What should I do if I feel so helpless when there are conflicts between roommates?

I can see how you're feeling. You want to be able to connect with them and form a real group, but they've isolated you. It's really sad, even a bit frustrating.

It often takes a little bit of fate for us to get along with other people. Not everyone we meet is going to get along with us quite well. We all have our own unique personalities, and some people may feel a sense of closeness without really knowing each other. However, there are also people with whom we just don't feel like we're the same type of person, no matter how long we spend together.

If they really are different people, we may need to accept that. After all, we'll meet many more people in the future, and we'll definitely meet people who are friendly and close to us.

There are also a lot of subtle emotions and thoughts among peers. Living in a dormitory gives us the chance to get along with each other, but it can also lead to more conflicts. There have been many conflicts before, and it may be helpful to carefully analyze what the specific conflicts are. It is also important to know how to deal with conflicts after they arise.

If you want to change your shortcomings, you may first need to understand whether it is really your shortcomings in the group that have led to this result. If so, what are your specific shortcomings? Do you agree with what they say about you? How does this specific shortcoming affect your interpersonal relationships? These may all require careful discussion to help you face and deal with them more appropriately next time.

The whole photo-taking thing felt like it was under a bit of pressure from competition among peers. How do we handle competition and comparison? This is probably the most important lesson to learn at this age. How do we maintain confidence in ourselves and appreciate the strengths of others in a peer group?

This could also be a challenge for you, and it's something we need to look at.

Hello! I'd like to give you a warm hug from afar first.

Not being accepted, understood, or respected by friends can really take a toll on you physically and mentally. It's understandable that you've been feeling a lot of negative emotions, including resentment, anger, helplessness, and a lack of control. It's great that you're aware of your emotional state, because being aware is the first step to making positive changes.

Often, how we interact with others reflects how we treat ourselves. If you feel like those around you aren't treating you kindly, take a step back and think about what you could do better in your interactions with them. Then, be open and honest about your feelings and needs, without judging others' words or actions. This honest and courageous approach helps you focus on yourself, rather than blaming others for how they treat you.

In relationships, other people often teach you how to treat them. The way you treat yourself will also affect how others respond to you. So, you need to try to learn to treat others in a certain way in relationships, just as you want to be treated.

From what you've said, it seems like you've gained some insight into how you act and feel in relationships. You can use this to help you manage relationships better by learning actively and with guidance from this self-awareness.

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.