Understand your psychological problems and how to improve an avoidant personality?

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing in response to your query. Kind regards,

It appears that you believe that your avoidant personality prevents you from developing deeper relationships in your personal life.

And the issue is suffering, is it not?

I am unaware of your age. Could you kindly provide the date you first identified this phenomenon in your interpersonal interactions?

If this pattern has been present since childhood and is consistent with your self-identity and understanding, and if it developed during your formative years after something

If the personality trait in question only manifested after an adverse event, it may not be indicative of avoidant personality disorder. Rather, it may be a consequence of traumatic experiences. To illustrate, consider instances where the individual was subjected to bullying or other forms of abuse during their formative years.

Such experiences as bullying, etc.

In general, an avoidant personality is closely tied to the formation of an attachment relationship with an early sense of insecurity.

The following section addresses the topic of relationships.

If an individual was subjected to neglectful caregiving or foster care during their early years (0-3 years old),

It is evident that TA has not established a satisfactory attachment with his mother, which has resulted in the formation of an attachment pattern that lacks a sense of security.

Due to the traumatic experience of being separated at an early age, they are unable to trust others as adults, which in turn hinders their ability to form intimate relationships.

The subconscious mind is prone to conflict when a connection is established with another person. On the one hand, there is a desire for intimate connection.

On the one hand, when proximity is established, there is a fear of abandonment.

Therefore, the relationship will remain superficial.

What is the best way to resolve this situation?

Firstly, it is important to be aware of conflicts that may arise in interpersonal relationships. When such conflicts occur, it is helpful to identify the emotional feelings involved.

It is also important to understand the underlying need that is driving the emotion.

Secondly, it is important to recognize one's own negative, automatic thoughts and to understand that one is now an independent individual.

It is important to recognize that one's current self is not the same as the self from earlier years. The defenses used in childhood and adolescence are not necessarily the most effective in dealing with the pressures of adulthood.

It is also recommended to allow the inner child to emerge more frequently and to demonstrate to this aspect of the psyche that it is capable of accepting all.

It would be beneficial to encourage him more and allow for a gradual maturation process.

Finally, develop your ability to empathize. Attempt to experience the same emotions and feelings from the other person's perspective.

It is important to be able to express this aspect of yourself. When you empathize with others, you will naturally also receive empathy and acceptance from them, which will lead to a better working relationship.

It is essential to establish trust between all parties involved.

Given the limited scope of the data presented, the above analysis and suggestions are intended as a reference point only.

This is Consultant Yao, continuing to support and assist you.

Dear friend, Thank you for your question.

You have posed a particularly thought-provoking question. After reading your question, I took the time to carefully read the answers from all the teachers and reflect on them for a long time.

How might an avoidant personality break the pattern of expecting intimacy but fearing being too intimate?

It is worth noting that each of us can be considered to fall into one of these four categories. Based on statistical analysis, it can be said that only one quarter of the population can be considered to have a secure personality type. This means that the majority of people we encounter are likely to be insecure. When we consider the fear of war that has existed throughout history, the material scarcity and spiritual deprivation that are prevalent in the information age, it seems likely that the number of insecure personalities will continue to grow. Those who are insecure often seek a sense of security, and this can also be a significant challenge.

It can be said that the main issue with both insecure and secure personalities is a sense of insecurity.

It is commonly understood that a sense of security is shaped by our perception of what is safe and what is not, as well as by the actions of those around us. Our emotional response to these perceptions is often automatic.

It is commonly understood that a sense of security is shaped by our perception of what is safe and what is not, as well as by the actions of those around us. Our emotional response to these perceptions is often automatic.

It would be beneficial for us to understand the formation of personality in order to be able to do something targeted for ourselves.

Early childhood experiences include parents who respond to their children's needs in different ways. Some parents actively respond to their children's normal needs, while others ignore their children's crying, scold and complain about their children's troubles, or hit and scold their children. These parenting styles can lead to the formation of different personality patterns in children, including those who are secure, avoidant, anxious, or fearful.

It would be beneficial to understand why some parents may find it challenging to respond positively to their children's needs.

1. Some parents may have misconceptions about education. For instance, they may believe that responding to their children's needs means indulging them, which could potentially result in frequent crying and tantrums.

Some parents may blame or complain when their children cry, assuming that it is a sign of unhappiness or bad behavior. Similarly, some parents resort to hitting or scolding their children in an attempt to instill obedience.

