We got divorced, and my ex-husband says he still wants to get back together, but I don't know what to do.

OK, thank you for your question. You need to answer this question yourself. Think about it. You will be living with him and his family for the next few decades, so think about whether you can do it.

It's clear you've suffered a lot. You still have feelings for him, but getting back married is uncertain. Your divorce was caused by the man's mother. You don't blame him, but he's indecisive and can't make up his mind, leaving you in the middle and suffering a lot.

The man will probably find it easier to change if he is willing to separate from his family. By separation, I mean that you two should live your own lives without too much interference from either side's parents. This is the most basic thing. I don't know if the man can do it, but I guess even if he does, it will be a long and painful process, considering that his mother threatened to kill herself. So if you want to get back together, be prepared.

Think about it. How has the man treated you over the years? Do you feel happy with him? Judging from your statement that you still have feelings for each other, it's clear that the man has treated you well.

If you can get out of the family situation and the man continues to treat you well, there's no reason you can't consider getting back together. Think about whether the man has fulfilled his responsibilities and duties over the years.

You have the right to choose whether or not to remarry. You will have other choices in the future. Marriage is free now, so think about it: would you still want to be with him? If you had another choice, would you still choose to remarry?

Think about it.

You must stand on your own position and choose the option that is best for you, regardless of what choice you make. You are not the Virgin Mary, you are not the savior, and you don't have to be the savior and the victim. Your choice should be good for you. Otherwise, you will regret it in the future. Therefore, you must decide whether to get back married or not, weighing the pros and cons, and making the choice that is best for you.

You've been wronged, and you're tired. Don't rush into making a decision. Relax and take a vacation for yourself. When making a decision, consider only yourself. Don't wrong yourself because you're afraid of wronging others. This is harmful and irresponsible, especially when it comes to marriage. Slow down and think about it. Then, make a decision. This is your right and freedom.

The world and I love you!

Hello, thank you for your question.

I'm Yan Shiqi, and I hope my answer helps.

I'm a woman too, and I'm here to support you.

As an outsider, I have the following suggestions:

If you get divorced, you need rules.

I believe you didn't get divorced on a whim. You must have been disappointed and hurt before taking this step.

You need to learn to say no and stop being soft on the person who hurt you.

Set rules when you get married and when you divorce. Be clear about what kind of relationship you want and be the first to do it.

If you're too softhearted, the man will think there's still a chance.

If you keep giving in, the other person will keep pushing you around.

2. Have your reasons for wanting a divorce changed?

The questioner is upset about her husband, mother-in-law, and her mother-in-law's behavior towards her father. These are just symptoms. The root cause is clear to the questioner.

Can you guarantee that your marriage will be happy if you get back together?

The main problem hasn't been fixed.

I advise the original poster not to be confused by false appearances. Your mother-in-law is your ex-husband's mother, and this is unchangeable.

If you don't have kids, don't get married.

3. Ask yourself, do you want to live a good life?

Everyone deserves happiness. You create your own happiness.

Ask yourself if you can find happiness in your marriage.

What did you learn from your last marriage and how can you make this one work?

If not, love yourself, be happy, and you'll know what you want.

That's my answer. I hope it helps.

Hello! From your account, I can tell you're feeling pretty helpless and anxious. It seems like you're in a tough spot, facing a strong mother-in-law and a husband who doesn't take a stand.

I just wanted to say that you've been together for ten years and you still have feelings for him, but you've reached the end of the road and are getting a divorce. Because you can't take it anymore, you can't bear the family conflicts anymore. Even if you are emotionally attached, it's not enough to make you continue to bear this kind of pressure and pain.

I think that's right.

It's important to understand that your husband has a difficult relationship with your mother-in-law. He's either got to learn to deal with her strong-willed nature or he's going to side with her, as if your interests aren't being protected in this extended family. Even your father is involved.

Your mother-in-law and your husband have such a close relationship that you feel like you're on the outside looking in with this extended family. This overly close mother-son relationship is called a symbiotic relationship in psychology.

To put it another way, the mother has a lot of expectations of her son, hoping that he'll meet all her needs. The son doesn't have his own independent thoughts or actions, and he'll do whatever he can to protect his mother's feelings and thoughts.

You're the hostess in this big family, but your mother-in-law sees you as the "culprit" who is breaking up the relationship between them. She can't let go of her son, so she's trying to drive a wedge between you.

