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Patting on the shoulder.
This kind of situation does exist and is very vivid. However, the reason why the questioner feels "belittled" is because when you hear that others always use such courageous "labels" to describe themselves, the other person unintentionally elevates himself. This elevates his status, and he rationalizes that there is no need to respect the other person's perception. This is why the conversation always feels uncomfortable.
If the other person truly had a desire, but could not obtain it through honest expression and communication, it indicates a lack of self-confidence and an eagerness to gain objective recognition from others. Their emotional expression will therefore be extreme or volatile.
For example, when encountering difficult problems, the other party will form such a stereotypical generalization due to a lack of experience and limited cognition.
"Why do you always do this?"
"You guys have always performed poorly."
Overly simplified information is worthless. It means there is not enough evidence to support the point of view. Therefore, people tend to simplify, but this is a subjective perception. To avoid getting caught up in disputes about problems, you must understand the concept of "unfounded uniform perception." It is also a way to protect one's position and dignity. However, people are unaware that behind the overemphasis on "correctness" is the emotional expression of "fear and terror." This behavior has many internal conflicts in the perception of the problem because people don't want to face it. They put the blame on the other person.
For example, colleagues often blame each other, saying things like, "It's all because of him. I wasn't able to complete the task successfully this time."
It may seem like just a complaint, but there's more to it than that. I'm dissatisfied with the relationship, I don't know what I want, and I tend to not express my feelings rationally.
This book offers a vague definition of "group labeling." How can you label an entire group and only take away their shortcomings, not their strengths? It's clear that you've lost your normal objectivity and judgment. This unbalanced perception affects your self-evaluation. You become unclear about your own evaluation and abilities, which leads to more disharmony and tension in your interpersonal relationships.
The questioner must focus on the goal of the conversation, express their negative feelings, and return to the topic when being labeled. If the other person remains biased and extreme, it is also a wise decision to choose to withdraw at the right time.
I am confident that the above answers will be helpful to you.
Best wishes!


Comments
When someone starts a conversation with generalizations like "you women..." or "the young people nowadays...", it can feel very alienating. It seems they might be trying to establish common ground based on stereotypes, but it ends up being quite offensive.
It's frustrating when conversations take such turns because it feels like your individuality is dismissed. Perhaps these remarks come from a place of misunderstanding or an attempt to simplify complex social dynamics into something more manageable for them.
Generalizing groups of people often reflects the speaker's biases and can stem from a lack of awareness or empathy. It's possible that by belittling others, they're seeking to affirm their own identity or position in a way that feels secure to them.
Conversations that generalize or stereotype can leave one feeling unheard and invalidated. Maybe those making such statements are not fully aware of the impact of their words and how they can marginalize individuals within the mentioned groups.
I think sometimes people use broad statements about groups to voice frustrations or opinions without taking responsibility for their thoughts. This behavior could be a defense mechanism or a way to cope with changes they don't understand or agree with.