2. It is also possible that the parents themselves may have an insecure personality. Those with an insecure personality may also lack a sense of security. If we were to trace it back further, it is likely that the grandparents would also have an insecure personality.

3. It is possible that false perceptions and the insecurity that stems from them are passed down from generation to generation.

How might our personalities be formed?

If I might make a suggestion,

If parents respond to us in a positive manner, we may come to feel that we are lovely and valuable, and that we are always safe.

It is important to remember that despite our efforts to communicate our needs and desires, our parents may not always respond in the way we expect. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, a sense of being worthless, and anxiety, which can manifest as an anxious personality.

If our parents were consistently critical and punitive, we might develop a sense of inadequacy and become fearful, with a tendency to avoid confrontation.

How might we begin to break this pattern?

How might we find a way to break free from this?

It is thought that avoidant personality and other insecure personality types are all personality patterns based on early cognitive development. It is generally accepted that every baby is cute when they are born, and that parents' educational perceptions have formed different parenting and educational styles. This different approach has led us to form different perceptions of ourselves, but it is important to remember that in fact we are all cute when we are born, and that each of us is inherently cute.

Perhaps the first step is to consider how we perceive ourselves. We could say that we are cute and valuable. If at any moment we feel that we are not cute, it might be helpful to recognize that this could be a misunderstanding.

Perhaps we could start by trying to reshape our perception of ourselves. We could try to see ourselves as cute and valuable. If we ever feel that we are not cute, we could try to recognize that this might be a misunderstanding.

It is important to remember that we are all inherently lovable.

Secondly, it is important to love and care for ourselves in the same way that we would love and care for others. When we are feeling low, it can be helpful to take a moment to listen to our hearts. When we are feeling frustrated, we can give ourselves comfort. When we are feeling sad, it can be beneficial to allow ourselves to cry.

It can be challenging to love yourself. If possible, consider seeking out a friend with a secure personality and engaging in positive interactions with them to help reshape your perception of yourself.

If you are financially well off, you may wish to consider finding a suitable professional counselor who can help you regain a sense of security.

I understand that rebuilding a sense of security is not an easy task and requires long-term cultivation. With that in mind, I suggest you consider creating a way to express your emotions. Some people listen to music, some dance, some write things down, some exercise, and so on. It's important to remember that any expression of negative emotions should be done in a positive way, because when negative emotions are expressed positively, your heart will feel cared for.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to consider ways of expressing your emotions in a positive way. Some people find that listening to music, dancing, writing, or exercising helps them to feel more in control of their feelings.

If I might humbly offer my perspective, I believe that finding security for yourself is an important step in overcoming the challenges you're facing in your intimate relationship.

And finally, may I take this opportunity to remind you that the world and I love you.

And finally, I would like to take a moment to remind you that the world and I love you.

Hello!

You know that you have an avoidant personality, which means that you crave intimacy but also feel anxious about it. It's clear that you've tried really hard to overcome this anxiety.

It's so hard to break free from this control, isn't it? No matter how hard they try, they just can't seem to find a way out. It's so distressing and uncomfortable, and it's only natural to seek help when you're feeling this way.

1⃣️ Characteristics of an avoidant personality

Many of us carry a basic anxiety from childhood that can make us feel isolated and lonely. We might also feel distrustful and hostile towards others. One way to cope is to withdraw and avoid contact with others, which can feel like the best way to protect ourselves.

This personality type feels insecure in their surroundings, so when you have to interact with other people, as long as they break your safe distance, they will feel anxious and have a deep sense of insecurity. It's totally normal to feel this way! It can even trigger some pretty serious physical reactions.

The more they try to get close to people, the more they feel that they might be hurt. It's a very understandable feeling!

2⃣️ Submissive personality

I feel lonely and weak inside, and I feel safe only when I am protected. That's why I'm willing to get close to others and hope to have a dependent relationship with them. I keep thinking that if someone loves me, I'll feel safe.

3⃣ Conflict and anxiety It's totally normal to feel conflicted and anxious sometimes. We all do!

People with avoidant personality traits often feel unsafe in the world, which can make them distance themselves from interpersonal interactions. They may even compulsively isolate themselves, which can make them afraid of getting close to others. But deep down, they feel lonely and long to be loved. They hope that someone can be relied upon and willing to get close to others. They'll only feel safe when they feel that someone can rely on them and love them.

It's so hard when these two needs are so different and can't be reconciled. They can feel like they're controlling you, but you can get through this!