From birth to six months, the mother is the child's entire world. During this period, the child and the mother are closely connected, and the infant doesn't yet have the ability to distinguish between the mother and others.

From around six months, a child's mind starts to become more independent and individual. They start to pay attention to people other than their mothers.

Even though babies can be scared of strangers, they'll grab their mother's hand and start exploring.

So, it's normal for babies to be symbiotic up to six months old. But if adults are still in that stage, it's pathological symbiosis.

In an extended family, your marriage is the foundation, and no one should get in the way too much. Keeping your marriage strong depends on knowing how to set and keep your own boundaries.

As a son (your husband), you need to understand that you're an adult now and need to psychologically separate from your mother. Learning to separate from your mother doesn't mean you don't love her. It just means you need to return her to your father and let her return to her normal, orderly place in the family.

A mother needs to know when to step back and give her son his own space. If she keeps invading his mental space and getting involved in your lives, it'll lead to unclear boundaries and disrupted relationships, which is what you're currently experiencing.

It'll only happen when both the mother and son develop their own independent mental spaces and understand the boundaries of their relationship. Then the extended family will truly be harmonious, and you'll be the mistress of the house. But after experiencing so much hardship over such a long period of time, how likely do you think this is?

I think you have the answer in your heart, but you just need to be more determined.

I'm Mingyang, and I want to say that I love you all!

It is said that "love is a matter of two people, while marriage is a matter of two families or even two clans." The author's marriage has been rocky, but it can be fixed! The ex-husband's mother does not seem to approve of the author, and she is doing everything she can to break up the author and her ex-husband.

And guess what? The first marriage also fell apart under such hindrances. But here's the good news: the former husband, who is not firmly established in his position, came back to ask for a reunion!

You have ten years of relationship experience with your ex-husband, which is great! However, you're facing some challenges right now.

I'm excited to share some ideas that I hope will bring you comfort and help you explore this topic in new ways!

First, think carefully about whether the conflicts that led to the divorce can be resolved after the couple reunites. It's an exciting opportunity!

From the comments, it seems that the ex-husband's mother will continue to play an active role in the marital life of the questioner and her ex-husband. This presents an opportunity for the questioner to take a strong stance and maintain her position in the family.

This means that the ex-husband is no longer a "sandwich cookie" and it's just you and the ex-husband's mother going head to head!

So, when the ex-husband proposed to get back together, did he propose a solution on how to work with the question of his mother interfering in your married life?

If not, then such a life after the reunion is nothing more than a continuation of the life that was once lived. But there is hope! The result of such a life is likely to be a repeat of the original tragedy, unless the mother of the original poster herself makes a 180-degree turn in attitude.

So, there's more than one way to look at this! And life is a continuous process.

If the questioner and her ex-husband still have a deep emotional foundation for each other, then there's definitely hope for a happy future together! All they need to do is negotiate how to reconcile and continue the harmony of married life to reach a consensus.

Second, regarding reconciliation, it's important for the questioner to have her own position.

From the comments, it seems that the questioner is currently more easily influenced by her ex-husband, which is totally normal! The way her ex-husband is almost "playing hard to get" in his attempts to get back together with her also shows a certain lack of maturity, which is something they can work on together.

However, the questioner will repeatedly give in and compromise, based on their strong attachment to and care for this relationship.

Relationships are like a dance! If one person keeps advancing, the other person will have to keep retreating. But if one person is always advancing and the other person is always retreating, the dance will become more and more out of step with the core of a healthy relationship. So, let's make sure we're both moving in the same direction!

So, if you want a happy, healthy relationship, it's time to put your needs first! Talk to your ex-husband about your needs for intimacy. Be brave! Make the choice to give and take, not just give in. This will make your relationship better for both of you!

If the other person is unwilling to back down or has concerns about this, it can also be seen from another perspective: if you get back together, it'll be a great chance for the other person to really take on the family responsibilities and obligations in the relationship!

I'm not a psychologist who explores human nature, but I am a therapist who cares for the human heart! I wish you well!

I'm not a psychologist who explores human nature, but I am a therapist who cares for the human heart! Bless you!

I can feel the torment, the injustice, and the sense of powerlessness that the OP has felt for many years. The article is clear: it mentions nothing good about the ex-husband. It only talks about the pain that he has brought to the family. And yet, the OP still asks everyone what to do.

