What if an 18-year-old high school girl falls for the wrong guy? She is very distressed.

Hello. From your description, I can see that you are well-balanced, but I also see that you are experiencing some conflicts and feelings of helplessness.

I am a psychological counselor, and I am going to talk to you about my understanding from a psychological perspective. Your relationship with your father: your father loves you very much and takes care of your daily life. However, as an adolescent girl, you have an ideal image of your father inside you. You see him as someone who understands you, is gentle and considerate, and sees your injured hand (the self-harm and helplessness you experienced when you were disinterested in school and depressed). The teacher is very warm, and he pays close attention to every student who loves music, especially when you were in the most painful and helpless state. You were also warmed by the teacher's attention, and a good teacher-student relationship was established. You also like music, and your mood has improved a lot. (In psychology, being seen and understood. At this time, the teacher is your internal ideal object image.) All these wonderful feelings are in your inner world, but in the face of separation, you feel anxious again. You have a sense of loss and also a moral level of not being able to love.

How do you resolve this conflict?

First, know yourself. Internalize the external warmth and attention. You are a lovely little girl. In this world, you have a father, teachers, and many friends who support and help you. You deserve this love.

Second, accept yourself. Adolescent boys and girls will have a naïve love for the opposite sex. This love has been experienced and felt before, and it is a kind of enjoyment. There is no need to blame or feel guilty. Carry this beautiful feeling with you as you study hard, and learn to be grateful. When you learn to love, you will create more sources of love and help those who need more attention, support, and help. For example, psychological counseling also uses professional knowledge to help depressed and anxious visitors, to give inner attention, warmth, and empathy.

Third, leave your teacher, but take with you the expectations he has for you, and go learn even better. After graduating from high school, get good grades to repay your teacher for his support! Love needs to be passed on. Meeting a good teacher is your destiny. You can also become an educator, having experienced loneliness, helplessness, and pain, and better help students who have had such experiences.

If you like music, you should definitely learn a lot of music theory. Go out there and make your dreams come true!

Finally, look at the trauma and look at the resources at the same time. Your description is full of sadness, helplessness, and separation anxiety. I also hope that you can take the attention of your teachers, the support of your father, and the care of your friends, and work hard to be the best you can be in the second half of your senior year. The world and I love you, and you must love yourself too. You can do this.

Hello! Thanks for inviting me to join the conversation.

The title is "What if you like someone you shouldn't?" and the text says that you like your guitar teacher and he gives you strength.

I'm a little curious about this part because it's also pretty common for high school students to fall in love at this age. What exactly is the situation with the "person you shouldn't like"?

The last time he encouraged me to study, I resisted at first and didn't take it seriously. But recently, after a few days, I was able to devote myself to studying.

Right now, your guitar teacher is having a positive effect on you. He's helping you with your studies and being there for you when you need him. It seems like you're feeling sad because you can't go to guitar lessons for a while. This might be because you're worried about being separated from your teacher.

You're motivated to learn with him around. From what I've seen, when we feel good, when we feel loved, and when we feel like we're full inside, we naturally have energy to spare. It's human nature to want to grow.

Another way to motivate yourself is to write down all the things you do well every day, even if they're small things. When you have a list, it'll boost your confidence and motivation.

I don't know what it is about him that I like. Is it his mystery? Why does he give me such strength? I've liked similar people before, but it never worked out. How do I get along with him and find a balance?

You're curious about what you like about your guitar teacher. He noticed the injury on your hand right away and asked how it happened. He also cares about you in class and isn't put off by your lack of response.

Maybe it's his attention and care for you, or the fact that he focuses on you. Either way, it's what everyone wants: to be seen and cared for. When we feel seen and cared for, it makes us feel loved and valuable.

We all have some kind of deficit in our childhood experiences. There's no such thing as a perfect childhood. What hurts us is not having good relationships, and what heals us is having good relationships.

If the guitar teacher is single, it'll probably be easier to manage. It might just come down to balancing studies and relationships.

My father is very supportive, taking care of all the household chores and offering guidance, but I'm unsure how to approach him about my personal challenges.

If you're not ready to talk about yourself, try asking your father to tell you more about his past, his friends, and anything else that's relevant to him. Sharing your thoughts and feelings can bring people closer together.

Best regards!

Just wanted to check in and see how things are going.

