What should I do if I find out my mom is cheating?

Good day. Reading your question evokes a sense of distress. It is evident that you experienced a range of intense emotions, including shock, anger, and even humiliation, when you discovered this secret.

Firstly, from your own perspective, regardless of the difficulties experienced by your parents in their marriage, they will always be your parents.

From your perspective, your mother's deception has created a dilemma for you, and you may wish you had no knowledge of it.

Alternatively, you feel a sense of alignment with your mother, while your father remains unaware. It appears that your mother's actions not only betrayed your father but also implicate you.

You are experiencing a sense of internal conflict between your mother and father, which is causing you anxiety.

Secondly, from the standpoint of the couple, both individuals are adults with a certain degree of life experience.

It is their prerogative as to whether they are capable of handling their own affairs. It is possible that they have already made plans, but have not yet informed you.

Finally, if you feel too burdened by maintaining this confidentiality, I advise you to schedule a candid discussion with your mother. It is essential to remain objective and impartial, listening attentively to her perspective with the mindset of a trusted advisor.

It is important to remember that the breakdown of a marriage is rarely the result of the actions of a single individual. As the old adage goes, "it takes two to tango." As a university student, you are likely familiar with the concept of approaching problems dialectically.

Ultimately, I hope you will refrain from interfering in their marital problems, as these are their personal matters. Our role is to respect and support others, not to dictate their decisions. You should focus on being a good child and maintaining a positive relationship with your parents, regardless of the future.

It is possible for them to love you just as much.

It is irrelevant whether you are currently able to hear me. This incident has had a significant impact on you, and it is essential that you process your emotions before attempting to address the situation in a logical manner.

No matter the circumstances, I want to reiterate that I and the world at large have nothing but love and support for you.

After observing the situation, I have contemplated the matter at length and am uncertain as to whether I should divulge the truth. However, you are on the cusp of taking the college entrance examination and should refrain from carrying this emotional burden, which will impede your progress and hinder your ability to move forward. When the truth is revealed, it will take time to adjust. In any case, this will have a negative impact on you, and you will only be able to confront the reality of the situation and stand on your own.

Firstly, it is imperative to comprehend that marriage and love are two distinct entities. While there are numerous factors that are intertwined, they are not synonymous.

It is likely that the relationship between your parents has reached its conclusion. The remaining state of their marriage (to be determined) represents a constraint and a restriction for each other, causing them to choose to keep it a secret from you. The reason for this is that they want you to have a complete family, or at least a family that appears to be complete. This is the choice that the majority of parents would make in this situation.

Once the college entrance exam has been taken, the mission will be considered complete. This is an unfortunate reality, and it is likely that you already have an understanding of the situation.

In this context, an alternative approach might be to:

It is recommended that your attention be focused on your studies. It should be noted that everyone is an independent individual. Although everyone's emotional needs are similar, they always have different trajectories.

However, one's parents remain one's parents and continue to love their children. When one needs them, one can cooperate with them in their actions, and they will still be very affectionate and willing to risk their lives for their children. This is one's reliance. When one focuses all one's attention on one's studies, it is partly to realize one's own value and partly to provide comfort to one's parents.

Once an individual has fully discerned their personal identity and established a coherent set of values, they will be better equipped to bear the burdens of life. The support and encouragement they receive from their parents will continue to be a source of strength and hope.

They have their own reasons, which are often difficult to comprehend. Despite their role as parents, individuals are still bound by the same constraints as anyone else. There are many things that parents may not want to face, and they may also act in ways that are self-serving in the long term.

As children, the greatest reward is the development of greater understanding and the ability to live a beautiful life, given the considerable distance that still lies ahead. The journey of life itself will also be long and beautiful.

Should you find this outcome challenging to accept, it is not implausible to request that they regain your affection. However, it is evident that you currently lack the capacity to do so. Upon entering university, you will gain a deeper understanding of the world and develop your own coping mechanisms and emotional experiences. This will afford you a multitude of viable avenues to achieve this goal.

It is of the utmost importance that you study, not only from books but also to learn to adapt. Should you find yourself in a situation where you are unable to extricate yourself, it is imperative that you discover a solution in a timely manner and seek assistance from a qualified professional or a person who is not closely associated with you but has no personal stake in the matter. It is my firm belief that there are numerous individuals who will support you and embrace the future that awaits you.

Despite the harsh reality of the situation, it is important to recognize the presence of love in the world.

Persevere!