Want to travel with my boyfriend but don't know how to express it?

From what I've read, it seems like the original poster doesn't have a lot of autonomy over her own life.

From what I can tell from your text, you have a boyfriend, but I don't know how old you are exactly. I can only guess that wanting to travel alone may be an adult thing to do.

The original poster said she didn't know how to discuss it with her boyfriend. How do you usually interact with friends, classmates, or colleagues? When you have an idea, do you express it directly or go along with other people's opinions? What are your experiences of negotiating and cooperating with others?

If it goes well, I can learn from it here too.

It seems like you considered the opinions of both sets of parents, which is great. I'm just wondering why you didn't say, "I don't know if my boyfriend is willing." Is there a reason why you didn't bring that up?

If you're an adult and pretty financially independent, I'm curious about how you interact with your parents. Typically, when you want to do something, can you make your own decisions, or do you have to consider your parents' opinions first?

This time, I want to go out with my boyfriend. Maybe this is a chance to try to express my wishes and expectations directly and see what my boyfriend says. Forget about your parents for now and see if your boyfriend mentions his parents and what he thinks.

I hope this is helpful.

Good day, host. It is my hope that my response will prove to be of some assistance.

The host is contemplating a trip with her boyfriend, yet is uncertain of the appropriate manner to broach the subject with him. She is concerned that his parents may not approve of the trip, and that your parents may not support your own plans.

It may appear that there are numerous considerations to address, but with mutual willingness, it is possible to navigate these challenges effectively. However, it is essential to consider the current pandemic situation. If the region is experiencing a significant pandemic, it is prudent to avoid travel or limit exposure. This decision is primarily driven by the need to prioritize personal safety.

If one's safety is ensured and one is already in one's twenties, it is this author's opinion that one can discuss going out together. However, when one considers the relationship between one's parents in conjunction with the relationship between one and one's partner, a simple matter can become quite complicated. As adults, one has established a new relationship and must take responsibility for one's own life and make one's own decisions about one's own affairs.

The crux of the matter, then, is whether your boyfriend will be amenable to accompanying you on a trip. You may wish to consider communicating with him in an open and honest manner, paying close attention to expressing your genuine feelings and needs during the course of the conversation. For instance, you may wish to convey your desire to create lasting memories of your travels together, and your hope that you might occasionally have the opportunity to spend time alone together, exploring places that you have not yet visited together. It is likely that, if you express your thoughts in a sincere and honest manner, your boyfriend will give them due consideration.

In the event that a couple wishes to embark on a trip but their parents may object, it is essential to learn how to "separate issues."

The separation of issues is a concept proposed by psychologist Adler. He posits that many of our troubles originate from interpersonal relationships and that people often utilize the term "love" as a means of exerting dominance and control. In Adler's view, the optimal interpersonal relationship is one where the sentiment of love is expressed, yet the specifics of the relationship remain private. He asserts that each individual's concerns are distinct and unique.

The manner in which I express my love for you is a matter of my own concern, while the question of whether you accept my love is a matter for you. If each individual remains true to themselves and lives their own life, there will be less entanglement and worry between people.

How might one comprehend this concept?

This concept implies that in our interpersonal relationships, it is essential to differentiate between our personal concerns and those of others. We must cultivate the ability to assume responsibility for our own life challenges and refrain from internalizing the issues of others.

The question thus arises as to how one might discern the difference.

The principle is straightforward: the individual who experiences the direct consequences of an event is the one who assumes responsibility for that issue.

To illustrate, consider a scenario in which you and your partner intend to embark on a trip. You both perceive it as a valuable and meaningful experience. However, at this juncture, your parents or your partner's parents may express opposition. How should you proceed in such a situation?

If we can differentiate between the issues and make our own decisions while accepting the consequences,

One may choose to embark on a trip, yet simultaneously face the persistent objections of one's parents. To navigate this challenge, one can strive to comprehend their concerns, engage in open communication, attempt to foster mutual understanding, or simply disregard their demeanor.

Furthermore, one may choose to decline the trip and consequently face the associated consequences, such as forfeiting the opportunity to spend time together as a couple while gaining the ability to cease parental nagging.