It's totally normal for us to like certain people more during our teenage years. It could be because they're really charismatic or have more experience than us. Or it could be that we fall in love with teachers who are much older than us because they're so kind and attentive.

And he can help you find some of your wounds and persuade you to learn something that really means something to you. Learning is still important at this age! It determines what kind of university you will go to and what your future class wage will be. What is it like?

Your heart knows, sweetheart, that you've fallen for someone you shouldn't.

It's totally normal to have different interests and career goals when you're in a relationship. It might be easier to like him for a while, but it's not always easy to fall in love with someone and get along with them for the rest of your life without any conflicts. You're still learning and growing as an adult, and it's natural to feel a little anxious or irritable sometimes.

It's okay if you can't devote yourself to your current studies, if you're feeling distressed, if you have school-phobia, if you're anxious, if you have fantasies, if you're willing to take risks, if you desire constant care and companionship, or if you desire to find a balance. It's also okay if there are many people in your life who care about you. We just need to recognize what our hearts need. Maybe what you need is a calm inner self, and you don't want to let yourself be tortured by the outside world too much. Then we need to realize that some people we just like, and we don't need to be with them.

You know that being with him may not last long, and there may be many obstacles, and the two of you may not necessarily be a good match. You're still very young, just becoming an adult, so you have a lot of time ahead of you. You may really meet someone who is right for you, not just a temporary infatuation. When we were adolescents, we might have liked someone because we were ignorant.

It's important to know the difference between liking someone and loving them. We can like lots of people, but true love is only for one person. And it's only when two people can truly be together and like each other that it's called love. It's also a great idea to get out there and experience life and society more, so that you can improve your learning and get good grades as much as possible. That way, if you go to university, you can develop yourself more comprehensively.

In the future, let yourself become the amazing, talented person you were born to be, not just a small-town writer. For our own future plans and our own future lives, we need to make good plans for ourselves and be able to make the necessary choices. Sometimes you have to give up something to gain something, and we may have to let go of things slowly when necessary. We may slowly let go of things in our lives that we don't really need, and let ourselves go further.

And we absolutely have to cherish some of our own feelings!

Even if I can't be with him now, I'll always remember the time we spent together as a real treasure. It'll always be there for me, a source of warmth when I'm feeling down. I'll smile and keep moving forward when I think of him. If you need it, I recommend seeking counseling or talking to someone. You'll feel so much better! Good luck!

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Hello, I'm Mo Mo, a counselor, and I'm happy to answer your question to the best of my ability.

From what you've shared, I get the impression that you're facing some challenges and difficulties. The image of a wounded hand, for instance, evokes a sense of pain and trauma. I'm hopeful that the injury is merely an unfortunate accident. In your pursuit of change and growth, you've taken the courageous step of learning to play the guitar. You view this as "taking a risk," and I can imagine that it involved a lot of inner turmoil before you made this choice.

You are fortunate to have encountered a kind and perceptive teacher who has taken note of your struggles and offers you encouragement and support. You feel accepted and cared for, and are motivated to dedicate yourself to your studies.

However, as the school year progressed, the demanding workload of your senior year led you to forego your hobbies, which has unfortunately resulted in the loss of your weekly period of relaxation and the opportunity to see this teacher. This may have contributed to the intensification of your anxiety, and at the same time, you are understandably hesitant to relinquish the limited support and comfort you have finally found. How can you navigate this pivotal stretch of your senior year?

Love in adolescence can be a simple thing. It can be as simple as a little care from another person, which can make someone fall in love. However, it seems that there might be some room for improvement in this area, particularly in terms of the level of care and attention you receive from your father (and mother?).

(You didn't mention your mother.) It's possible that you haven't received enough loving support, and that your school refusal and anxiety are the result of your parents' overemphasis on your academic performance.

You say that your father does a lot of the housework and cares about you, but you're not sure how to tell him your secrets. I imagine that your father is a good provider, but perhaps he doesn't fully understand your emotional needs. It's understandable that you might not feel comfortable sharing your problems with him, especially at school.

You are facing some challenges at the moment and have decided to seek guidance.

If I may, I would like to share some thoughts with you.

1. It could be said that true love is built on a deep understanding of the other person, a special emotional connection with a specific person, and a mutual desire to be together.