It's totally normal to feel lonely when you want to keep yourself safe and away from others. And it's also normal to feel insecure when you get close to someone because your sense of security is broken. These feelings are all about protecting yourself. When one of these needs is satisfied, the other is suppressed, and suppression leads to anxiety.

4⃣️ What should I do?

When you can clearly see for yourself how your own pattern of protecting yourself is destroying your relationships and damaging your intimacy, and only when you are determined to solve the problem, believing that with long-term effort, the two personalities can be harmonized and no longer conflict, then you can live a free, unregulated intimate relationship.

Even though the questioner knows that his problems may have come from his family of origin and is aware of his painful current situation, he still doesn't fully see how his protective mechanism has hurt him. It's only when he sees clearly and no longer allows himself to fall into the trap he has set for himself that he can slowly work his way out. This requires long-term counseling and effort, but it'll all be worth it in the end!

Hello, questioner!

It's totally normal to crave intimacy, but when a relationship gets too close, it can feel really uncomfortable and you might start to avoid it. This can cause a lot of issues in your life, so it's great you're aware of your feelings and looking for ways to understand why. It's also really proactive of you to come to this platform to ask for help.

You've already done a great job of understanding your problems. Now it's time to find a solution!

To find a way, we just need to gain a deeper understanding of the underlying beliefs of this personality trait.

It's totally understandable why avoidant personalities are afraid of intimacy. They're afraid of being hurt, and it's only natural to feel that way. They might even believe that they don't deserve love or that they can't handle an intimate relationship.

To achieve a deep and intimate relationship, you will inevitably face some contradictions and conflicts. This is something that avoidant personalities often find challenging because it requires a lot of energy to face and resolve these issues. They are vulnerable and sensitive inside, and also have low self-esteem and pessimism.

This is something that many people with avoidant personalities have in common, but it's not true of everyone. These are just some examples that might help you.

We've provided some helpful methods to help you solve this problem.

First, accept yourself, my dear friend. Build your self-confidence, and you will be on your way to overcoming this problem.

It's totally normal to feel afraid when you lack confidence and feel unworthy.

It's so important to tell yourself, from the bottom of your heart, that nobody's perfect, that you're imperfect, that you're worthy of love, and that you deserve to be happy.

Second, be prepared to deal with conflicts in intimate relationships. We all know that these things happen, and it's how we handle them that matters!

It's totally normal for no two people to be perfect for each other. We're all different, and relationships take time to adjust. It's not about who is better or worse, it's about accepting each other for who we are and trying to find ways to meet each other's needs.

And finally, you should really try to deepen your understanding of yourself and others.

You know, you can read some psychology books to understand different personalities and the process of human psychological change and development. This will help you learn to treat yourself and others better, and it'll be worth it!

In your daily life, try to be more aware of yourself. For example, think about what kind of mood you're in at this time of day. Why do you feel this way?

It's so important to focus on self-awareness, but it's also really helpful to be aware of others too!

Hi, I'm Haru Aoki, and I just wanted to say that I love you, world!

Hello, question asker.

From your description, I can see that your experience of relationship frustration has made you feel uncomfortable. It seems that you want to change, but you don't have a good solution to the problem. You watch as your own problems repeat themselves, which unfortunately damages the relationships you have built. You watch as the people around you "get to know each other, become familiar, and grow apart." This is indeed an unpleasant experience.

I also see that you are aware of your own problems and are actively working to understand the causes and search for solutions. Additionally, you have a clearer insight into your feelings and are more sensitive to changes in relationships. These strengths will undoubtedly help in solving your problems. By constantly learning, understanding, and practicing what we have learned, I believe our problems will slowly be solved, thus building a satisfying and comfortable relationship network. Let's work together.

Perhaps we could now return to our initial question: what might we do to change our avoidant attachment?

1. Consider keeping a diary of bodily information.

Emotions and physical sensations are closely related, yet many of us tend to overlook this in our daily lives, particularly those of us who have been shaped by an avoidant attachment style. Those of us with avoidant attachment have likely become accustomed to relying on reason since childhood, which has led us to suppress our true emotional feelings. This can result in a separation between physical sensations and emotional sensations, making it challenging for us to understand and express our emotions. When interacting with others, we may find ourselves being overly rational, yet interpersonal communication is often an exchange of emotional sensations. By hiding our true emotions, we may inadvertently give the impression that we are not being truthful, which can make others feel that there is always a barrier between us. Over time, this can lead to a distance forming in our relationships.