In essence, individuals must assume responsibility for their own actions and accept the consequences thereof. Indeed, parents also contend with their own set of challenges. They are unable to relinquish their parental responsibilities but are compelled to exert control over their children. This is an issue that they must address independently. It is not necessary for individuals to internalize the challenges faced by their parents. Instead, they must focus on addressing their own concerns.

Similarly, when two individuals are in a relationship, they often have common issues. However, when they are independent from each other, their issues may become distinct from one another.

For example, if one wishes to extend an invitation to a romantic partner to embark on a trip together, there is no guarantee that the invitation will be accepted. This can be challenging to navigate, particularly when one's romantic partner is an autonomous individual with unique thoughts and needs. In such instances, it is crucial to distinguish between personal preferences and external factors.

One might inquire as to the potential outcome of his refusal to accompany you on the proposed excursion.

One may choose to communicate with the other party effectively, allowing for mutual understanding of needs and difficulties, and then negotiate a balanced approach. Alternatively, one may choose to simply let the matter rest and wait for a more suitable time to resume the activity together. Another option is to become angry and blame the other party for a lack of understanding, which is likely to also trigger dissatisfaction and feelings of being misunderstood.

Regardless of the decision made, it is essential to recognize that it is an individual choice and to accept the corresponding consequences.

Thus, regardless of the decision made, there will always be advantages and disadvantages, and no choice will ever be ideal. However, a decision must still be made. Furthermore, once a choice is made, the corresponding consequences must be accepted, and the responsibility should not be shifted to others. This approach will facilitate more effective management of the situation.

In conclusion, in light of your current circumstances, you may wish to consider communicating with your boyfriend in an open and honest manner, expressing your needs and thoughts, and exploring whether he would be willing to accompany you on the trip. Should he decline, it may be helpful to ascertain the reasons behind his decision. If the primary reason is the presence of significant work commitments, and he is unable to take time away during this period, it may be necessary to accept this and await a more suitable opportunity. However, if the reason pertains to the influence of your parents' opinions, you may wish to consider your own position and communicate effectively to gain their understanding. Should this approach prove unsuccessful, you may wish to consider the potential consequences of either accepting their disapproval or declining the trip and facing the associated challenges.

Ultimately, the decision is yours to make. It is simply a matter of distinguishing your own topic from those of others, accepting responsibility for your own work, and avoiding the imposition of someone else's topic upon yourself. This process will undoubtedly prove more straightforward.

The aforementioned information is provided for your reference. Best wishes.

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

He knows you're uneasy, lacking in confidence, and seeking understanding and support.

Going on a trip is a decision for you and your boyfriend to make together. You are both adults, capable of making your own decisions. However, you are troubled by the opposition of your parents and his parents. You believe that you and your boyfriend must listen to and respect the opinions of your parents regarding some important matters. Otherwise, you will feel uneasy inside. What does this unease mean to you? Does it mean that you are not filial enough, and do not understand and respect your parents?

You are doing this because of how you were raised. It's simple: how a person is treated determines how they treat themselves. Your parents may have interfered with you too much, taking control. You have identified with and internalized the way they treated you. This makes you distrust yourself and makes it difficult for you to make independent choices and decisions. You are also accustomed to your parents' control over you. You feel uneasy and fearful if they are not involved.

Let go of your fears and insecurities. You are no longer the child you once were. You can make your own choices and decisions. Take responsibility for your life. It's time to tell your boyfriend how you feel. He needs to know you want his support and understanding.

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Hello! Smile, younger sister! You want a romantic trip with someone you like. But are you sure it's possible?

In just two lines, we can see:

1. You want to start a new romantic relationship with your boyfriend. Going on a trip with him is a great idea.

2. Traveling is a two-person thing. It seems like your boyfriend doesn't know about your idea yet. You might be more proactive in your daily life together. Or maybe you're still developing a mutual understanding. You're not sure how to express this idea to him.

3. You need your boyfriend's parents' permission to travel alone. You are probably at the age of college students and still need to consult with your parents about important matters.

You also have a good relationship with your families. You will discuss things with your parents beforehand.

You want to travel with your boyfriend, but there are two things that might stop you.

Your relationship with your boyfriend is the key to whether you can travel together. Travel involves time, money, and willingness. You also have to consider the situation at your destination.

If you know your boyfriend well, it's easy to discuss things with him.

1. Ask yourself: does he have time for a trip? Do you agree on the cost? Has he wanted to go on a trip with you before? Do you both want to go to the same place? Is the place safe?