It seems that you feel a sense of love for someone who is not necessarily worthy of such feelings. Perhaps it is a feeling of being loved, because the other person's gentleness, care, and tolerance are qualities that you lack in your life and that you crave so desperately. It could be compared to the feeling of a long-awaited rain after a drought.

It is likely that his tenderness is not just for you, but for everyone. It may be a result of his professional ethics as a teacher, or perhaps it is simply his personality.

It's possible that what you're seeking is simply a sense of being loved.

2. I believe you are a perceptive child. Although you say you are tired of studying, you seem to know what you need to do. You even want to stop this one chance to relax after school starts. Therefore, you are able to devote yourself to studying just with the encouragement of a teacher you have not known for long and have not had much contact with.

It would be beneficial for you to have continuous support and companionship.

3. Instead of seeking the support of someone you don't know well, it might be more beneficial to look for more certain resources. You have a father who loves you and is willing to give you his all without expecting anything in return (something only parents can do), but there might be room for improvement in your previous communication patterns.

If it is possible, it might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your father (it would be ideal if both parents were present). You could use this opportunity to express your needs and suggest ways in which you would like to be treated.

It would be ideal if your parents were able to accept your advice and, for your sake, learn to control their anxiety, truly respect you, care about you, and accompany you through these crucial months of your final year of high school.

4. You might also consider seeking professional help. It may be helpful to make a strong statement to your parents and find a counselor to accompany you and provide support.

I hope you will soon overcome your emotional distress and work hard to achieve your goals in life.

Hello, young lady! Thank you so much for sharing and confiding in me. As I read your words, I was reminded of my own young and inexperienced days. What a bittersweet and beautiful time it was!

You're secretly crushing on someone, and even though you know it's not right, you can't help but think about them, miss them, and fantasize about them. There's a sweetness there, but also a lot of helplessness, powerlessness, and confusion. Sending you lots of hugs, and hugs to all of us who are still young at heart!

First of all, congratulations on being such a well-rounded person! You have a lot of great qualities. You're romantic and sensitive, like most girls your age. But you're also pretty level-headed. You're not sure if you like him for who he is or just because he's mysterious. You've asked this question in a way that shows you're not impulsive or blind. You're already starting to realize that what you like may be something other than the liking itself. You like, need, and are reluctant to let go of this person, but what you like, need, and are reluctant to let go of is something else. You're not sure what this thing is, so you're feeling confused and torn. You're trying to decide whether or not to continue maintaining contact with this person. If you do, how do you balance your state of mind?

My dear girl, I can see that what you like, need, and are reluctant to let go of has always been there, but you're just in the middle of it right now. I can understand a bit from your description:

It's so lovely when someone cares about you and is gentle. If a man is a good father, then when his daughter grows up, she will most likely like the same type of man as her father.

You say that your father is a man who takes care of the household and cares about you. My dear girl, I'll be honest with you: it's very rare for a man at your father's age to be able to do this. If you look at the fathers of other children, you'll see. I won't go into detail here. You can see that you love your father, so you would also like a man of the opposite sex who cares about you and loves you in the same way. It's just that there's an age gap between you and your father, and it's also possible that your father is so busy with work and household chores that he has no time to pay attention to your spiritual world. So you feel that no one around you understands your romance, fantasies, and expectations. That's why you're lonely, and that's why you want someone who understands you spiritually.

At this time, you met your guitar teacher, who is young, who also happens to like music, and who is a gentle person who cares about your hand and your studies. So, you feel that he understands you, and that's a good thing!

But you might be wondering if he's just a nice person in general, or if he's particularly understanding and nice to you.

Let me put it this way, sweetheart: if this teacher only treats you like this, you can run away immediately, as far away as possible, and stay away from this teacher. It's pretty obvious that his motives and intentions are not pure. It's not normal for an adult to be partial to a student like this. It's probably best to stay away from him for now. If he's nice to everyone, it means that this person is not a bad person.

If that's the case, you'll feel much better. He's just an average person who is nice and treats everyone well.

Maybe right now, the most important thing is not to figure out if you really like him or not, or if you want to keep contacting him. The most important thing is that you understand yourself and what psychological needs are hidden behind your likes. Once you see your inner needs, you might think of other ways to satisfy them, rather than just obsessing over this one person.