It may be helpful for avoidant people to explore bodily sensations, observe and record changes in bodily information, understand their emotions in different situations, and try to express them.

Keeping a diary of bodily information could be a helpful way to create additional opportunities for us. It might allow our overly rational minds to perceive bodily sensations and emotions, and it could allow the true self to reveal itself under the armor of rationality. The process of recording could allow us to understand the real experiences brought to us by our own behavior patterns, and it could also allow us to understand which emotions in our daily lives are ignored. The process of experiencing and feeling these emotions could also be a way to reawaken our vitality.

2. Self-disclosure

In addition to understanding our emotional feelings, it can be helpful to actively express these emotions in front of important people. This may make people feel uncomfortable, especially for those with avoidant attachment styles. However, in order to build a closer relationship and make the other person feel accepted and trusted, it can be beneficial to understand and master the ways to express emotions. The process of practicing, testing, and correcting is an essential step for us to resolve problems.

If I might suggest, we could take this process one step at a time. On the one hand, "choosing what to reveal" can be done gradually, starting with the easier topics and moving on to the more challenging ones. On the other hand, "choosing who to reveal it to" should also be done gradually, starting with someone safe and trustworthy if possible, and slowly opening up to others within a safe and acceptable range, so as to ensure the effectiveness and sustainability of the change.

If you are struggling to find someone you can trust and are worried about damaging a relationship you value, it might be helpful to speak to a professional listener or counselor.

It is my sincere hope that you will find this information helpful.

Hello, host! I'm July, and I'm so happy to be here!

After reading your description, I totally get what you're asking. I'm here for you, so you can give me a hug in four dimensions anytime!

I really hope this understanding of how to improve an avoidant personality helps you in some way.

It's so important to remember that the formation of an avoidant personality is definitely closely related to the original family. This means that these types of people will avoid intimacy when they grow up because they did not experience a sense of security or healthy intimacy as a child.

It's so important to learn to express these feelings and thoughts more often. This is the only way to have a positive development in your relationship. And the more you experience a lack of trust and the idea that the people around you will always leave you, the more you will grow up with this. So, naturally, in this kind of environment, children who grow up will be afraid of intimate relationships when they grow up. This is because deep in the subconscious of these kinds of people, they always feel that they are not worthy of having a healthy intimate relationship. They always feel that they are not worthy, so there will be some escape and retreat from further deepening the intimate relationship.

I've also put together a few tips to help you cope with the situation. I really hope they'll be useful for you!

(1) Take it easy and don't rush! You've got this! Putting too much pressure on yourself is just going to make you feel bad.

(2) Once you know what your problem is, it will become relatively easier to solve. So try to give yourself more courage and slowly change your current situation. You've got this!

(3) Try to express your feelings and thoughts more often! Don't be afraid that the other person won't accept you. Instead, say that you need to learn to express these feelings and thoughts more often, because only if you express them more often will there be a positive development in your relationship.

(4) When it comes to getting closer, try to embrace it with courage. Don't let the relationship stop there or pull back. Instead, say that you should take the plunge into a more intimate relationship. Avoidance won't help anyone!

(5) It's okay to have flaws in your intimate relationships. Nobody's perfect, so don't be too hard on yourself!

(6) Try to have more trust and a sense of security in the environment and people you live with, rather than doubting the intentions of others too much. It's okay to accept the more intimate care and concern from others, right?

I love you, world! And I love you too! ?

Take care, my dear!

Good day. I can discern the anxiety you are experiencing. You desire intimacy, yet simultaneously, you are apprehensive about it, correct? I empathize with your circumstances. You have already taken the initiative by seeking assistance. I am confident that you will swiftly identify a solution to this predicament.

It is my hope that the questioner will be able to establish a harmonious and intimate relationship in the future.

1. "As the title suggests, I believe I may be an avoidant attachment personality and have a fear of intimacy. Upon reflection and with the benefit of hindsight, it seems that this kind of psychological issue has been a persistent challenge in my life and my interpersonal relationships. I formed a friendship and when the relationship was on the verge of developing further, I experienced feelings of unease and physical discomfort. At this juncture, I would hasten to disengage and retreat to a point where I felt more comfortable."

(1) Based on the description, it appears that the questioner is engaging in self-labeling. However, it's also possible that the questioner does not label herself. I do not believe that this is a psychological issue, but rather an opportunity for the questioner to enhance her current relationships. Does the questioner still feel significant pressure?

Please indicate whether you still have concerns.