I want to know how someone who has made it difficult for you to have fond memories and expectations can still make you hesitate about whether to continue the relationship. It's not impossible to get back together, but before making a decision, you need to ask yourself:

Tell me, have the problems that made you leave him been solved?

If the other person sends a signal of goodwill, it's not a reason to get back together. If you left for some reason, have the problems that caused you to leave been resolved? How much have they been resolved?

If the other person is sincere and has resolved the problems that caused the marriage to go wrong, then you can consider starting again. But if it's the same old story, then a reunion will only repeat the hurt.

If there's an ulterior motive and the person who was tricked comes back begging for reconciliation with coercion and pressure, you need to escape as soon as possible.

You're considering getting back together because you can't get away from him.

My ex-husband has played the pitiful card and engaged in obsessive behavior. Don't waver in your thinking just to end these intrusions. Get back together on your own if you're willing to take the risks. Otherwise, you'll regret submitting.

I want to know if the other person has done anything tangible to improve the relationship.

You can't just listen to the other person's words of love. You also have to see what efforts they have really made to improve your relationship and life. If it is his family that has affected the relationship, then he needs to stand up for justice. He needs to do something to prevent his family from harming the relationship between the two of you. It's useless to just say you'll solve it. You need to look at the actions and results!

Make a decision that makes you feel comfortable!

I am a listener and a psychological answerer, and I am here to become your spiritual growth coach!

I'm really sorry to hear your story. It's sad that you had to separate from your ex-husband because of his mother's interference in your marriage. It's even sadder that your ex-husband is now asking you to get back together.

After reading your story, I thought of the story of Liu Lianzhi and Jiao Zhongqing.

Liu Lianzhi and Jiao Zhongqing were a couple in the Han Dynasty. Liu Lianzhi was attractive, capable, from a good family, and had a good personality. After marriage, the couple was very much in love.

But Jiao Zhongqing's mother just didn't like her. Every day, she was picked on and pushed around in all sorts of ways, until she had no choice but to leave on her own.

That's what we now call a divorce.

After Liu Lanzhi and Jiao Zhongqing divorced, they agreed to reunite once Jiao Zhongqing had sorted out the issue with his mother. However, due to Jiao Zhongqing's mother's strong personality and his own weakness and inability to stand up to her, the two ended in tragedy and both took their own lives.

Now, we're going to talk about the story of the two of them that led to the story of the joined branches.

Jiao Zhongqing was able to die, but that didn't resolve his mother's issues with his daughter-in-law. That was the reality.

Let's get back to your question. You said your husband is looking for peace, and you're wondering if there's still a chance.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want with your ex-husband and his mother. If you choose to stay with your ex and continue as you were before, it kind of defeats the purpose of your divorce, doesn't it?

Are you willing to stay tied up with him like his mother? If you don't want to, how do you get out of this mess?

What's your solution here?

From what you've told me, it seems like your ex-husband's mother didn't respect you or your family. I don't know what happened in your family, but it seems like your mother-in-law was able to scold and fight with you.

This should be enough to illustrate the conflict between you. You have to understand that getting married is never just a matter for two people, but for two families and even two clans.

When a man and a woman get married, they become the core of a family. In this family, it's the two of them who make the decisions, not their parents.

If this boundary isn't clarified, the family will lose its sense of boundaries. Naturally, various family conflicts are likely to become entangled.

It's also worth noting that conflicts between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law have existed since ancient times.

How did the situation between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law end? It all depends on how the man in the middle handled it.

In "Da Zhai Men," Bai Jingqi married both Huang Chun and Yang Jiu Hong. He stuck up for Huang Chun and was totally on his side when it came to Yang Jiu Hong.

Huang Chun was well-respected by everyone, but Yang Jiu Hong was not even willing to give her own daughter a second glance. This is an example of family education.

The heart of the matter is the issue of boundaries between your ex-husband's mother and your family. If your ex can clarify the boundaries between his mother and your small family,

If you don't let his mother get involved in your relationship, the foundation of your relationship is still there. After all, you've been together for 10 years. If he can't keep his mother out of your family, the difficulties you had before you got together will still be the same.

Ultimately, your dilemma comes down to a matter of choice. Regardless of your decision, you need to be able to justify why you've chosen him.

The key is to be ready for your own choice, both mentally and realistically.

"Take responsibility for your decision, particularly if it is to make a second choice."