Maybe you've been longing to find someone who can really connect with you on a deep level. Someone you can chat with without any misunderstandings, someone you can sing and play the piano with, someone who can help you take a break from the pressures of your senior year. You need a space and an outlet to catch your breath. You may not really like this person, and this person may not really understand you. But when your inner desires erupted, they just happened to enter your life. Once you think about this, don't you feel like you can really be yourself around this person?

You can face him more calmly, you know.

If you're still feeling stressed, give yourself some time. There's no need to rush to find an answer. Often, time and experience will give you the answer. If you still feel that you can't face him calmly, it might help to temporarily withdraw your energy and satisfy your inner needs through other means, such as reading, writing, or other forms of therapy. Writing about your mood and thoughts every day can be a great way to understand yourself better. It can also help you learn to soothe yourself. This is something we all need to learn, and it will benefit you for life. It will help you safely navigate the long years of your life, even if you encounter storms and waves. You will not be afraid. Whether you have family and loved ones around you or not, there will always be someone who firmly sees you, comforts you, and stays with you, and that person is yourself.

You can watch movies and read books about music, read biographies of people related to art, and see if you can have a spiritual resonance with historical figures across time and space. If you can, it'll be a truly amazing experience! Recording this kind of resonance will add a little spice to your life and give you more ideals in life.

Once you've passed the college entrance exam, you'll find there are plenty more hurdles in life, with surprises, pleasant surprises, and maybe even more surprises than pleasant ones! But it's these little surprises and pleasant surprises that will support you as you walk through the future. When you take your perspective away from the guitar teacher in front of you, the lonely life of a senior in high school, and look at the entire world, you'll feel less entangled and your thoughts will become lighter.

Don't be in a hurry to make up your mind about the people and things you like. Take a little step forward, take a look around, and take a good look at yourself. You'll find a different landscape and a different you.

You're doing great, girl! Keep up the good work!

Hello!

Thank you for inviting me. I hope my answer helps.

I'm serious. I've read your question many times to understand you. I've tried to imagine being in your shoes. I'm doing this because I feel it's hard for high school students, especially your generation, which has been affected by the pandemic for three years.

Your dad is nice. He does the housework and cares about you. It's hard to talk to your dad about girls, but you can feel his love. You're lucky.

You said you're a senior in high school, so I have a question. When you say you "shouldn't like" someone, does that mean you're in your senior year?

Or is there another reason?

It's normal to feel this way. It's a feeling every young girl has. It's okay to feel this way. You're beautiful because of this feeling. How long can you study?

Even if you fantasize about someone you like again after a few days.

You've been studying hard for days, so today is a day for rest.

There's a limit to everything, and it would be bad if you overdid it. You've only been doing this for a day, and you've already noticed it affecting your studies. You've come here in time to ask a question, which shows you have just the right amount of control. This just right amount of fantasy will become your driving force moving forward.

What's the best way to proceed? I'll share my views based on my experience!

First, accept the situation. You are in your third year of high school, anxious, disliking school, and falling for the wrong person. This is normal, so accept it. Emotions protect our bodies. Which emotion is coming?

Face her. Let the emotions come and go. Most high school seniors feel this way. Who can accept this situation? Who can get through it better?

Second, accept your situation and make slight adjustments. Find out why you don't like this person.

Try to like her less. You said you don't know what you like about her. Is it the mystery?

You learned to play guitar to change your life. This teacher was warm-hearted and good to you and other students. He wanted his students to make progress.

This is the right time for you to be learning the guitar. It will help you feel more motivated and less anxious. You wanted to change your life, and learning the guitar has helped you do that. Now you can think about making some more changes.

Keep an open mind and let things happen. I've tried my best, but I don't need to see results in others' feedback. You said you disliked school three years ago and still do. You're in high school and taking the college entrance exam. You've also found motivation to study, which is a problem. Despite trouble, you can still study. I don't know how to deal with him and maintain balance. I'm not worried. You said you felt this way three years ago and it ended without incident. I believe you can do it!

Make this last period of your high school life beautiful! The world and I love you!

Dear girl, Thank you for inviting me to answer your question. I can sense your distress, and I'm here to support you. Let's explore this together with a sense of calm and understanding.

1. Recently, I've been experiencing some challenges in maintaining my interest in school, feeling anxious, and experiencing a consistently bad mood. It's been difficult for me to calm down. The other day, I finally studied hard, but yesterday I found it challenging to resume my studies. I spent the whole day indulging in fantasies. Even when there are people around, I find myself fantasizing about chatting with the person I like, joking around, playing the piano, and singing.