(2) When the questioner wants to further develop the relationship, they feel physically uncomfortable. When did this discomfort begin? The questioner can take a moment to sit quietly in a room, slowly feel their body, and identify the source of their discomfort. What is this discomfort telling you?

If there are obvious emotions in the body, take a moment to breathe slowly and deeply, merge with your emotions, reflect on your past self as you grew up, and observe her. How old is she? What experiences has she had?

What were her feelings at the time? Reflect on your past self, interact with her physically, and express gratitude for her presence. Allow her to express her emotions, if she so chooses. Afterwards, convey your appreciation for her openness.

Please indicate whether the original poster feels better now.

2. "Not only friends, but also my family and even everyone I associate with. When it comes to further intimacy, I tend to avoid it. I have also researched relevant information and believe it is most likely related to my original family. Although I am aware of the issue, I am currently unable to propose a solution."

(1) Does the questioner allow himself to be in his current state? It may be beneficial to accept the status quo and accept oneself for who one is. When one can accept oneself, will one still worry about what other people think?

Accepting our own shortcomings allows us to feel more relaxed, which in turn reduces the pressure we experience when dealing with other people and things. This in turn leads to a happier and more confident you.

(2) In the process of interpersonal communication, it is essential to learn and understand others, read them, read their needs, read their feelings, etc., and know the information behind their words. When the questioner can do this, they will be able to communicate well with others and achieve mutual understanding. They will also be able to honestly express their feelings.

I believe that, whether it is family or other relationships, the questioner will be able to achieve this. It is a process that will take time, so there is no need to rush.

I hope you find this information useful.

Hello, I hope my answer is helpful to you.

First of all, I want to commend the landlord for being able to understand himself and learn relevant information. This is a great first step towards change. Based on your description, you seem to have an insecure attachment, and it seems like you might have an avoidant attachment pattern. Let's start by understanding attachment theory.

Attachment is about the special relationship between a child and a long-term caregiver (usually a parent) during childhood. It's a psychological tendency to seek intimacy with someone and feel safe when they're around, based on a stable, secure, and trusting emotional experience. Attachment isn't just about parent-child relationships or intimate relationships. It can also be about colleagues, classmates, or friends who make you feel at ease. Your attachment type affects this, but it's in intimate relationships that it's revealed more completely.

How babies are cared for when they're young affects how they form attachments, and these attachment styles stick with them throughout their lives. Ainsworth's stranger situation experiment showed that babies can be divided into three main groups based on their attachment styles: secure, avoidant, and ambivalent.

Later on, researchers used attachment theory to study adult romantic relationships. They found that there are four main types of attachment based on how anxious or avoidant people are in relationships. We often have a mix of different attachment types, rather than just one.

How we were raised and cared for as children affects how we relate to our partners and the patterns of intimacy in adulthood. Your attachment strategy is what makes your intimate relationships succeed or fail.

Why are you drawn to certain individuals? Why do you keep encountering similar challenges?

All of this is connected to your attachment type.

Psychologist Kim Bartholomew (1998) built on previous work and categorized adult attachment patterns according to the degree of "anxiety" and "avoidance" in relationships. Among them, people with high anxiety (i.e., high anxiety)

Psychologist Kim Bartholomew (1998) built on previous research and classified adult attachment patterns according to the degree of "anxiety" and "avoidance" in relationships. People with high anxiety (i.e. high anxiety) are always afraid that the other person will leave them or not value them, while people with low anxiety do not have such worries. People with high avoidance are prone to feel uncomfortable with intimacy, while people with low avoidance are happy to be close to others.

Based on the above criteria, people can be divided into four main attachment types: secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful. Let's take a look at how these four types of people behave in terms of avoidance and anxiety.

People with a secure attachment style tend to be less anxious and avoidant. They're not worried about being abandoned and are happy to be intimate. They're also independent and interdependent with their partner.

Anxious (high anxiety, low avoidance): They're always worried about being abandoned, longing for intimacy, and very dependent on their partner.

Avoidant (low anxiety, high avoidance): You have a hard time trusting and relying on others, and you feel uncomfortable with intimacy. You also want to be independent.

Fear type (high anxiety, high avoidance): fear of abandonment, but also discomfort with intimacy, wanting both dependence and independence.

So, you're mainly in the avoidant attachment mode. Having understood the reason for your problems, the most important thing we need to do is accept ourselves. It's not your fault, but we can't blame our parents for it either, because they've given us what they think is best. There's nothing we can do to ask them for something they don't have.

