Why do leaders like to receive guests in full formal attire?

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Towards the end of last year, I tried to negotiate with the person in charge of the gym next door about a refund for my personal training sessions.

So they asked the regional leader to negotiate with my husband and me.

That day when the leader came to negotiate with us, he was wearing a short-sleeved T-shirt and shorts, and then came to the gym next door to my house in sports shoes.

My husband didn't recognize him at first. It turned out that the person dressed so casually was the leader.

At the time, I thought they were here to negotiate with us, but they were dressed too casually and didn't seem sincere.

As a result, I've lost a lot of confidence in this leader.

After all, there's the first impression effect in psychology.

It's really important for a leader to make a good first impression on guests or business partners.

That's why they wear formal attire.

This helps them to project a professional image.

I really hope you can get this problem sorted out soon.

That's all I can think of at the moment.

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Good morning, my name is Fly and I am a heart exploration coach. In 2023, we must prioritize happiness.

I appreciate the opportunity to discuss this matter with you. As you mentioned, in your interactions with various leaders, you observed that they received guests in formal attire, which made you feel that they were stern and serious, and created a sense of pressure.

? 1. The leader in formal attire conveys a sense of pressure.

We tend to evaluate individuals and situations based on our own values and perceptions. For instance, you mentioned that hosting a reception with guests in formal attire can create a sense of formality and seriousness.

This judgment and the accompanying stress are influenced by past experiences and current circumstances. Individuals in positions of authority, such as law enforcement officers, medical professionals, and legal professionals, often wear formal attire.

It is also possible that you may have been intimidated by someone in formal attire, such as being scolded, blamed, or rejected.

Everyone has their own inherent patterns, behavioral patterns, emotional patterns, and thought processes, which all originate from our experiences in life. Primarily, they are shaped by what we observe and learn from our parents.

It is possible to identify the relationship between one's judgment and emotional pattern and past experiences.

Furthermore, emotions can also have underlying components, such as fear. When a similar situation arises, it will reactivate the associated fear response. To truly understand the message conveyed by an emotion, it is essential to identify and address the deeper emotional factors involved. This allows the emotion to fulfill its purpose as a messenger and move on.

2. Broaden your perspective and embrace a more diverse range of perspectives.

A pattern is established during interactions between people. For example, regarding the issue you mentioned, you interact with several leaders, and they receive you in formal attire. There are many possible reasons for this.

From your perspective, it may seem like pressure, but from the other person's perspective, it may be out of formality and courtesy, and a manifestation of respect for the other person.

The truth of a matter often comes from considering it from multiple perspectives: your own perspective, the other person's perspective, and the perspectives of others and the public. When we consider a matter from multiple perspectives, we can gain a more comprehensive understanding of the truth and thus have a wider range of options.

As an example, you may choose to perceive the situation as pressured, or you may choose to perceive it as a demonstration of respect and value from your leader. Similarly, you may choose to apply the same level of pressure to the other person in your presence.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards,

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Hello. I am Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who speaks in images.

I am curious as to why the leader likes to receive guests in formal attire.

You also stated that they look stern, serious, and formal when they wear formal attire.

I believe that the leader is not as approachable in formal attire, which makes you uncomfortable. Are you concerned that the guests will also feel this way, which will affect the relationship between everyone?

Tell me, does that stern, serious, and formal image remind you of anyone you have met in the past? Does it feel familiar?

What does this image mean to you? Is it a reminder of an unpleasant experience with authority?

I am confident that the above perspectives will help you clarify your confusion.

In terms of etiquette, it is generally accepted that attending in formal attire when receiving guests is a sign of respect for the other party and will leave a good impression. Specifically for your company, although there may not be a clear set of rules, it is customary.

As a member of this company, every employee is responsible for maintaining the company's image.

You may have reasons for asking this question that you haven't mentioned. If you'd like to discuss them further, you're welcome to do so in counseling.

Best regards!