I can appreciate your situation. Senior year is already demanding, with a heavy workload and a lot of pressure. It's not easy to find moments of joy and connection outside of your studies, which can leave a lasting impression. If you're feeling overwhelmed, it might be helpful to take a short break. You could reach out to your guitar teacher for a chat, or spend some time in nature.

2. You enjoy learning guitar with your teacher. You started last summer and, while you don't have a lot of musical talent, you were brave enough to learn because you want to make some changes in your life and are willing to take risks. Your teacher noticed injuries on your hands and asked about them, but you said you were fine.

He also cares about you in class, even if you don't respond. He is really gentle with everyone.

It's not uncommon for young women to develop a crush on a male teacher who is also knowledgeable about music. It's a natural part of adolescence to want physical contact when learning to play the guitar. Many girls enjoy romance and fantasy and expect others to pay attention to them and treat them with gentleness. Your teacher seems to fit these criteria, and if you also find him attractive, it's understandable why you might be tempted. This is a normal part of growing up.

It's great that you're taking the time to study and meet someone who cares about you. However, as you mentioned, your guitar teacher is very gentle with everyone, and there may be a slight age difference between you. It's important not to add your own ideas of what the perfect opposite sex should be like to him. It's likely that he's treating you with affection as a student.

You may choose to remain in love and view his care for you as love. However, it might be helpful to consider whether, if you returned to your normal life and removed the filter that makes you see him as a romantic ideal, you could get along with him normally. Assuming that you have a wonderful love, would you be willing to give up trying other things in life for him and not try the freedom and joy of college romance?

I wonder if I might ask whether there will be an age gap between you?

3. At first, you were reluctant to study and didn't respond to him seriously. However, recently, you were able to devote yourself to studying. It seems that maintaining this state requires his continued care and company, which may be difficult for you to persist alone.

Perhaps you haven't yet discovered your own internal motivation to learn. You may rely on other people's care and encouragement to learn, and as soon as things get a little difficult, you feel like giving up. To be honest, life in your third year of high school can feel a bit dull and challenging, but as long as you have the enthusiasm to learn and think about your bright future, I believe this is just a phase. You could try learning to paint pictures of your future for yourself, such as meeting a better guy in college, or doing whatever you want with your own money after you get a job. This could be a more positive way of thinking than secretly having a crush, which may not be supported by your family and could also affect your college entrance exam results.

4. Once the semester begins, it may become challenging to attend piano lessons, even the weekly hour. You are feeling anxious and uncertain about how to proceed. You're curious about what it is about him that I find appealing, the mystery perhaps? Why does he give you this strength?

I had a similar experience with someone like him before, but it didn't lead to anything. How should you approach getting along with him? It might be helpful to find a balance.

It is understandable that you might feel reluctant to give up the freedom to learn to play the piano, especially if you only have an hour a week. The strength he gives you lies in his care for you, and the fact that music itself also gives people comfort. This dual feeling might make you mistake it for budding love during your adolescence.

You may wish to consider keeping this love in your heart and turning it into motivation to study. It might be helpful to treat him like any other teacher or friend. It's possible to get along naturally without too much burden. After the college entrance examination, you might like to get in touch more often.

5. Your father is very good to you, doing all the housework and caring for you. However, you may find it challenging to know how to talk to him about your problems. It's understandable that you might not know where to start. After all, your father is the authority figure in the family and an elder, and there may be a certain sense of distance. It's perfectly okay if you don't want to talk to him. You can always talk to your best friend or the school counselor if you'd like.

Your focus at the moment is on your studies, and it's nice to like it. You've met a great music teacher, but if you want the good times to last, you might want to consider getting your mind back on your studies. You can get closer to your guitar teacher after the college entrance exam. Or you can use him as your motivation to study hard, to be able to match him and get into a good university. With your interests and expertise, even if you fall in love, you will still be a good match. He is good at music, and you have your own strengths, which are just as valuable as his.

I hope this is helpful for you. Having knowledge and culture makes a person graceful. I encourage you, as a young lady, to embrace knowledge and not give up too soon.

My child, I will first analyze the psychological causes and development trajectory of your liking for your teacher, and then I will give you advice.