Good day. I note that your query has attracted considerable interest and received a number of helpful responses. I will endeavour not to repeat myself.

Family matters and emotional entanglements are ultimately the domain of the parties involved. It appears that you are still in a state of limbo, unable to break free from the emotional ties that bind you. Additionally, the repeated instances of past mistakes and disappointments in the relationship have led to a sense of stagnation. In light of this, we have two key questions for you to consider:

1. What were the reasons for your initial decision to marry?

2. Please provide the reason for the dissolution of the marriage.

List the reasons in order, and you may be able to answer the question of whether it would be advisable to resume the relationship at this time.

It is important to note that the act of creating a list of problems and reasons in objective and concise language can have an unexpected effect on the way one thinks about a situation.

If your questions repeatedly involve both parents, it is important to consider the position and boundaries of parents/the original family in your relationship. Given your current involvement, it would be beneficial to discuss the matter together.

If the initial decision was based on incomplete information, there are two possible outcomes when making a second choice:

1. There is still a positive emotional connection and a willingness to rebuild: It is recommended that you engage in a comprehensive discussion of the issues that have already come to light and negotiate principles and strategies for addressing them.

2. Give up + move on: It is also advisable to address any outstanding issues and avoid ambiguous situations. This is commonly referred to as "a good goodbye."

It is my hope that this brief overview will assist you in articulating your thoughts and resolving the issue at hand.

Your relationship with your ex-husband is still up and down. You used to have a good relationship, but you also see some problems. For example, your ex-husband may still have some problems with how he deals with people.

If he wants to meet you in a hotel room, it's not a good idea. You know him, and your relationship is still strong. Why meet in a hotel? It's not that hotels are bad. It's just not a good way to position your relationship.

You are divorced, so you are not related. This is the legal truth. You have the chance to manage your relationships well. You are not closely related and have no heavy burdens, so you have freedom. Think about why you would encounter such a thing.

You may be too soft-hearted or not think about your own life enough. His mother always came to meddle and tell you what to do when you were with him. I hate people who want to control me.

They want you to come and go as they please. It feels like you're only there when they want you. Where's your freedom? Aren't you independent? Don't I have thoughts of my own?

You deleted him, but he added you back, so there's still some affection between you.

However, if you give in to his demands, he'll just keep asking for more. You took his mother to several top hospitals, and she wasn't sick. Maybe she fakes illness to blackmail you.

Your future life together will be painful and sad. You will get divorced or fight over the same things. His mother insulted your father. Such things are intolerable because his mother may still have shortcomings.

He might be unsure about buying a new house. There are still things to resolve. If he wants to get back together, he needs to show sincerity. Now might not be the best time. Think about whether your life will improve. If not, don't get back together easily. Keep trying.

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From what you've told me, it seems like your mother's issues were the driving force behind your ex-husband and your family's decision to divorce.

Even though you still have feelings for each other, if you haven't broken free from your mother's controlling ways, getting back together will just be a repeat of the past. But there's no reason why you can't make a fresh start together!

The first and most important thing to remember is that your lives are inextricably linked to your parents.

There's a wonderful saying in the Jewish Bible: "A man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and the two of them become one flesh." It's the man and the woman who marry and form a new family, not the woman who integrates into her husband's family.

Forming a new family is an amazing opportunity to break free from the constraints of being under one's parents' jurisdiction. It's a chance to transform from a little boy who blindly follows his parents' instructions to an adult who has the same say as his parents. The way one gets along with one's parents enters a state of mutual respect, mutual understanding, and mutual concern. It's a journey of growth and self-discovery!

It's a whole new ballgame! No more domination and subordination.

Another great point is that even though your mother may have a strong desire to control things, there is always hope for life if you can comfort her heart.

I remember when I was a child, the elders around me all said something really interesting. They said that when people get old, they become like little children! They speak and act slowly like children, being somewhat willful and difficult to communicate with.

The great news is that they say such elderly people should be treated like children, coaxed and cajoled. And the even better news is that if the elderly person is happy, the family will be happy!

So, there's still a chance for you and your ex-husband to get back together! Whether or not you can continue living together depends on whether or not you're willing to change.

Your ex-husband can say what he thinks in front of the mother and ask her to respect it. You and your ex-husband can also show her how much you love her together in front of her. Coax her in a way that will make her feel better, and there's still hope for your life together!

