Why do people keep talking about what they have done for others after they have done it?

Greetings,

Happy New Year. It seems that there may have been a bit of a misunderstanding between family members or relatives. According to the questioner's description, this is a very common situation where one person is trying to please others. Giving too much, longing for love to be returned. This love, in the eyes of the person trying to please, is to be seen, recognized, approved, and praised.

It would be beneficial for the person receiving the favor to kindly reiterate to the pleaser that their efforts are worthy of being seen, recognized, and praised, as they may be unsure and lacking in love.

[How the pleasing personality is formed]

1. It seems that there may have been a lack of unconditional parental love in the original family, because parental love is often conditional on value. It may be that they only win the love and appreciation of their parents when they meet the needs of their parents, otherwise they may be rejected or scolded by their parents. Over time, it seems that the conditional value of their parents may have been internalized into their self-concept.

2. Cognitive errors People with a pleasing personality may have some cognitive biases. They may believe that only by pleasing others will they win friendly feedback from others, but they may not fully consider the importance of enhancing their own energy.

3. Long-term self-deprecating and ingratiating behavior has become a habit. Due to prolonged ingratiating behavior and a sense of inferiority, they have developed a tendency to respond to social interactions and others using their inherent thinking. Once this habit is formed, it can be challenging to change.

I believe the person the OP is referring to is "she." It seems likely to be a woman in the family, perhaps an elder. In the context of China's patriarchal society, the living conditions of women are unfortunately quite challenging. They have often been encouraged to go above and beyond, which can lead to a lack of self-worth and a blurring of boundaries. As the OP mentioned, some tasks are ones she feels she must complete herself, and afterwards, she tends to dwell on them. The overly compliant person offers what they have, but they just want to exchange it for love.

It's worth noting that the need to please isn't exclusive to women. One of my male elders in my family is used to overcompensating, and at family gatherings, he often talks about his past contributions. If you think he's trying to take credit, I respectfully disagree. It seems like he's simply trying to gain recognition from his inner parents, which is a natural desire. Affirming one's goodness, value, and love is important for everyone.

"It could be said that compassion is the foundation of benevolence."

I came across a quote from Mencius yesterday that I found particularly thought-provoking: "Compassion is the beginning of benevolence." The word "compassion" is defined as "sympathy." If the questioner were to consider the growth experience and living environment of this "she," it might be possible for them to feel sympathy for her.

It might be helpful to consider that a pleaser may not realize they are inadvertently damaging the relationship. They may unintentionally position themselves as the mother and exercise the unique power between parent and child on anyone. However, when facing an adult child, it's possible they may not realize the other party is an independent individual, continuing past habits. I'm not sure if the questioner watched yesterday's Spring Festival Gala. Huang Qishan's "Is It Mom or Daughter?" resonated with me deeply with these lyrics:

I'm not sure if I've done enough for my child.

If letting go is a lesson, then perhaps a mother has yet to fully embrace it.

[Sincere communication can help her to perceive things more clearly]

The Chinese have a long history of co-dependence. Many parents like to take on too much responsibility and do things for their children. It might be helpful to share this understanding with her: the most comfortable distance between people is to do a good job of separating tasks. I believe that of the three things in the world, I don't take care of God's business, I don't take care of other people's business, and I don't let other people take care of my business. In any case, it might be beneficial to give priority to meeting your own needs. Treat your adult children with respect for their independence, don't deprive them of opportunities to grow, and consider offering a helping hand, while also inviting them for others. Otherwise, it's easy to cross the line.

As previously discussed, this "she" has been a great source of support for the family. It would be beneficial to consider her needs, take the initiative to meet them, and recognize and praise her for her contributions. It is unlikely that anyone would continue to crave food after they have eaten their fill. Similarly, once a person has experienced the feeling of being loved, they will naturally stop seeking love.

My name is Zhang Huili, and I hope my answer can be of some help to you. I wish you all the best during this festive season of family reunions. May you find joy in communicating and expressing yourself freely with those you love and those who love you. If you found this useful, I would be grateful if you could click the like button before leaving.

Little Whale, your question is interesting. I'd like to share my views.

The answer to your first question is:

This isn't a relationship between equals. There's no minimum level of mutual respect. Even for me, it's a pathological way of getting along. You can choose to accept good behavior, but she forces you to accept it.

The answer to your second question is:

She wants you to remember how good she has been to you. She is afraid that you will forget and not treat her well in the future. She keeps emphasizing how good she has been to you because she wants you to feel the same way about her. She probably feels that if she has been good to you, you will treat her well in the future.

The answer is:

If she does something she doesn't want to do to be nice to you, it's emotional blackmail. She wants to use her emotions to blackmail you. Then she does nice things to make herself feel more confident about using her emotions to blackmail you.

She's reminding you that if you don't treat her well, you'll be ostracized. She's putting pressure on you to treat her well.

I think she's your biological mother.