Adoration and its development

It's not unusual for girls to have a crush on their male teachers when they're students. It's also not uncommon for girls to like their teachers. Girls tend to mature psychologically earlier than boys of the same age. Most of their male classmates are still immature, while their teachers seem mature, stable, knowledgeable, and well-informed compared to their male classmates.

Female students often have a secret crush on a male teacher. This is not a real sense of liking between men and women; it is merely admiration and an illusion. As girls mature mentally and physically, their secret crushes and likes for teachers will fade away.

1. Focus on your studies and don't let it affect your learning.

As a student, your main priority is your studies. You need to focus on that and not let your feelings for the teacher affect your work. I'm sure you'd agree that as a responsible teacher, you wouldn't want your feelings for him to affect your studies.

You must know what's important. Understand what's most important for you as a student right now. Don't let your studies suffer because you like your teacher.

2. Distract yourself and learn to control your emotions.

Get to know more friends your age, enrich your spare time, and stop focusing all your attention on your favorite teacher. Distract yourself and pay less attention to this teacher.

You must learn to control your emotions and not let them spread and develop. You are still a student, and you need to know the difference between what is important and what is not. Understand that this kind of affection is just an adoring episode, not true love.

3. Keep your feelings to yourself and use them as motivation.

You like that teacher for a reason. Learn from them. Improve yourself, enrich yourself, and let yourself grow healthily and vigorously.

Keep the feeling in your heart and use it as motivation to forge ahead on the path of life and become an outstanding individual. This is the best reward for you, your teachers, and your parents.

When you become an adult and look back, you will be grateful for your hard work.

It is a common phenomenon for female students to like individual male teachers. It is also a relatively sensitive topic. However, if it is guided and treated reasonably, then this kind of liking can be transformed into motivation and can become positive energy.

If not handled properly, it can have a negative impact on the relationship between teachers and students, as well as on the physical and mental health and academic performance of students. It is essential for both students and teachers to be vigilant and to refrain from crossing the line in their thoughts and actions.

Good day, question asker. My name is Evan.

From the questioner's own account, it is evident that the questioner is attracted to the guitar teacher, yet feels that this feeling is not recognized and is uncertain as to what she likes about him, which causes her to fall into negative emotions. The questioner's description is reminiscent of a situation in which an individual is drowning and, even if a piece of driftwood floats by, they will grasp it with great determination.

The questioner himself described it as follows: unable to concentrate on his studies, he sought a change by learning to play the guitar, and this guitar teacher helped him realize this idea. Alternatively, his appearance served as a metaphorical flotation board, providing the questioner with the support and guidance he needed to navigate challenges. In this way, the questioner would like to express gratitude towards the teacher. This phenomenon is not uncommon.

When the questioner is in a depressed state of mind, even a seemingly innocuous act of kindness can elicit feelings of gratitude towards the individual in question. When confronted with the affectionate demeanor of the music teacher, it is evident that the questioner is seeking something from this intimate relationship.

It is essential for the questioner to engage in careful self-reflection to ascertain their desired outcome from this relationship.

The questioner's reluctance to communicate with his father, despite the latter's benevolence, is a source of perplexity. It is my hope that I can provide the questioner with a degree of emotional support and facilitate his understanding of his own thoughts.

In light of the aforementioned circumstances, it seems prudent to offer the questioner some counsel regarding this emotional matter.

The necessity of accepting one's current state is paramount.

The student's feelings towards the teacher may be attributed to the fact that the teacher provided assistance previously, which has resulted in a shift in the student's sentiments. This is a common occurrence. When the student encountered difficulties in acquiring the requisite knowledge for high school, it was the teacher's approach and guidance that facilitated a transformation in the student's perspective.

It is possible that the questioner has had numerous close individuals in the past who have provided similar encouragement, yet this particular teacher's input has had a more profound impact, leading to a shift in the questioner's perception of the teacher. In light of these sentiments, it is understandable that the questioner's emotional state would be multifaceted.

It is essential for the questioner to ascertain whether this intimate relationship aligns with their desires and, if so, to identify the emotional implications of accepting this relationship. What emotions does this relationship evoke in the questioner, and how do these emotions compare to those currently experienced? Are they positive or negative?

