When people call me "Ah," I feel uncomfortable. What should I do?

Hi, I'm Strawberry.

When people ignore you, it can feel like they're ignoring your feelings. During the internship, a classmate wanted your help, but the other person didn't call you by name. We have our own names. Even if the other person doesn't know your name, they can still address you by something else.

"Hey, push that lamp over here." What will you do? These sentences show the questioner's mood. They're like a command. The questioner didn't express emotions at the time. They were still troubled after the incident.

If you don't like how someone expresses themselves, you can just ignore them. They'll realize they're not helping if you don't respond.

Can I refuse? Can I show I'm unhappy?

How do you set your boundaries?

1. You can express your emotions.

The questioner is equal to everyone, even if they are a teacher or family member. When asking us to do something, they should pay attention to their tone and attitude. Some people around the questioner use a more commanding tone, which makes us feel uncomfortable.

It's important to express yourself directly so the other person knows how their words affect you. You can ignore impolite expressions or turn them into questions. This shows the other person how your words make them feel.

2. Know why you consume.

The questioner is unhappy with others but doesn't say so. This is bad for him and affects his life and emotions.

Why can't you express your emotions in person? What are you afraid of? What are you worried about? Perhaps it comes from considering others first and then blaming yourself. What makes you act like you're pleasing others?

3. Try to change.

It's hard to change someone's fixed character. It can take a long time. For this person, it's the fear of expressing emotions immediately. To stop this, you have to change yourself.

Learning is a good way to do this. When you learn about related aspects, you learn to say no when appropriate. When you can express yourself naturally, you can change yourself and grow.

I hope this helps the questioner. Best wishes.

Good morning, I can see that you are experiencing some confusion, so I would like to extend my support to you.

You are facing some interpersonal challenges. I am here to support you.

Indeed, if I were in your position, I would find it disconcerting when someone addressed me as "hey" instead of by my name.

Calling someone by their name is a sign of respect.

It is also possible that when someone called you "hey" yesterday, you did not respond immediately.

If the same colleague from yesterday's internship calls you "唉" again today, you can simply say, "Excuse me, colleague, could you please call me by my name next time?"

It is possible that her family calls her that at home, which may have influenced her choice of name for other classmates.

It is likely that your classmate has been using this name for a considerable length of time and may not change her behaviour immediately.

In the event that a colleague uses the term "alas" to address you, you may wish to remind them of your name.

After you have provided your classmate with a few reminders, she should be sufficiently embarrassed to refrain from calling you "hey" in the future.

If you are not comfortable with your classmates' inquiries about your future plans, you have the option to express your discomfort to them.

For example, "Classmate, next time you speak to me, please refrain from using a commanding tone, as it makes me feel uncomfortable."

I then informed my colleague that I would be grateful if they could assist me with a task.

In the event that a colleague requests your assistance with a task that you are not comfortable with, you have the option to decline. While it is not your responsibility to provide assistance, it is within your power to be kind and refuse.

It is important to remember that how others treat us is how we teach them.

Otherwise, there is a possibility that she may speak to you in a rude manner, which could lead to a perception that you are an easy target for intimidation.

I hope that the issue you are currently experiencing can be resolved as soon as possible.

These are the only suggestions I have at this time.

I hope my above answer is helpful and inspiring to you, the girl. I am the solution, and I study hard every day.

Best regards, Yixinli