What does my boyfriend's reply message mean? Is there still hope for this relationship?

I wish you the best of luck. It is an honor to respond to your inquiry. Based on your description, it appears that you still hold out hope for the relationship to return to its previous state.

From the content of your reply to your boyfriend, it is evident that he still harbors feelings about your relationship. An individual may outwardly express emotions toward another person, yet internally, he may not be inclined to terminate the relationship.

As the adage states, being ignored is a more detrimental experience than being struck. If one's response indicates indifference, the outcome may prove even more unfavorable than anticipated.

However, his reply indicates that there are fundamental differences between you. It is essential to ascertain why he has renounced the idea of falling in love, getting married, and having children, and to identify the factors that have interfered with these instincts that a normal person should have. This will determine whether it is possible to resume the relationship as it was previously.

It would be prudent to take a moment to calm down and reassess the value of each other in your hearts at this stage.

In the process of falling in love, the evaluation stage, the reciprocity stage, the commitment stage, and the institutionalization stage are evident. It is clear that the conflict should have passed the evaluation stage. However, in the reciprocity stage, due to the discrepancy between each other's needs, differences have emerged, and the process may regress to the evaluation stage for a second evaluation. It is important to recognize that no relationship is without challenges and that misunderstandings and disagreements are normal occurrences in the course of a relationship. If you feel unable to resolve related issues, you can seek assistance from professionals on the platform. With their guidance, you can work towards fulfilling your heart's desire.

I am gratified to be in a romantic relationship that commenced in 1983. I am pleased to express my affection for you and the world at large.

Dear, reading your words, I can't help but imagine how much it must have torn you apart when you typed all this information about your boyfriend into the computer. It's like a ball of cotton wool in your heart: you can't tear it apart, you can't sort it out! You want to cry, but you don't know why, and you don't know what crying would achieve... I can imagine how much you love each other, how reluctant you are to let go, how much you want to continue with him until you get married and have a family...

Dear, I don't know what happened between you two, but it seems unlikely that you'll continue unless he has a good reason for distancing himself from you. If he's dealing with an illness or financial problems, for example, he might not want to burden you with that. If that's the case, with your understanding and companionship, it's possible that you two will continue.

If it wasn't for these reasons, but simply because there are differences in your lives or worldviews that have caused him to adopt this attitude, then it's probably not going to continue.

I don't want to go on and on here to comfort you or encourage you to love and respect yourself. The fact that you've taken the initiative to seek help already shows that you're reliable and know what you're doing. Your boyfriend has good taste! I can also tell from your boyfriend's information that he's a smart guy. So, you have good taste too!

Right, it's a pretty special word. It's not the best, the most beautiful, the best, the optimal... You might be both talented and good-looking, and the other person is of good character, but you just can't live together. The reason you can't live together may simply be because you both squeeze toothpaste in different ways. You see, the world is so subtle that we can get close to each other but not be able to get close, so subtle that we may fall in love at first sight because we have the same smile, and our relationship may break up because of the difference in our hand-washing habits...

But remember, there's always someone waiting for you in this world. Maybe it'll be someone you meet in a dimly lit place, waiting for you to turn around and discover. When you find happiness in the future, thank your ex-boyfriend in your heart for not marrying you back then!

When you look back on your life, you'll see that losing love is actually a pretty minor thing. Graduating from school to getting married is a great journey, but going through a breakup is also something to remember. Losing love helps us grow, reflect on ourselves, and face our emotional needs.

Say your goodbyes to your boyfriend, do it with dignity, and tell him your feelings directly. Don't involve a third party. Then, in the evening, go out with some friends for a drink, sing and dance, or go to the movies to celebrate the end of this relationship. Go home, take a shower, get a good night's sleep, and then get back to work!

You never know what's around the corner. If you're not paying attention to your relationships, you might find yourself facing some unexpected surprises.

I wish you all the best, dear colleague.

Good day, host. Based on your description of the issue and my understanding of the situation,

From what you've shared, it seems that you still love your boyfriend, but for some reason, he suddenly broke up with you. It's understandable that you were a little overwhelmed and did something in response. Based on your description, I'd like to offer a few thoughts that I hope will be helpful to you.

Your boyfriend replied, "You don't have any problems." It seems that you may have unintentionally hurt your boyfriend in some way or with some words, and the hurt is quite deep. Your boyfriend has a serious misunderstanding of you, and it is difficult for him to find a reason to forgive you for the time being.

"It's my heart that has given up on falling in love, getting married, having children, and raising a family." This suggests that you have reached a point where discussing marriage and starting a family is a possibility, given that you have already gone through a lot and have a certain understanding of each other.