Hello. I can see that you're currently struggling. After the divorce, you still haven't found it easy to move on, and it seems that you've fallen into an even more difficult situation.

I get the sense that you're looking forward to a more relaxed and ideal life now that you've chosen to end your marriage. It's likely that you're hoping to find a real sense of freedom after the divorce as soon as possible. Let's try to work on these aspects.

Set some boundaries so that people can see the real you.

You say you hate it when your ex-husband keeps bothering you, especially when he's drunk. This shows that he's already crossed a line in terms of respecting your boundaries. You chose to understand, which is to say, you chose to tolerate. This temporarily relieved you of the discomfort of your ex-husband pestering you, but it also left him with the possibility of pestering you indefinitely.

I hope you can set your own boundaries, stick to them, and show the world who you really are by respecting yourself. Be honest about rejecting your ex-husband and about your unhappiness with the situation. Don't let negative feelings hold you back.

Second, gain a deeper understanding and awareness, and adjust your perception of marriage.

I hope you can take a good look at your feelings towards your ex-husband.

What are the good things about your ex-husband that you still recognize even after the marriage ended? And what are the shortcomings of your ex-husband that you have accumulated and do not accept?

Think about the pros and cons and what your future options are.

I hope you can gain a deeper understanding of the relationship between your marriage and the two families.

From what you've said, it seems like your ex-husband might be a bit of a "mama's boy." If that's the case, are you okay with that?

Are you still willing to face your mother-in-law's behavior and way of doing things? Let me tell you, marriage is a problem for two families. Will the conflicts that once arose disappear completely after you continue your marriage?

I hope you'll also take the time to understand how your family of origin is reacting to all of this.

In the process of fixing a broken marriage, can the damage done to your original family be undone without leaving a trace?

I hope you'll take the time to really understand how your kids feel about your relationship.

If you have kids, can they help each other change for the better? Do you feel confident in your ability to guide your children through their emotions?

In short, deep experience and awareness is a great way to understand your current attitude towards marriage. It's like grading a test: if the full mark is 10, how many points would you score for a decisive end and a reunion? After deep physical and mental awareness, you'll have a clear understanding of the possibilities, adjust your perceptions, and then stick to them.

Finally, I just wanted to remind you that a long-lasting love can be sustained for many reasons, but not out of pity.

While compassion can provide a moment of peace of mind, it's tough to find long-term happiness. So I hope you can express yourself authentically, respect your choices, and make decisions without worrying about making everyone comfortable and satisfied.

You've got to be happy with yourself first if you want to be able to balance your life and love others and the world.

I hope you'll be able to get through this soon.

Hello, question asker! I'm Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for anything.

I've read through the issues and confusion you outlined on the platform and researched your and your ex-husband's experiences. I understand your situation. It's unlikely you have no feelings for each other, but there are still significant hurdles in your relationship, especially with your ex-mother-in-law.

If a third person is involved in a relationship, it can get pretty complicated. It's often said that marriage isn't just about the two people involved, but that it requires mutual integration with the entire family. Your current confusion and uncertainty are probably because you still have feelings for him. So, do you want us to help you figure out whether you want to get back together with your ex-husband or learn how to deal with this relationship?

To help you figure out and organize the issues you're facing:

First, take a step back and assess your relationship from an objective, calm perspective.

All your doubts and struggles are actually because you still have an emotional connection with him and he's been in contact with you. You'll come to your senses and often be softhearted, so you'll meet with him, but the fundamental problem of your divorce hasn't been solved. Therefore, you actually resent him meeting with you at this time, and it also involves feelings. The problem of your divorce has always been getting along with your mother-in-law. You don't get along very well with his mother, and your ex-husband didn't handle the conflicts between you very well, which makes you seem passive.

If you don't resolve this issue, you'll still be at risk of divorce if you get back together. It's not just about whether or not you get back married. I think you're already thinking the same thing.

If you really want to get back together and develop a long-lasting relationship, it really depends on whether your ex-husband has the ability to establish a healthy sense of boundaries between you. There are some things your mother-in-law can get involved in, and some things she can't interfere with. You two can only solve problems between yourselves. She can help with housework and childcare, but if she gets involved in emotional issues, it will only complicate your relationship and make things worse.

