Why do I feel like everyone around me dislikes me, at the age of 20?

Hello, question asker!

Your description makes me feel sorry for you. I want to know what has happened to make you think this way.

Questioner, you said you don't know when you started feeling targeted by others. Are you a student now? Or have you already started working?

I want to know what the questioner's state of mind was before experiencing this feeling. Is there an exception for everyone you mention?

In other words, you must ask yourself whether the people around you give you this feeling.

Think about it. When did this idea first take shape in your mind?

Tell me how the questioner gets along with their family and how they feel about themselves.

What are you hoping to gain from coming here? If your expectations are met, what will your expectations look like, and will you be any different?

Who will be the first to notice your difference?

I don't know the specifics of the questioner's situation, but I believe their feelings are genuine. It's possible that someone truly treats you this way. If the questioner can leave this environment, they should do so. This is a form of self-protection. If the questioner is unable to leave this environment for the time being, they should learn to protect themselves and seek the help of a psychological counselor.

I have some suggestions for the original poster that will help them calm their emotions.

You have to do your own thing.

In life, there is good and there is bad, and there are people who like us and people who don't. We also have people we don't like. The Courage to Be Disliked says, "We don't live to meet other people's expectations."

We live for ourselves. Don't fear being disliked. Charge ahead, go against the flow, and live your truth. That's true freedom.

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This is telling us to be ourselves and not be afraid of other people's words or actions.

Second, focus on your own affairs and improve yourself.

It's normal to feel unappreciated. Don't let it get you down. Pick yourself up, focus on the things you like, and improve yourself. One day, you'll be able to choose your own circle of friends.

Then, ask the questioner to think clearly: Apart from giving you an uncomfortable feeling, does someone else's dislike of you cause you any substantial harm? You cannot control whether other people like you or not. So establish a good sense of boundaries. The smartest choice is to change yourself, not others.

Finally, ask the original poster to love themselves, focus on their own affairs, improve themselves, enrich themselves, and strengthen their inner selves. This will help them not be afraid of gossip.

I know you are loved. There are many more people who love you than there are people who don't.

Hello! I'm here for you.

I always feel like everyone is targeting me. I can feel your helplessness, anxiety/the-grievances-from-work-have-passed-but-was-it-worth-it-for-myself-10428.html" target="_blank">grievances, anxiety, confusion, and panic.

The spotlight effect is a term used to describe how we focus on our problems to the point of making them seem bigger than they really are. When we make a fool of ourselves, we think everyone will notice, but they won't.

You care more about what others think than they do. You think they pay more attention to you than they do.

Sometimes when we think someone is targeting us, they aren't.

Think back. Is there anyone around you who is targeting you? You can tell yourself that being targeted once does not mean being targeted forever.

You can debate your own thoughts. What proof is there that everyone is targeting you? What are the signs that others are targeting you?

Is there anyone who cares about and loves you? Debating with yourself can help you think more rationally.

Best wishes. I love you.