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Who am I? How do I perceive others' emotions?

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Who am I? How do I perceive others' emotions? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

There's really nothing much about it. I just feel that my ability to empathize is relatively weak. I can't put myself in other people's shoes, nor do I know how to perceive other people's emotions. I feel like an outsider, a bystander. I don't know how to communicate with people either. I'm not clumsy, but I also don't know how to express myself. Sometimes I say a lot, but mostly I'm quiet. But I also feel bad and unhappy on my own. I don't know if it's because I'm too self-centered or because I'm a poor empathizer. I always feel different from other people. I have a short attention span. I don't have any favorite things. I'm slow to warm up to people. I don't seem to care about anything. I'm not a nice person. I like to pursue my interests, but after a while I lose interest. I don't like overly intimate contact. I maintain an appropriate distance from everyone. I don't have any hobbies. I just read and practice calligraphy. I don't follow stars, I don't play TikTok, and I don't read Weibo. I feel like I'm in a gray area. I'm indifferent, maybe. I'm not sure. I was like this when I was a

Uriah Michael Foster Uriah Michael Foster A total of 5409 people have been helped

Good day, Dear questioner,

My name is Yi Ming, and I am a heart exploration coach.

I have carefully reviewed your inquiry and am pleased to offer my insights.

I hope you will find this information useful and inspiring.

1. "What kind of person am I?" This is a process of self-discovery.

During our growth process, particularly during our formative years, we all engage in a process of self-discovery, asking ourselves fundamental questions about our identity and character.

This is an essential aspect of self-discovery.

As you have described these characteristics of yourself, they actually show how you are.

As you have outlined these attributes, they effectively demonstrate your current state of being.

You indicate that you are unsure of how to perceive other people's emotions and that you dislike overly intimate contact. In the event that you are experiencing pain or unhappiness, have you ever received care and understanding from others?

If we were young children and needed help, our parents may have been emotionally detached and unresponsive, preventing us from receiving understanding and care. This could result in the gradual suppression of our feelings and difficulties in perceiving and connecting with others.

This is due to a lack of experience.

2. Be aware of emotional isolation.

Emotional isolation is a psychological defense mechanism.

It can be said to be pervasive.

Emotional isolation has a positive effect to a certain extent.

One consequence of emotional isolation is the inability to perceive the emotions of others.

This is also referred to as a lack of empathy.

As a result, you become isolated.

Some individuals may perceive proximity as a potential source of discomfort, leading to feelings of anxiety. To effectively manage these feelings and achieve a sense of relief,

They cease to perceive the emotions of others and adopt the appearance of an outsider, a bystander, in order to protect themselves from the harm that intimacy can bring.

However, prolonged isolation can result in a loss of emotional responsiveness.

Furthermore, it is challenging to perceive others.

In general, neither isolation nor complete isolation is feasible.

3. If you wish to implement a change, you may do so in a forthright manner.

While isolation allows us to maintain an appropriate distance from everyone and feel safe,

Furthermore, we may have isolated our positive emotions, which has the effect of inhibiting and depriving ourselves of the ability to feel joy and love.

If you wish to implement a change, we advise you to try the following methods.

Please review your past experiences.

Please consider whether you have received feedback from others, whether you have been understood, and how you feel about it.

Similarly, when two individuals are both happy, the happiness is doubled.

When an individual is experiencing sadness, if they are comforted and understood by others, it can lead to a reduction in the perceived intensity of the sadness.

I encourage you to open your heart a little and feel.

As an illustration, you indicate that you are experiencing negative emotions and a sense of unhappiness. You provide a detailed account of the circumstances surrounding the situation and the duration of time it took for you to regain a positive emotional state.

Consider how others might experience a similar situation.

With dedicated practice, we can gradually rebuild our capacity to discern the emotional states of others.

We have simply been unable to access this ability, just as a few-month-old baby is unable to perceive the emotions of their parents.

This aspect of our perceptual ability has simply been suppressed.

You have indicated that you have a limited attention span and that you are not particularly invested in pursuing interests that do not capture your attention. This is a common trait among individuals with your profile.

Some individuals may perceive you as carefree and not particularly persistent.

It would be beneficial to ascertain for yourself what it was that you once liked, even if it was only for a short time.

By developing self-awareness, we can better understand our emotions and empathize with others.

Additionally, inquiries can be made to substantiate this assertion.

As an illustration, when we have a positive sentiment towards an entity, we can solicit feedback from those in our vicinity to ascertain their own sentiments and attitudes. This process allows us to gain insight into our own feelings and those of others.

In the event of fear of being hurt, emotions are suppressed or replaced in order to maintain inner balance.

Gradually become more aware of yourself, and then proceed to interact with others. You will become increasingly adept at perceiving others.

If you are unable to empathize with others independently and wish to pursue further assistance, you may seek guidance from a counselor. The counselor can provide a role model to assist you in navigating these challenges.

Please feel free to share these insights.

Best regards,

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Annabelle Anderson The journey of learning is a journey of unlocking our true potential and reaching for the stars.

It sounds like you're feeling quite disconnected from others and yourself. It's tough when you can't relate to people or their emotions. Maybe finding a way to connect with your own feelings first could help you understand others better.

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Thomasin Anderson The fruits of diligence are the pearls that string together a life of meaning.

Empathy is something that can be developed over time, like any other skill. Perhaps starting small, by trying to listen more closely to others' stories or engaging in activities where you can practice understanding different perspectives, might gradually improve your empathy.

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Hope Anderson The two most powerful warriors are patience and time.

Feeling like an outsider can be really isolating. But remember, everyone has their own struggles. It might help to join groups or communities that share your interests, even if they are as simple as reading or calligraphy. Connecting over common passions can make communication feel less daunting.

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Axel Davis The erudite are those who have delved into the mines of different knowledges and unearthed precious gems.

Sometimes we're our own harshest critics. It's okay not to be perfect at everything, including empathy. Being selfaware is already a big step forward. Maybe talking to a counselor or therapist could provide some guidance on how to navigate these feelings of disconnection.

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Eric Anderson A diligent heart is a heart that never gives up.

I think it's important to acknowledge that being slow to warm up or preferring your space isn't a bad thing. Some people need more time to open up, and that's perfectly valid. Finding balance between solitude and social interaction that feels right for you might help ease those feelings of being different.

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