2. Be aware of the main issue behind your divorce.

The relationship between a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is always tricky. If there's a husband who doesn't know how to handle this kind of relationship, it can make things a lot harder. From what you've said, it doesn't seem like your ex-husband has this ability. So, whether or not you want to get back together, you can just ask him directly: Do you have the ability to solve the problems and conflicts between you and your mother-in-law? You bring these problems up with him and let him deal with them. If there really is no way to solve them and he keeps being evasive, do you think you have the confidence to get back together with him?

At this point, any remaining feelings will likely be used up.

You've already divorced once, so you should really think this through. You shouldn't get back together just because you still have feelings for each other or because you are lonely. This isn't the best way to get along with each other. You should learn to take responsibility for yourself and love yourself first. So I suggest you think about this carefully.

3. How should you handle a conflict between your wife and her mother-in-law?

If you do get back together, you'll first have to resolve the issue of the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law not getting along. There are several reasons for this, but ultimately it's because there's a generation gap between the two generations, and they have different living habits and views on various aspects, which leads to conflicts and disagreements between the two sides.

If you and your ex can't resolve your differences, you might want to consider living separately. The best way to do this is to reduce your contact with him. It's important to take the initiative and make the first move. If he's not willing to do this, you might want to think about whether you're ready to marry him again.

4. Accept your emotions as they are.

You realize you still have feelings for your ex-husband. If you didn't have any feelings at all, you wouldn't be so conflicted. There's no need to rush to deny it; just accept it as it is. You know each other and were classmates, but feelings are feelings and problems are problems. If you want to have a long-term, stable relationship, you need to be more mature and stable. First, solve the problems one by one.

If you can, it's best to communicate well first, be honest about your feelings, and talk through the problem together. You might want to exchange views on whether to stay together and work things out, or to stop seeing each other in the future.

Until then, take care of yourself, don't overthink things, and remember that this is not something you can handle alone.

And don't forget the three elements of love theory proposed by American psychologist Sternberg: love is made up of passion, intimacy, and commitment (this theory comes from Baidu Baike). If your ex-husband is unable to give you enough respect, understanding, and commitment, and there is passion and intimacy, you will be the one who suffers the most. You must learn to protect yourself! I wish you all the best.

I hope my answer is helpful. Best regards, [Name]

My dear,

There's no absolute right or wrong in life. There's only you! You get to decide whether you're willing to accept it, whether you can accept or bear it, and how long it will take. This is because in modern society, on the premise of economic independence and personal autonomy, everyone is responsible for their own thoughts or actions. What we can see is behavior, and at a deeper level, what we can only perceive with our senses and thoughts is the other person's thoughts.

It's all about perception! Our interpretation of the actions of others plays a crucial role in determining how we interact with them. It's the key that unlocks the door to harmonious relationships.

In your entanglement with your ex-husband, you want to confirm whether there is still a possibility, and you want to know what you should do if your ex-husband wants to get back together...

The answer to these questions is already on your mind when you ask them! It's just that it flashes past, and you're not sure or don't know how to arrange the combinations to get the most appropriate response.

When it comes to the possibility of a relationship, you are confirming its feasibility, and the basis of feasibility is your demands and expectations for marriage. What does marriage mean to you? Security? Intimacy? Care and consideration in life? Financial freedom? Self-growth? When you find the option you care about the most, or the bottom line that is most indispensable, that is your demand for marriage, or the upper and lower limits.

The lower limit is a necessary condition, and the upper limit is a sufficient condition. To put it another way, without a lower limit, the marriage cannot be sustained; without an upper limit, the marriage exists in name only. But here's the good news! You can have a successful marriage if you set the right limits.

To remarry is, in a way, to reunite after a breakup. If you always hold onto the "breakup mentality," then don't try it lightly, because continuing on the tip of a knife or on a cliff is a test of endurance and luck, and these two are often rare and exciting, especially when there is a lack of confidence at the beginning.

If you can approach this relationship with the same attitude as before, that is, if you are sure that the original reasons for the divorce have completely disappeared, and if both parties have truly changed, if not for the better, then it is time to try again! After all, if you don't learn from your mistakes and experiment again, if the design of the experiment itself is indeed unreasonable, then even if you try again a hundred times, if each time you repeat the same actions without improvement, the result will not be much different. But there is no reason why you can't try again and succeed!

The best way to love yourself is to seize the chance to meet as many new people and experiences as you can! After all, you only get one shot at being born as a human being, so make the most of it. I wish you love for yourself every single day!