"Because I am a lonely person who cooperates, I'm sorry, but I hope we can find a way to resolve this issue so that what has been removed will not remain removed forever."

"Last night didn't bother me because I fell asleep with the alarm muted, but it's really not ideal to make a fuss and affect other people." This may come across as a bit cold in response to your making a noise. Your boyfriend is a quiet guy and still cares about some of your actions.

With regard to the possibility of not continuing, it might be helpful to adopt a somewhat detached approach for a while to allow both sides to calm down, reflect on the causes of the problem, identify the underlying issues and work through them one by one.

Dear question asker,

Given the limited information you've provided, I'll do my best to offer some insights based on the available data.

I believe there is a way forward, but it will require patience and understanding on both sides.

"I've given up on love, marriage, and children" could be a way of indicating that the other person is in a cooling-off period. It could be that they are not ready to talk about love and romance at the moment. Alternatively, the other person may feel a great sense of responsibility for practical reasons and be uncertain about the future. The thought of the responsibility of getting married and having children may make them want to reconsider.

"Suitable for a lonely person" is a somewhat disheartening way of phrasing it. It could be seen as a psychological expression of shirking responsibility, avoiding social interaction, and hoping for temporary peace.

"I'm sorry!" and "I'm not bothering you" are indications that the other person cares about your feelings and is a gentle and considerate individual. They want to avoid any misunderstanding that they hate you, which is a positive sign that there is still hope for the relationship.

In conclusion, while the relationship is currently experiencing a cooling-off period, it is not entirely beyond the realm of possibility to continue. During this period, it is important to avoid rushing to revive the relationship. Instead, it is essential to extend full respect to the other person, temporarily create distance, and allow their psychological state to return to normal. Once this has occurred, it is vital to demonstrate a willingness to rebuild the relationship and assume responsibility for its future.

It might be helpful to let him know that you understand his feelings and that you're open to reducing contact for the time being. It's important to remember that you don't want to break up with him and that you're both in this together. In the future, it might be beneficial to limit the frequency of contact and avoid excessive daily messaging. If you sense that he's not ready for a conversation, it's okay to end it.

Once the other person's condition improves, you may wish to consider taking the initiative to suggest going out on a date, for example.

I should also mention that the other person mentioned that "the whole city is in an uproar" and that "it's really not good," which may have caused some resentment towards your actions. In a relationship, it's best to avoid involving unrelated people, as while the other person may feel apologetic towards outsiders, their feelings towards you may also decline.

I wish you the best of luck and hope that you are able to find a way to save your relationship.

Hello, host. Breaking up is sad. I guess everyone feels this way. Are you sad too? You're asking this question, so I guess you still hope the relationship can continue. Maybe it can't, so you want to find hope it can.

There's nothing wrong with this. You have to let go of the past so you can move on. Let's talk about it and see if it helps.

The boyfriend is emotional and took all the blame for the problems.

He might just need some time to cool off. This is a tough time for girls because distance makes them feel insecure and they cling to the relationship. Then the other person wants to escape, and the girl gets even more desperate. It's a vicious cycle.

If this is the case, the girl needs to focus on herself and take care of her emotions. When we focus on ourselves, the pressure on the other person goes away, and things can change.

"Sorry! It's deleted!"

"Maybe you deleted each other's contact info and want to add it back, but he didn't approve. Did something similar happen when there was a conflict before?"

"Last night didn't bother me because I fell asleep with the ringer off, but it's not good that it's causing a fuss and affecting other people."

The original poster wants the relationship to continue. The first step is to stop doing things the other person disapproves of.

If the host won't let go, he should seek help. This could be a chance for us to grow.

Hello, questioner! I'm Pingtingyin.

I was really touched by what you said. I imagine you're feeling confused and helpless right now, unsure of your own feelings and your boyfriend's thoughts.

There's a lot to unpack in your brief description.

It's clear you're reluctant to give up on this relationship. You also want to know why things ended the way they did. You're wondering if you did something wrong that made your boyfriend take the initiative to end things.

You're very cautious and even feel that sending him a message is bothering him. He said you don't have any problems, but that he's given up on dating, getting married, and having children. He feels suited to being a loner and takes all the blame on himself, feeling incapable of loving you or managing a relationship between two people.

This statement is more of his subjective opinion, but it's also possible that he's feeling insecure and running away.

It seems like he genuinely cares about you and your feelings. He's probably hoping you won't doubt yourself or blame yourself for the problem. He cares about you, so he's telling you that he didn't make this decision because he hates you, but because he doesn't think he has the strength to continue.

A good relationship requires both parties to grow and maintain it together. But from what we know about the situation, it seems like your boyfriend is in a pretty negative state.

