Unemployment, a pile of part-time jobs, what's the way forward?

Hello. You've been facing a lot of challenges recently, including unsuccessful job hunting, unstable part-time work, and the difficulty of passing the civil service exam. It seems like you lack support from those around you, and you don't have any friends. Your father, who has been beating and scolding you since you were little, may be consuming even more of your mental energy. All of these obstacles and pressures will inevitably lead to a sense of frustration, making people feel "out of control" and lost.

Even though there are lots of people out of work right now, losing your job is a big deal. It's not just about the money; it's also about having a sense of identity and worth.

This can really mess with our sense of security and control over ourselves and our lives. It can lead to self-doubt and a strong sense of helplessness, like, "Will I still have a future? Can I find a good way out?"

From what you've told me, it's clear you have an inner strength. Even though the external environment is difficult and there isn't much support around you, you're always trying and exploring in multiple directions. You're looking for a job, studying for exams, working part-time, and you're not setting limits on your development.

On the plus side, you've kept up your hobby of playing sports and staying fit. Having a long-lasting hobby is really important for people's physical and mental health. It not only helps to "relieve stress," but it's also a way to take care of yourself and establish a sense of control.

When we face a lot of setbacks and frustrations, it's easy to see the world and ourselves in a negative way. For instance, being freelance and not part of a stable company might make you feel like you're fighting alone, but that doesn't mean you've lost your social skills. You can try to understand why you're confused during the low points, but at the same time, you can also take steps to empower yourself. Focus on the current situation and how it relates to a specific period or situation, without exaggerating or generalizing. For example, I'm currently unemployed and don't have a lot of support, but I'm still connected to society and have opportunities to expand my social resources in the future.

From an interpersonal relationship perspective, growing up in an environment of violence and suppression as a child may affect your sense of security. If you feel insecure, you may respond to relationships with avoidance or anxiety. However, the influence of the original family is not lifelong. Once you've grown up and become independent, you have more autonomy to establish new relationships, or you can learn to establish relationships.

There are many levels to interpersonal relationships. You can start by meeting people with curiosity without setting the bar too high. You can expand your circle through interests, studies, work, and participation in public welfare activities. If you can get along well, you can chat more. You don't have to think about a long-term relationship. Let the relationship develop naturally through mutual understanding. If you encounter setbacks, that's normal. In fact, no one has a smooth relationship. However, every interpersonal relationship can add experience for personal growth.

Life can be hard. It can feel like you're fighting against the wind. But there is always a glimmer of light waiting to be discovered.

At this age, looking for a way out in the face of uncertainty is a strength. Your "hatred" for society may be a reaction to the unfairness and frustration you have encountered.

Hatred drains our energy and blinds us to possibilities. Turn this negative emotion into a driving force to move forward and push yourself to become stronger.

Your hobbies are fitness and playing ball. This is a good outlet. Exercise helps you stay healthy. It also relieves stress and improves your mood.

When you feel frustrated, go to the sports ground and exercise. You might find new inspiration and motivation.

You've tried different fields like IT, e-commerce, and civil service exams. This shows you're open to new things. Even if the results aren't great, every attempt is an opportunity to grow.

The part-time Python data labeling job you mentioned may not pay well, but it could be a chance to learn and gain experience.

You can improve your skills and find more opportunities.

The CCAA auditor exam is a way to learn new things. Don't be afraid of the unknown. It can help you grow.

Memorizing questions can help you learn more about a field or gain new skills.

Every challenge makes you stronger. There is always a path for you.

Stay optimistic and keep working hard. You'll find your way. Go for it!

Hello! I'm Gu Daoxi, also known as Fengshou Skinny Donkey.

The author's experience reminds me of a story about digging a well. Imagine someone who is trying to dig a well. They start in one place, dig for a few meters without finding water, and then move to another place.

It's true that no one succeeds easily. Behind every success story is a long period of perseverance and hard work. The questioner has tried so much, but we all have limited human energy. When we spread ourselves too thin, we lose depth. It can be hard to persevere when we're lacking energy.

As the saying goes, "if you don't set off in the right direction, all your efforts will be in vain." It's totally understandable that the questioner may not have found a career that they love yet. It's not easy to devote yourself fully to something you're not passionate about, and it's natural to feel like the results may be sub-par.

We all know that when we just work hard for the sake of it, it can be really tough to achieve our goals. It's like our energy is scattered, which can leave us feeling exhausted. And without an inner desire, it can be hard to concentrate. I think this might be why we sometimes find it difficult to keep up with the knowledge we once studied hard for after graduating from university.