We need to look at what we can do for ourselves, how we can adjust and grow.

I've got a few suggestions for you:

1. You can find a partner who is secure in their own feelings.

Some people who are secure can handle the challenges of people who are insecure without much effort. They have a lot of security and are willing to be tolerant and persistent.

Spending time with them will help you rebuild a sense of security and move towards a more secure attachment.

2. Find a counselor you can work with.

In counseling, you can get a safe space to release your repressed emotions. You can talk to the counselor about your feelings. A good counseling relationship will help you establish a secure attachment pattern, and you'll start to feel better.

3. Writing therapy helps you understand yourself better by reviewing your early experiences.

Some psychologists believe that understanding your early experiences can help you move past being defined and imprisoned by an insecure attachment pattern. You can do this by writing about past experiences and examining the reasons for these experiences.

You know that how you form attachments is related to how your parents raised you. You can think about how your parents treated you in the past, but also try to change how you see those experiences. For example, you might say to yourself, "My parents didn't love me less because I was unworthy. They just didn't know how to show love to their kids. They couldn't give me what they didn't have."

When you change how you think about past experiences, you can start to get over your fear of intimacy.

4. Try rational emotive behavior therapy to change your irrational beliefs.

Human emotional and behavioral disorders aren't caused by a specific event. They're caused by how we perceive and evaluate that event, which then leads to beliefs and emotional and behavioral consequences in a specific situation. This is known as the ABC theory.

Most people think that how we feel and what we do is directly caused by what happens to us. The ABC theory says that's not quite right. It says that what happens to us is only indirectly responsible for how we feel and what we do. Our beliefs, perceptions, and explanations about what happens to us are more directly responsible.

People with avoidant attachment styles often develop negative beliefs when something happens, which can lead to unfavorable outcomes.

For instance, if you send a message to your partner and they don't reply right away, someone with a secure attachment will likely think they're busy or their phone is out of sight.

However, people with avoidant attachment styles often think this is a sign that the other person doesn't love them or is impatient with them. As a result, they gradually reduce contact with the other person and start to believe that it's okay to be on their own and that they can take care of themselves without anyone else.

So, try to change your unreasonable beliefs and transform your negative perceptions. Even if it means asking your partner what they were thinking at the time, it's better than letting yourself get caught up in negative thoughts that you can't escape.

5. In a relationship, make a gratitude list and often feel the warm interactions between you and your partner.

For instance, when your partner brings you a cup of hot brown sugar water when you're feeling sick and in pain, or when you're feeling down, or when it's your birthday and they're thinking of ways to make you happy...

This is really about giving yourself permission to feel more of the other person's care and love for you. When you want to avoid it, your heart can gradually be melted by love, and you can communicate and interact more smoothly with each other, allowing the relationship and love to flow in a cycle, nourishing each other.

6. Communicate in a positive way and share your needs and vulnerabilities.

Christopher Monn said in "Intimacy: A Bridge to the Soul," "The real motivation behind starting and maintaining an intimate relationship is a need."

If you don't express your needs and vulnerabilities, the other person won't know what you need or what you're afraid of. Even if they want to help, they won't know how to help you.

So, we need to take the initiative to connect with the other person and try to express our feelings and needs to them in a way that's appropriate. For example, we could say, "I've been feeling very tired and stressed lately."

"I'm drawing a blank on this one. Could you help me out?"

This kind of open communication and sharing will not only relieve your inner pressure, but also gain the support and love of the other person. It will also make the other person feel needed and valuable. Regular positive communication will also help your relationship grow and warm up your feelings.

7. Learn to recognize your strengths and establish positive beliefs.

Know your worth and give yourself a pat on the back. Build up your self-confidence and believe that you will definitely find happiness.

The Pygmalion effect in psychology says that you'll get what you expect. You don't get what you want, but what you expect.

If you expect with confidence and truly believe that things will go well, then they will indeed go well. On the other hand, if you believe that things are constantly being hindered, then these obstacles will arise.

So it's important to recognize the value of positive beliefs. When we have positive beliefs and attitudes, when we are confident, when we believe that good things will happen, and when we maintain this positive outlook, it's really beneficial.

Because having positive beliefs leads to positive behavior, and positive behavior often leads to positive results.

We expect ourselves to become what we want to be, and we'll keep working hard in that direction. Eventually, we'll really become that expected self. But if we always feel that we're not good enough and that we can't do it, we'll stay stuck and never move forward.

I hope you can have a great relationship and enjoy a happy life together!