We might need to give each other a bit more time and space to figure out how to move forward in our relationship.

Regarding the issue that was brought up in the description, he doesn't want things to become a big deal and affect others. This is something that needs to be resolved between the two of you. It's important to respect our own feelings, but also the feelings of the other person.

One thing I have to mention here is that the questioner may rarely consider your own feelings. You must be feeling pretty painful and helpless right now, but you're also eager to salvage the relationship.

If we want to solve a problem, we have to deal with our emotions first. Once we've accepted our emotions, we can think about whether the relationship is worth working on further.

I think the problem is that you can't let go and you can't withdraw unscathed. That's why I don't want to give you too many reasons. We're all just bystanders. You're the protagonist.

In short, it's all about your own feelings.

Sometimes, feelings can give you answers that are more helpful than facts.

If you think it's worth trying to keep the relationship together, then do your best to do so. If it's not worth it, you can choose to let it go.

It's important to respect yourself and respect others.

Understanding is more important than love, and love is more important than romance. Best wishes!

"Seek love, not harm." If we work together to develop our capacity to love ourselves and others, we'll be on the path to happiness.

I hope this is helpful.

I just wanted to say that I love you, the world, and everything in it. ?

Good day, my name is Strawberry.

From your disclosures and inquiries, there are no lengthy recollections of past events. You only mention the messages your boyfriend has replied to and then inquire as to the possibility of continuing the relationship. From this behavior, it can be seen that you value this relationship and that you have a high regard for your boyfriend.

From this message, it appears that both parties are still invested in this relationship, but have reached this outcome for various reasons. The man proposed ending the relationship, and the questioner inquired if there were personal issues that influenced this decision. There is concern that this message may cause distress to the boyfriend.

I extend my support to you in this difficult time. It is evident that you are experiencing distress and pain. While you are contemplating strategies to rekindle your relationship with your boyfriend, you are also considering the feelings of other individuals. It is possible that you have engaged in actions that have caused him discomfort, leading to a heightened level of caution on your part.

The content of the message my boyfriend sent me in response. Is there still an opportunity for this relationship to be salvaged?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the issue is a mutual one.

It is likely that the two individuals will find a way to coexist after a period of adjustment. The questioner did not mention this, but the boyfriend stated that he has ceased pursuing the idea of romantic attachment and child-rearing. His actions indicate that he has attributed the problem to himself, perceiving a lack of capacity for love. He is also reluctant to perpetuate this state of affairs with the questioner. However, the question of whether the real problem lies with one person or both is something that only the questioner himself knows better.

I am a suitable candidate for a role in which I am required to work independently. The boyfriend's comment indicates that he believes the problem lies with himself, that he is no longer capable of loving, and that he is unwilling to burden the questioner with this state of affairs. However, whether the real problem lies with one person or both is a matter for the questioner to determine.

Allow yourselves some time to reflect.

Even if the feelings of two people in love fade, they will not forget each other in a short period of time because they are accustomed to each other's presence. From the message, it appears that the questioner's boyfriend is also experiencing distress and sadness. It may be beneficial for him to take some time to reflect on the relationship.

If he is amenable to responding to your messages, the questioner can send him a message indicating that you will allow time for serious consideration of the relationship. If you both still wish to maintain the relationship, you can list the issues that need to be addressed. You can attempt to resolve them through communication and agree to refrain from disturbing each other during the agreed period of time until you have reached a decision. Regardless of the outcome, you will respect each other's decision.

It is important to note that relationships evolve over time and that the capacity to love is not innate. This realization may evoke a sense of reflection, prompting the questioner to seek respite through various techniques while also contemplating the nature of the relationship.

1. Crying: Based on the message, it appears that the questioner's boyfriend desires to be left alone for the time being. Therefore, it is imperative that the questioner endure the sadness and grief on their own, allowing themselves to vent this sadness and grief. Crying is an effective method of releasing emotions, and the pressure in your heart will also be released through tears.

2. Enhance your personal growth: When you are experiencing negative emotions, it is important to avoid prolonged periods of solitude. Prolonged periods of solitude can exacerbate negative emotions, leading to a deeper sense of depression. Instead, engage in activities that enrich your life. This could include pursuing a challenging career, engaging in physical exercise, watching comedy variety shows, and so on.

3. Learn: The waiting period is lengthy. Regardless of the outcome, the questioner can initially address it through learning. If it cannot be salvaged, what are the reasons and how should one respond to them? If it can be salvaged, can the issue be resolved with a unified approach?

"Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationship" and "It Turns Out That Understanding Is More Important Than Love" are recommended to the questioner. Despite our claims of love for our significant others, we often cause them pain in various ways. To achieve true happiness, we must learn to truly love.