I love what one of my suppliers said: there is no industry that doesn't have its ups and downs, but why are some people able to become leaders? I think it makes a lot of sense. If you love what you do, and if you work hard at it, you may reap even greater rewards.

The same sunset, some people feel that the sunset is infinitely good, but it is almost dusk, while others say that if the sunset is so good, why be sad that it is almost dusk. The questioner is only 31 years old, and there are still many years before the statutory retirement age. There's no need to rush to criticize and negate yourself, my friend.

They say that great things come late in life, and I think that's true! Some people are very good at a young age, but that doesn't mean the questioner's age is "ruined." I really believe that trying to see the positive side of life can help the questioner reduce negative thinking and negative critical thinking.

Don't be too hard on yourself! Ask yourself, did you do your best to get the result you got? Or is it the result of not working hard enough?

It might help the questioner to try to look at things from a different point of view and be as objective and realistic as you can be.

Give yourself some TLC! There's no need to rush. The book "Think Slow, Act Fast" can help the questioner embrace the beauty of taking their time without feeling overwhelmed. It encourages you to plan before moving, which can help you feel more in control.

It's true that we can't choose where we're born, but we can choose how we approach life. Wang Yangming said, "In my view, everything is colored by my own perspective. When we look at things with a positive attitude, it may be easier to discover the positive side, and vice versa, it may be more negative."

We all do it! We ruminate and consume ourselves internally. And there's a reason for it: we don't accept ourselves enough. Allowing ourselves to have moments of vulnerability and emotional downturn may help us become more compatible with ourselves.

Why not try starting with something you love and gradually awaken the positive emotions within yourself? This could really help the questioner become more positive, and it's also easier to cultivate self-confidence.

I'd highly recommend reading "5% Change," "Think Slow, Act Fast," and "A Thought Turned."

Wishing you all the best!

Hi there! I just wanted to let you know that the test fee is 1,000 yuan. But don't worry, if you're unemployed or in another tricky situation, like having a rural household registration, you might be able to get a subsidy for the registration fee!

Have you ever thought about taking up a part-time job with a threshold? Lots of fire control monitoring units have part-time positions, for example. If the original staff needs to take leave temporarily due to something, then you, as someone with a fire-related certificate, can take his place and do his job. You can make more than 100 yuan a day!

You mentioned that you took a test, but you just memorized the questions and don't really understand what he's saying. Do you feel like it's pointless to have passed that test?

I'm sure you're a lovely person, but you might not know the historical origins of certain industries, and you might not have a background in related work. That's totally okay! What's at stake here is your sense of entitlement.

I just want to say, don't think that getting a certificate is an easy way to get a lot of money that other hardworking people can't get.

I'm sure you'll agree that it's not easy to sweep the floor in the scorching sun or to be a cleaning lady. But let me tell you why the migrant workers and cleaning ladies can't do things in the field of fire protection.

This is because the elderly have different ways of thinking than young people. The world as seen by the elderly is different from the world as seen by the young.

The elderly have a harder time distinguishing between right and wrong. When an elderly person is faced with a good person and a bad person, a young person can tell right from wrong. But the elderly person might not be able to tell the good person and the bad person apart.

The elderly, bless their hearts, just aren't as good at disciplining their grandchildren as they could be. It's not easy to steal a child away from their parents, but it is easy to deceive the elderly when it comes to their grandchildren, as they are not as vigilant.

It can be tricky to sell supplements to young people, but it's much easier to deceive the elderly.

The firefighting field requires a strong sense of vigilance, which is something that can be tricky for older people to maintain. Even if you start as a firefighting industry expert from a young age, your abilities will naturally decline a little in various ways as you get older. But don't worry, everyone's different, and there are ways to compensate for this.

If you can easily earn 200 yuan a day by staying in an air-conditioned room with a certificate related to the firefighting industry, it means you have your own strengths and are irreplaceable. You're a valuable person!

If there's a fire, it's not the same as communicating with a 50-year-old aunt who's been on the assembly line for a long time. We all know that communicating with a 50-something aunt is time-consuming. Even if this aunt has a very strong reaction ability, she might not be the best fit for the firefighting industry.

The firefighting industry is very urgent. There is no time to casually communicate with someone who doesn't understand and then handle the emergency. You have to arrive at the scene within three minutes to extinguish the fire, but if you communicate with your aunt and tell her where to go, she might not know what fire extinguisher to use.

I totally get it. Even if there is time for training, I think many companies are unwilling to spend time training new people. When someone is older, there is nothing you can do about training, and if they don't know, they just don't know.

It's only natural to meet people who just don't get it, even after you've explained it to them a few times.