This relationship evokes a range of emotions in the questioner. It necessitates that the questioner acknowledge and accept these emotions, while avoiding deliberate forgetfulness or opposition. To navigate this relationship, the questioner may benefit from engaging in activities that facilitate personal growth, such as reading books on the subject. This can assist the questioner in moving beyond this relationship.

It is possible to consider this relationship in a considered and reflective manner. It may be that the current situation is one that is unfavorable and that emotional support is required. It is important not to reject this feeling, but rather to accept it. However, it is also important not to act upon it prematurely. It may be beneficial to allow time to elapse and to observe whether the feeling persists after the conclusion of the examination period and the commencement of university studies. Once this has been determined, the next step can be taken.

It is imperative to prioritize self-care.

It is important to maintain a healthy outlook and avoid self-harm, alcohol abuse, overeating, or excessive exercise. It is essential to prioritize self-care, nourishment, adequate rest, and, when feasible, engagement in enjoyable activities, even if they are simple.

A beneficial, supportive relationship can significantly impact an individual's personal growth and self-discovery. However, it is essential to understand the nature of this relationship. Is it a teacher-student dynamic, or a romantic relationship between a male and a female?

It is therefore imperative that the questioner conduct a thorough examination of the current relationship with the teacher. What are the questioner's expectations from this relationship? What are the questioner's needs? If the questioner were to invest all of their emotional capital into this intimate relationship, would they achieve their desired outcome?

It is essential to consider what the questioner might lose in this situation. This requires careful observation on the part of the questioner.

It is advisable to seek the counsel of a trusted individual.

Such an emotional state can cause distress and feelings of being at a loss. During this period, it is beneficial to seek support from trusted individuals, including friends, family, and professional counseling. If these resources are not available, seeking guidance from a psychologist can be helpful.

A competent counselor will assist the client in identifying the origin of their emotions, re-evaluating their current situation, and facilitating necessary adjustments. It is crucial for the client to gain clarity on their desired characteristics in an intimate relationship.

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It is recommended that a temporary separation from the relationship be considered.

In the event that the feelings in question have caused confusion and pain for the questioner and the questioner is unable to decide how to handle the current relationship, it may be advisable to temporarily distance oneself from the relationship. It would be prudent to calm oneself down for a while and focus on the things one should be doing right now.

During this period of separation, it is advisable to refrain from contacting the teacher unprompted and to avoid dwelling on the matter. In the event that the relationship is not aligned with the questioner's preferences, but rather represents a sense of gratitude cultivated within the given environment, the questioner may utilize this interval to contemplate the most appropriate course of action regarding the relationship.

It is advisable to maintain a sense of purpose and engagement through pursuing one's studies or other activities.

Once a state of composure has been achieved, the individual in question can then direct their attention to their current academic pursuits or other interests. It is imperative that they do not allow themselves to become idle.

Individuals possess disparate attitudes toward relationships. Even if one is unable to disengage, it is advisable to immerse oneself in academic pursuits or personal endeavors to ascertain whether the relationship aligns with one's preferences.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the original poster.

Hello, girl. Thanks for the invite.

I've read your question and from it, I get the impression you're a child with a lot of emotions and a strong sense of self.

You are a girl who needs company and support!

Eighteen is a magical age!

You feel attached to your guitar teacher because you're learning to play the guitar.

He is kind and cares about you.

It's normal to feel this way as you develop a romantic attachment. Many children do this.

Try to accept these feelings.

Be aware of which quality of the teacher you really like.

Has this quality appeared in someone else?

You and your teacher have a special relationship. Keep a proper distance!

Your mood can change. Your teacher's encouragement is effective. You can devote yourself to your studies.

This shows the relationship has a positive effect and can motivate you.

You are powerful. You just need support!

Use your teacher's expectations and concerns as motivation to study hard and meet a better person of the opposite sex.

You talked about your father. He's good to you and does the housework, but you don't know how to talk to him about your problems.

Your father is a good father, but you may have trouble talking to him. Some things are harder to talk about with your father!

I don't know how you and your mother are doing.

Your mother is experienced and can understand you.

If you can't talk to your mother, talk to a trusted aunt or similar.

Write in a diary to sort out your emotions.

When you have emotions, accept them. Then tell yourself, "Back to the present!"

First, complete your tasks. Are you still studying?

If you can't figure something out, you can ask here like you did today. There are lots of people here who can help you.

I hope you find love soon! ?