What if I'm scared, anxious, nervous, and hate socializing when I go to a new school?

Hello friend, You might be making your fear, anxiety, and nervousness worse.

You haven't said much. Are you afraid of the new environment because something bad happened before?

If so, you can think about the situation differently.

Do you have thoughts like "generalizations," "overgeneralizations," and "terrible"?

These are all wrong.

You feel afraid, anxious, and nervous.

Are you thinking about going to a new environment where new classmates don't like you?

Do you think the new classmates are difficult to get along with?

Do you like yourself?

If you don't accept yourself, you might think others don't accept you.

You can identify your strengths and a happy period in your relationship.

Tell yourself you're not bad and some friends still like you.

Plan a new school year.

How can you learn more to get a higher score?

Set goals for the new semester.

Read and memorize words every day.

Exercise a few times a week.

If you finish school, you can read books you like and make friends.

Does this help?

Good day, colleague. I can see the confusion you are facing.

You are experiencing some interpersonal issues. Please accept this gesture of support and understanding.

It is likely that you had a negative experience when you were adjusting to your new learning environment.

If the answer is affirmative, it must be addressed and resolved.

Otherwise, the negative experience will not resolve itself, and it will continue to affect you in the future.

It has merely been relegated to your subconscious.

In the future, when you are required to adapt to a new environment, that negative experience will resurface.

Classmate, what are your plans for moving forward?

I recommend that you consult with a professional counselor to formally address the challenges you have faced in adjusting to your new environment at school.

Otherwise, you may encounter significant difficulties in adapting to a new learning environment for the remainder of your academic career.

Consequently, addressing the psychological trauma resulting from adapting to a new learning environment in the past is an effective method for treating both the symptoms and the underlying cause.

I hope you will be able to find an effective solution to the problem you are facing soon.

Please be advised that these are the only suggestions I can offer at this time.

I hope my above responses are helpful and inspiring to you. I am available to answer any further questions you may have.

At Yixinli, we extend our best wishes to you and the world.

Hello, classmate! I saw your description and I totally get how you feel. I really hope my sharing can help!

We all have this amazing psychological characteristic! Whenever we go to an unfamiliar environment, we will have a lot of resistance and fear inside, and a voice will come up in our minds: why did I come to this place?

It will also gradually give rise to feelings of depression and loneliness in us.

The so-called feeling of loneliness and depression is actually a reaction to closed-mindedness. It's the feeling of loneliness caused by feeling isolated from the outside world or being rejected by it.

It's clear from your text that you've not had many opportunities to travel far and wide. And it's also evident that you've not lived in school for very long during your studies.

So, when you have to leave your home and go to high school far away from home, you will have the exciting opportunity to adapt to a new environment! The place will be unfamiliar to you, you won't have any friends there, and everything you see and meet will feel strange to you.

And this feeling of strangeness will slowly cause you to feel depressed and lonely?

There is a strong feeling of loneliness, and there are really several factors:

First of all, it is definitely due to the external environment. As you said in your article, you get to leave home to go to a vocational high school far away from home, which is the so-called external environment. There are also unfamiliar classmates, which will make you feel some psychological defense.

This will gradually make you feel a little lonely, but that's OK!

Secondly, your text shows that you are somewhat introverted, which is great!

From what you've said, it's clear you want to leave the unfamiliar crowd. This shows you're an introvert, which is totally fine! Introverts have different psychological characteristics, like not being used to expressing themselves, being reluctant to share their emotions, and being shy around others. But there's nothing wrong with that! Introverts often crave understanding from others, which is something we can all relate to.

When this kind of satisfaction isn't achieved, it can lead to a sense of loneliness.

And finally, it's also about social skills!

You said in the text that you hate socializing and don't want to interact with people. This shows that you are extremely insecure and you lack the necessary social skills. But there's no need to worry! We can help you build the social skills you need to feel confident and comfortable interacting with people.

For all these reasons, you are feeling the way you are feeling right now, and there's so much you can do to change it!

How can we change?

First, we have to adapt to our surroundings. In today's society, we should adapt to our environment, not let it adapt to us. You must accept the environment you are in and let it get closer to you!

Secondly, you need to build your self-confidence! It is precisely because you do not have a strong self-confidence that you are unwilling to interact with others. This makes you feel very strange, and you will feel a sense of homesickness in your heart, and you will not want to stay in this place. But you can change all of that!

We've also noticed that students with good grades or strong communication skills often have lots of friends!

All you need to do is unite with your classmates more! You can do more good deeds so that everyone remembers you. You can give your classmates a smile every day so that they can remember your smile. A classmate who is remembered for their smile every day will have many more classmates around them than someone who is sad every day.

From now on, embrace your current environment, share your smile with others, and make a positive impact! Do good deeds, boost your self-confidence, and watch your positivity shine!

I'm so excited to share this with you! I really hope it helps you in some way.