Some folks, even if they're still in their middle years, can have a hard time understanding things when they've been drinking. It's so frustrating! And unfortunately, the results they produce are not so great.

Some people have told him, and he'll do a little bit, but if they don't tell him, he might not know to do it on his own. It can be tricky to communicate with him, even though he can understand some of it. This kind of need for others to chase and supervise is very time-consuming.

If the questioner really gets into the work, they shouldn't be the kind of person who needs to be chased, supervised, and monitored to get things done. The communication cost for the questioner shouldn't be very high, which is great!

At the end of the day, working for money is all about exchanging resources with your boss. He gives you money, and you give him what he wants. You're at an age where you have something many people don't have, and you're a kind of resource.

We all know that resources are limited and precious. So, when you get some money, don't feel that you don't deserve the price. You've earned it!

You did it! You passed the exam just by memorizing it mechanically. Don't feel that you don't deserve the certificate or that you are not the right person for the job.

In addition to high-intensity and high-responsibility work, such as teaching, experience is indeed required. It is not as simple as just memorizing and reciting. Each student's situation is different, and not every situation can be covered in teaching materials. You still have to rely on your own abilities to solve problems independently or with the guidance of other classrooms. The work environment after training is a great test of a teacher's personal qualities.

In other situations, the problem at work can be solved simply by delegating tasks because the work and the environment are not stressful and do not require intense pressure. It's okay if you have an easy job! It doesn't mean you are incompetent.

You are a very precious resource! The rest of the group is moving upward, and those who can't keep up can't. That leaves only those in your age group who can do things.

Even if there are 10 to 20 billion people in China, not everyone wants to work. And that's okay! A large population doesn't affect many things.

So, since you are in this position, it is perfect for you, and you totally deserve it! If the boss says that if you don't do it, someone else can, he is just trying to make you feel bad.

It's true that women have their monthly periods, and various circumstances make it unsuitable for them to work outside the home. It's also true that women cannot bear high-intensity work, such as more than ten hours a day without a break. Men, on the other hand, have greater endurance than women. They can work more than ten hours a day without a break, and although they will get tired, they can persevere.

It's true that women can't work for more than ten hours without a break, even if they can stay awake sometimes. Men, on the other hand, will feel tired after ten hours, but they can still stay awake and keep working.

It's a man's world out there, and men have to work to earn money. Women can't earn this money, but they can still contribute in other ways.

It's true that motivation doesn't just appear out of nowhere. It gradually develops over time. The same goes for making friends. You might start out needing friends, then realize you don't need them, and then go back and forth between needing friends and not needing friends. This process helps you figure out what you truly need.

Let's start by chatting about part-time work.

There are lots of jobs out there that don't really have a purpose. It's okay to do them for a while, even if they don't seem meaningful. You can see them as part of your growth journey and as an opportunity to learn and grow.

I just want to say, though, that you shouldn't think of these jobs as essential.

It's totally up to you!

It's so sad to see so many unskilled and uneducated people stuck in the part-time job industry. Some people are truly oppressed and struggling to make ends meet in part-time jobs. It's heartbreaking to think that they're working so hard without any reward, especially when many of them didn't have the chance to go to school.

I really believe that people who can leave the part-time industry should do so as soon as possible. It's so important to remember that every able-bodied person who enters the part-time industry means there's less of a chance for a disabled person or someone who really needs a job to get through life's difficulties and get this part-time job.

Work is a wonderful way to support a family, and it should be given to those who really need it. If too many able-bodied people flock to the part-time sector, part-time work will become more difficult, and benefits such as welfare payments will decrease.

It's so inspiring to see people with disabilities entering the workforce and doing such great work! They can often do the same amount of work as two or three people without disabilities. And even though they and able-bodied people are paid the same for the same part-time job, there are still some differences.

It's only fair that someone in good health should be given a chance to do difficult work. They should use their physical and other abilities to help them overcome the difficulties of other difficult work, especially intellectual work.

It's not fair to expect people with disabilities who don't have enough to eat, the elderly, or young people to do difficult work. The only people who can do difficult work are those who have a lot of spare capacity in their physical and mental health.

I think it would be a great idea for you to take on some challenging tasks too!

I think we can all agree that for moral reasons, part-time work shouldn't be someone's long-term job.

Even if you go to clean, indoor cleaning is very easy. You don't need to concentrate very hard to sweep the floor. You can start sweeping from the east if you want to, or from the front door if you want to. There is a certain degree of freedom. And to complete the cleaning task, you just need to lift the broom and bend down to pick up the rubbish.

This kind of work is absolutely perfect for people with physical disabilities, slow movement speed, who need to support their families, or who urgently need money to get through a difficult time.