisfied inside, even if you have everything you need. This might be because you don't have a clear personal goal or passion yet. Don't worry, you can find your purpose and motivation in life! Here are some suggestions to help you on your way:

Take some time for yourself to think about your life and ask yourself what you really care about. Think about what you loved doing as a child and why.

What really gets your heart racing and makes you feel alive?

Hey there! We all need a little inspiration sometimes, and one of the best ways to find it is by trying new things. Whether it's learning a new language, trying a new sport, or joining a community activity, these experiences can bring new passions and inspiration into your life. So, go ahead and give it a try!

It's time to set some goals! These can be short-term and long-term goals. They can be about personal growth, career development, family life, health, and more.

It's so important to make sure that your goals are specific and measurable, so you can really see your progress!

Seek support: Share your feelings and confusion with friends and family. They're there for you and may be able to offer helpful advice and support, and help you find purpose and motivation in life.

If you're feeling confused or lost, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional counselor. They can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, identify underlying issues, and provide solutions.

Stay positive! Try to stay positive and believe that you can find a purpose and meaning in your life. Remember that change and growth take time, so don't rush the process. You've got this!

Remember, everyone has their own rhythm and path in life. It's so important to focus on finding your own goals and meaning, rather than comparing yourself to others.

I really hope you'll find your purpose and happiness in life soon!