2. Then, explain why you want to travel with him. Falling in love is easy, but getting along is hard. Traveling can improve your relationship, help you learn more about each other, or celebrate graduation.

Once you've thought this through, it'll be easier to discuss it with her. You can discuss it with him, taking into account his situation and your thoughts, and see what you can achieve. This could also be a chance to test your relationship.

If he's happy to travel with you, think about how your parents will react.

The approval of both sets of parents affects whether you can go on a trip together. It's good that you can consider your parents' attitudes.

A person's relationship with their parents is one of the most important factors in their happiness. This relationship is inseparable, except for daughters. It is important to consider their attitude and get their blessing.

Let's look at this.

1. What factors affect the parents' attitude? It depends on how close you are to them. If you've met them or they're happy with their son's choice, there shouldn't be any problems.

2. What do you think your parents would think about your travel plans? Put yourself in their shoes. The parents of the girl may worry more.

Or it's not safe out there, and they don't want you to take risks. Think about how to stand in their shoes and consider whether their worries are reasonable.

Then talk to them about their concerns and make them feel better.

The idea of a boyfriend and girlfriend going on a trip together depends on how you look at it. If you think of it as just two people going out together for fun, it can be done simply and without too much complicated thinking, as long as the two of you are willing.

If you see it as a test and an upgrade of your relationship, and the support of your families for your love, then listen to your family members. Think about your own ideas too.

What do I want from traveling together?

I hope you have a romantic journey and enjoy life with your loved ones!

I believe that traveling can be a wonderful way to enhance relationships and create new memories. It has the potential to broaden our horizons, relax us, and enrich our knowledge.

It might be said that no two people are naturally a good match. Rather, they are halves that constantly rub against each other to adapt. And travel could be seen as a very useful way to do just that.

Could this be some of the reasons why the woman wants to travel?

Hello, I hope you are well.

It would seem that they are already dating, which would indicate that they are adults, but they are still young and their daily behavior may still be somewhat restricted by their parents.

I'm not sure how to broach the subject with him. I'm uncertain if his parents have given him permission to go out.

Could I ask you to consider these two sentences? It seems that you may be unsure about being loved, which might mean that he is unable to give you a sense of security. It may be that your relationship with him is not as nurturing and comfortable as you would like it to be. You say that you are unsure how to discuss this with him. If I were your parents, I would feel sad for you when I read this. This sentence shows others your grievances, your caution and helplessness.

"I'm not sure if his parents will allow him to go out."

It is possible that parents are focusing their attention on protecting their sons, and they may be uncertain about whether to allow their sons to go out with their girlfriends. Some people believe that love is a matter for two people, but it can be challenging in today's world. Many of us are not currently in a romantic relationship, but we are preparing for marriage, balancing the needs of our family members, and may find it difficult to fully embrace the joy and intimacy of love without distraction.

"I'm not sure if my parents would approve of us going on a trip."

It is understandable that parents may have reservations about allowing their daughter to go on this trip. While the trip itself should be an overnight trip, it is important to consider the underlying reasons behind the parents' hesitation. It is possible that they believe that when two people are alone and in love, intimate acts are inevitable, and they worry that the girl will suffer, lose face, and be passive in future interactions. It is also possible that they are more worried about this than you realize. As girls, we often hold fast to the last line of defense, which is human nature. We seek gain and avoid loss, and a sense of control over what can be grasped will make us feel more in charge.

While the opinions of family and friends can be helpful in making decisions, it is ultimately your thoughts and feelings that will guide you.

Regardless of whether the outcome of the trip is positive or negative, if you can look back on it with fondness in the future, then it may be worthwhile to go ahead with it. It is always good to express your happiness.

It would be advisable to make a simple strategy and precautions.

If you have concerns that your chosen behavior might have unintended consequences for others, it might be helpful to follow your parents' advice and discuss your concerns with them.

It would be advisable to plan and discuss without becoming overly involved.

There are many ways to test whether two people are suitable for each other. You might consider having a meal, talking about money, or going to the movies. From experience, some people may suggest that the result of spying from a trip will be more reliable if you want to make a final decision.

If this travel plan is put on hold, it would be beneficial to participate and adapt from daily interactions.

I hope this is good.

Life is not perfect, but I believe that you and I are still loved.