When I have time, I get all sorts of ideas in my head. What if my classmates don't take the initiative to find me and I get angry?

Good morning,

I tend to overthink situations that arise in my personal life. I believe this is due to my introverted and sensitive personality, which makes socializing with others challenging for me. As a result, I often find myself facing frustrating circumstances.

In fact, I feel like I'm not a significant contributor to the team. I'm not very assertive, so I'm often overlooked. When items are borrowed, it's assumed that I'll be the one to remember to return them. However, I'm rarely thanked for my contributions. When I feel like I'm not a valuable member of the team, I tend to overthink things and feel like I'm not meeting expectations. I'm unsure of my abilities, I lack confidence, I have few friends, and I'm hesitant to take on new challenges.

First and foremost, individuals who experience a high level of negative emotions and exhibit clear thinking tend to be more sensitive. This sensitivity is not inherently negative.

Individuals who are highly sensitive are typically more empathetic and creative. However, in an environment where social values are relatively uniform, this quality is often perceived negatively.

It is important to objectively update your self-perception and recognize that emotionality and sensitivity may simply be a personal trait that is neither inherently positive nor negative.

Secondly, these issues are frequently brought up because there is a lack of acknowledgment that negative and positive emotions are equally important. It is not uncommon to see individuals experiencing distress due to negative emotions, yet there is a dearth of inquiries into the potential implications of excessive positivity.

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It is important to recognize that negative emotions are just one type of emotion, like happiness and excitement. We tend to focus more on negative emotions because we perceive them as less desirable. However, this focus may not be entirely productive. Negative emotions can affect our thoughts, distract us from our goals, and reduce the efficiency of the path to success.

However, negative emotions have their own uses. While positive emotions encourage forward movement, negative emotions can remind you that the current situation is less than ideal and that adjustments are needed.

Furthermore, individuals who experience more negative emotions tend to be more empathetic towards others who have similar experiences.

The aforementioned two points represent my hope that you will endeavor to accept negative emotions. It is important to note that persistent negative emotions will continue to impact our lives and state.

I have compiled a list of proven methods that I believe will be beneficial.

1. Become aware of the onset of negative emotions. When you recognize that you are beginning to feel depressed and ruminate, you are disassociating from the emotion and bringing it under your conscious control.

Additionally, consider it as a friend who visits at random intervals. When you become aware of its arrival, do not hasten its departure but rather greet it with a polite "Hello, you've returned once more."

Greet them in a friendly manner and then proceed with your tasks.

After a period of time, you will likely observe that a particular associate has not been in communication recently.

2. Individuals experience a range of emotions and thoughts. However, these emotions and thoughts do not define who we are. It is not necessary to be carried away by them. Typically, when experiencing emotions, whether positive or negative, it is helpful to view oneself as a vast expanse of sky. These emotions can be likened to clouds that come and go. It is important to allow them to come and to allow them to dissipate on their own.

If initial attempts to dissipate the emotions prove unsuccessful, simply observe the emotions and identify the subsequent thought. This practice can be repeated as often as necessary to enhance emotional awareness.

3. For a period of 100 days, maintain a gratitude journal. Each day, record the things for which you are grateful.

It is inconsequential whether the item is significant or inconsequential; simply record it. In the event that you feel that there is nothing to be grateful for on a given day, just be grateful that you are still aware of it. After 100 days, you will be surprised by your progress.

4. Distract yourself. When a negative emotional state arises, direct your attention to a different task for a period of approximately ten minutes.

The brain is not capable of multitasking. When you shift your focus to a different task, your negative mood will dissipate.

5. Incorporate more exercise or music into your routine. Research has demonstrated that these activities can effectively prevent or alleviate negative mood states.