I hope my response is of assistance to the questioner. Best regards,

An understanding hug!

From your boyfriend's reply, you can feel the unstoppable efforts you have made to save this love, as well as the fear of losing it, which you think about day and night. You have worked hard, my girl, and you're doing great!

You've already got the answer you're looking for! It's there in your heart, just waiting to be revealed. I'm sure you'll find the answer you're looking for when you chat with everyone here.

[Refusal with tact]

There are 1,000 Hamlets in the eyes of 1,000 people, which means there are 1,000 different ways of looking at things! The way my boyfriend phrased it made me feel like I had received a {tactful rejection}, which was a great way of putting it.

He said, "You don't have any problems! It's that I've given up the idea of falling in love, getting married, and having children because I'm suited to being a lonely person. Sorry! What's deleted is deleted forever!"

I don't know what happened between you two, but it's not as if a man should give up his natural attributes just because you're not suitable for marriage and children. There are so many other great options out there for him! So what's there to talk about loneliness? So what he wants to express may just be his disappointment and letting go of the relationship between you two, "deleting forever."

?[Reprimand]

He said, "Last night didn't disturb me because I fell asleep with the ringer turned off, but it's really not good to make a big deal about it and affect other people."

I have to say, this boyfriend is really well-mannered, always expressing himself gently, even though he feels disturbed and the adverse influence of public opinion. You should thank him here for giving you a decent chance to turn things around!

However, don't miss the hidden meaning behind his words! He and everyone around him are eager to make sure something like this never happens again.

[Entanglement]

The entanglement here refers to emotional entanglement. You have put your heart and soul into the relationship, and the one who loves deeply is also deeply hurt and finds it more difficult to let go. You are reluctant to let go, unwilling to accept the situation, and desperately hoping to continue the relationship.

So you make various efforts, send him messages, and reconnect with him through the people around him, trying to win him back!

[Anxious]

For example, falling in love is like playing table tennis: there has to be give and take for the game to continue. If the other person stops returning the ball or even turns away, then the game is over. But don't worry! You're not fighting alone. You just need to figure out if this is just a timeout or the end of the game.

[Reflection]

No matter how good a relationship was in the past, once problems arise, it's time to face the cause of the problem head-on! The past "good" cannot cover up the current "bad."

Take a deep breath, get a grip, and find out where the problem lies, whether it is him or you; what the nature of the problem is, whether it is worth being forgiven, and whether it has touched the bottom line. This also relates to how likely the relationship is to be salvaged—and it's going to be!

Once you have figured out the situation and sorted out the issues, you will be able to make the best decision—and it'll be the right one!

I love you so much, dear girl! The world and I love you!

The questioner was so eager to get back together with her boyfriend that she completely ignored her own feelings and just asked if they could get back together. It's clear that she's ready to take action and make things right!

The questioner has ignored his own feelings, but I can feel the current pain and helplessness of the questioner, and I'm here to help! I want to hug you! Although there is no description of this part about his own feelings, I can also feel the current pain and helplessness of the questioner. At the same time, I feel particularly sorry for you, and you have done a lot of things that have neither gained understanding nor received a response. But I'm here to help!

We all understand the desire of the questioner to want to salvage the relationship, and I have also experienced being broken up with. There is a saying that goes, "If you want to solve a problem, you must first accept your emotions." The questioner should first accept their emotions, make adjustments, and carefully analyze the meaning behind these emotions. Once they've done that, they'll be ready to take the next step!

I feel so bad! What could be the reason for wanting to get back together? Is it because my boyfriend is so good that I really don't want to let him go?

Or maybe he feels abandoned after being broken up with? Or could it be that there's a sunk cost of time in a relationship that has been going on for so long?

The questioner also needs to think about what these bad emotions will bring us! This is a great chance to realize the importance of her boyfriend.

It's important to remember that when we're feeling emotional, our decisions and methods might not always be the best. But that's okay! We can learn and grow from our mistakes.

If the questioner accepts his emotions and adjusts his emotional, external, and internal state, then he's definitely worth saving! What good methods should we use to get back together?

It's time to find some of your previous happy memories or scenes that can awaken each other! Think about the things or food that the other person likes, prepare it for him, or use some very ritualistic methods such as writing letters and creating some birthday surprises. You mentioned in your text message that he wants to give up dating, getting married, and having children. So, you can find the right opportunity or way to show him the happiness that other people's happy children can bring him!

If the questioner can adjust his emotions and state and then take the next step, he'll be well on his way to getting back together! Showing the other person your best self is the best way to encourage them to get back together.