Why are women discriminated against if they have been in many relationships?

Hello, questioner! I'm A Xiaoq, and I'm happy to help!

From what you've shared, it seems like there's a double standard when it comes to ex-boyfriends and ex-girlfriends. It's seen as less acceptable for women to have multiple partners, while men are often praised for having a diverse social circle. You've noticed this dynamic and are wondering if it's a form of traditional gender discrimination.

I'm really happy you're questioning some traditional customs. It's great to see the new generation questioning some of the customs left behind by the previous generation.

You've already got such great thoughts, so don't doubt yourself! Society is changing, and men and women are now equal. Why can't women talk about lots of boyfriends, just as men talk about lots of girlfriends?

It's totally okay for a woman to talk about her past boyfriends! It just means she's looking for someone who's a better fit for her long-term. If you're not interested in getting involved with men, how can you possibly choose the one who's right for you?

And society is already progressing! It's so great that many people know that you can't spend your whole life with one person. And the time you spend with others doesn't have to be forever. So just enjoy the present!

It's so important to be comfortable with each other during your time together. Don't worry about what comes after! This way, you can truly enjoy each day and feel each day. I hope my answer is helpful to you, and I also hope that you can be your wonderful self and maintain your own unique ideas.

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Kiss, I saw your confession and saw that you've thought about traditional gender discrimination. That's a good observation! Let's discuss it together!

1. Society is changing. People used to think that if a woman had many ex-boyfriends, she would be seen as promiscuous. But if a man had many girlfriends, he would be seen as charming. This is changing. Look at Elva Hsiao and Yuqi Zhang. They can both find love with younger men. This is a change! If you take care of yourself, you can pick whoever you want.

2. Gender discrimination between men and women in the marriage market has decreased. It is more common in the workplace. Women have fewer employment opportunities and lower salaries. This is a common reality. Especially married women who have not given birth, they will often be rejected by the workplace.

3. Don't worry about what others think. If you find the right person, go for it. Be open about your love. Meet as many people as you can to find the right partner.

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Hi, I'm Strawberry.

From what the questioner said, it seems like this is a topic worth discussing. I've heard adults talk about how boys should fall in love early and talk about it a few times to gain experience, while girls should be self-disciplined and protect themselves, otherwise they are worthless.

This seems to be the same as the old concept of the old society, that men are superior to women. It's actually been around for a long time, but it's still alive and well in today's society. Even if some people are deeply hurt by this concept, they unconsciously pass it on.

The impact of traditional thinking

These days, society talks a lot about gender equality, but the way things are presented makes us realize that women still have a lot of catching up to do when it comes to equality.

As the questioner said, men are seen as attractive when they have multiple relationships, while women are not. Similarly, men are more likely to be forgiven for cheating, while women are seen as incapable of forgiving themselves easily.

In this case, we have to go back to the fact that in this society, more people are still instilled with the concept of male superiority during their growth. Some may seem to have little harm or influence, but in the face of certain things, this concept will show itself.

As long as there's one person in a family who holds this patriarchal view, it'll be tough to change it. That person will have an impact on others.

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The situation described by the original poster is actually a form of sex education. Many parents believe that sex is a shameful subject and should not be casually mentioned in front of children. This leads to the situation where most children explore on their own when they are curious, and in the process of learning, they may come into contact with incorrect knowledge about sex education.

The right kind of sex education teaches that both boys and girls have the right to pursue their own emotions. The number of relationships you have doesn't say anything about your personality or character. It's wrong to say that women don't love themselves just because they've had more relationships.

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I've also been hurt by son preference, so when I see others having son preference and male superiority, I get pretty angry. I'll do what I can to change this situation. For example, I've been hurt by this kind of thing, and I'll never let my kids suffer the same way. I'll teach them the right concepts and educate them so they won't grow up with these old ideas.

I'll also try to help change the people around me who have such ideas. If we can get there one step closer to success by getting rid of one person in this society with such ideas, then we will be one step closer to success. Maybe this situation will still exist after several generations, but as long as we try to change it, we will be able to eliminate this old idea one day.

I hope my answer is helpful to the person who asked the question. Best regards,

Hello, questioner! My name is Jia Ao, and I'm not looking for anything.

I can see the issues you've highlighted on the platform. You mentioned that you feel girls may be scolded for being indecent if they fall in love too many times, while the opposite seems to be true for boys, who may even be praised for being charming. You've also expressed your concern about the deep-rooted nature of gender discrimination and the differences in how it affects boys and girls.

In response to your question, I would be happy to help you analyze and sort it out.

Could you please explain why girls are discriminated against when they fall in love?

[Consider the issue from a more objective and composed perspective]

The issue you've brought up is quite prevalent in China and has been for quite some time. Many believe that if a girl has multiple boyfriends, she is perceived as carefree and fickle, potentially leading to feelings of distress among the boys involved. This unfortunate phenomenon reflects what psychology terms "gender stereotypes."

Gender stereotypes, also known as gender prejudice, are common perceptions or preconceptions about the character traits, appearance, behavior, and roles of a particular gender. They are people's inherent impressions of male or female character traits, and they indicate people's expectations and views of gender roles. Chinese sayings such as "men are strong and women are weak" and "men are responsible for the outside world and women are responsible for the home" all reflect similar gender stereotypes. (This theory comes from Baidu Baike)

It is best not to put labels on yourself too easily.

To break down traditional gender discrimination, it would be beneficial for everyone in society to contribute their efforts. Perhaps we could all try to forget about gender and be bold in being ourselves. It might be helpful to avoid being easily labeled or defined. Respect and understanding each other could be key. Hopefully, we can slowly achieve true gender equality and overcome inherent gender discrimination.

Love is a consensual act. There is no evidence to suggest that having multiple boyfriends is indicative of poor character. Similarly, having had numerous romantic partners does not imply that a woman is indiscriminate in her relationships. Instead, it may simply reflect a pattern of seeking out individuals who align with her personal values and aspirations. If we approach relationships with a greater sense of tolerance and kindness, our perspectives might evolve in a more constructive manner.

[Consider other perspectives in a timely manner]

Sometimes, if you consider things from a different angle and imagine yourself in someone else's position, you may come to a different conclusion. It is often thought that girls should not fall in love too much, but girls who have experienced love may not necessarily be bad. They may know better than girls with no experience how to protect themselves, get along with boys, and manage a relationship. Only those who truly understand relationships can understand this truth, and they also know better how to understand and accept each other. Whether you mind it or not depends on how your partner feels. The more you argue, the more likely you are to lose.

[Consider ways to strengthen your inner self]

It's important to remember that we all have different perspectives and that's okay. Don't let these prejudices influence your decisions. Stand firm in your own position, listen to your heart, and if you like someone, go for it. If it works out, great, if not, you'll still have a good time together. It's also important to remember to strengthen your inner self. There are many examples of people who fall in love and are praised for their charm. Similarly, there are many women who fall in love and are also popular!

It's just that the right person can only be understood after getting to know them, so it's important not to give up your own views and positions just because of such prejudices. You are you, and being yourself is more important than anything else. You only want to be with the right person if you like them.

[It would be beneficial to enhance self-confidence on a regular basis.]

If you are susceptible to external influences, it may be challenging to feel confident in yourself. Having confidence in yourself is an important factor in being able to face external difficulties and challenges, being courageous in your own skin, believing in yourself, and having the belief that you will find happiness within yourself. I wish you all the best!

I hope my answer is helpful. I wish you all the best!