What should I do if my 14-year-old daughter becomes cold and distant after a big fight with my wife?
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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
...It's like this: today my mom said she was taking me to a hot spring to relax before school starts. But on the way there, I was in a really bad mood because of a series of things, so I complained about things in the car and cried. Then my mom started scolding me, saying that I cry for no reason, blah blah blah. Then I got really angry and said, "Well, I can't cry if I want to?" Then we both arrived at the parking lot. I was not feeling well because I was on my period, so I wanted to sit in the car for a while. Then we started arguing. As we argued, my mom insisted on getting out of the car, so I tugged on her. Later, she got out of the car and I just got out and walked away. I walked for a long time, but she didn't come looking for me, so I walked back. The parking lot was big, and I couldn't find the car. It was raining, and she wasn't answering her phone. Although I ended up getting back in the car, the relaxation was definitely ruined. This kind of thing has been going on and on since I was in kindergarten. I myself tend to overreact and am a bit bipolar. When I got home, she was also very cold to me, and she said a lot of things to threaten me and provoke me on purpose.
Before this, I always had thoughts of self-harm when I was depressed, but after this incident, I started to self-harm and really wanted to put the idea of suicide into action. I wondered if this state of mind continued, what other way out was there for me except death. My mother did not show any understanding when she asked me to understand her, and she was not even willing to give me a word of comfort or a hug. I was also very willful and unworthy to be her daughter.
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Comments
I feel you on so many levels. It's heartbreaking to go through all that with someone who's supposed to be your biggest supporter. Sometimes parents just don't get it, and it feels like there's a huge gap between us no matter how much we try to bridge it. The hot spring trip was supposed to be a peaceful escape, but instead turned into another clash. It's hard when emotions run high and neither side wants to back down.
It sounds incredibly tough, and I can tell you're in a lot of pain. The way you describe feeling bipolar, where emotions swing wildly, makes it even harder to handle situations like these. Your mom might not know how to deal with those intense feelings either. It's important to find someone who can listen without judgment, maybe a counselor or a trusted friend. They could offer the support you're not getting at home right now.
I'm really sorry you're going through this. It seems like you've been carrying this heavy burden for such a long time, and it's understandable why you'd feel desperate. But please, don't let one argument define your value or future. There are people out there who care and want to help. Reaching out for professional support might give you tools to cope better with your emotions and relationships.
Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to cry or be upset. Everyone has moments when they feel misunderstood or hurt by the ones closest to them. It's crucial to find a way to express yourself safely, whether through talking to someone you trust, writing, or engaging in activities that bring you peace. Life gets better, and finding healthier ways to communicate with your mom could start the healing process.