Hello! It's so interesting how a person's internal needs can be so complex and diverse. There's no such thing as an absolute altruist, right? Even when someone is serving others in a public welfare role, they might also be driven by a desire for self-realization.

We all know that parents love their children unconditionally, but let's be honest, that's not always the case.

From what you've told me, it seems like the "giver" is really proud of how much they've done for the "receiver." There are probably a few reasons why they're doing this:

Let's say someone does something for or helps another person. They may genuinely want to help, but they also expect their kindness to be seen and reciprocated. They may even want to establish a reciprocal relationship. If they don't feel the expected response, they may feel a sense of loss or even a lack of respect. They may then keep reminding the other person in the hope of eventually getting feedback.

Or, perhaps, when someone does something for another person, they expect something in return. This is more common in the workplace or business environment, but it also happens among friends. Repeatedly saying thank you is a wonderful way to remind ourselves and others that there is a human element to relationships that needs to be reciprocated.

Some folks place a lot of self-worth in these things or relationships. They feel their value and ability is reflected in doing things for others. If their internal sense of worth is relatively unstable, they may need external attention and recognition to enhance and confirm it.

It's also possible that there are other psychological activities at play. It can be tricky to judge and conclude from the actions of others alone, but we can choose how to respond based on our own feelings, wishes, and boundaries.

If the person receiving the help feels that the other person has been really helpful, they might say thank you or do something for that person if they feel it's the right thing to do. But if the person receiving the help feels like they're under a lot of pressure or like they owe the other person something, they might want to maintain some distance in their interactions and just return the favor.

Hello, questioner.

You ask why someone keeps telling others after they have given.

After giving, we want others to know. This is a narcissistic mentality. We give to attract attention and give more in return. This is normal.

1. What interpersonal model is this?

This mode of getting along is morally questionable. It's not sincere devotion; it's manipulation. We don't truly care about the other person; we only care about getting more in return. This is similar to the psychology of PUA.

This way of thinking requires us to see ourselves and the other person. If you're the one giving, you need to explore your most essential needs and what you want. If you're the one giving as a partner, you need to understand that you need to have your own self-confidence and firm beliefs. You don't have to be influenced by others' excessive giving.

2. I want to know what the purpose is of constantly talking about love after giving to others. What does he want to get by repeatedly emphasizing that he gives to others?

As previously stated, this person repeatedly emphasizes their generosity after giving to others, hoping to elicit gratitude. They may also seek to portray themselves as superior through such acts of giving, implying that they are a good person and their partner is not.

3. If you're reluctant to do it, don't. And if you did it, don't tell everyone about it.

You do things you don't want to do for a reason. You take responsibility or demonstrate commitment because you have high expectations of yourself. Many people don't want to take the initiative to contribute. They want others to give more in return. Everyone has a purpose in contributing.

I am confident that the above opinions will be helpful to you.

Good morning.

A good relationship is one in which each person is responsible for their own circle of influence, and where the two intersect, it is hoped that boundaries are respected and mutual respect is maintained.

Then the answer to the question becomes clearer. All the efforts we make are to achieve a better "balance." This balance is not just about "giving" and "taking," but also about whether the relationship is harmonious. While it may not seem harmonious on the surface, there may be underlying issues in the relationship that require attention.

For instance, some individuals, who may possess less developed character traits, may "over-give" in a relationship, eager to gain the other person's approval and thus achieve a sense of balance. However, in reality, the other person may not have expressed any specific demands, and the actions may be based on their own thoughts and needs.

Some people are very self-centered in their personality, and they may exaggerate their own influence. When they show great initiative and work hard for the other person, it could be perceived as a very "benevolent" gesture. The other person may need to recognize and appreciate this gesture as a kind of "grace." Although they may not realize it themselves, logically they may think this way. However, from another perspective, these kinds of people may be very responsible in their own sphere, but they may be prone to neglect the other person.

These two situations are the most typical examples in life. In both the first and second situations, it is easy to become immersed in one's own world and to view the world of others according to one's own subjective world. This can lead to a sense of deviation, which can also contribute to more conflicts in the relationship. It is not about taking too much blame, but even if you excessively ignore the other person, this can make the other person feel neglected and unseen in the relationship.

It is often the case that the earliest influence on a person's relationships comes from the original family. In some cases, later influences may also play a role. When it comes to understanding a person's interpersonal patterns, it is important to have a deep and genuine connection with them. This allows us to speculate on the real outcome with a greater degree of accuracy. It is also essential to avoid making assumptions or judging them based on incomplete or biased information.

If that person happens to be someone you interact with frequently in life, it would be beneficial to communicate sincerely and talk openly to truly understand each other's true thoughts and needs. If the other person intentionally avoids the issue or is unable to let down their guard (as in the second scenario), it would be helpful to establish a clear way to understand the other person's thoughts, as communication between the two parties may otherwise be challenging.

I wish you the best of luck and hope you can persevere.

Greetings, I extend to you a 360-degree embrace.

This is an intriguing question. In our daily lives, we all contribute to others because we live among people and interact with them to survive.

Some individuals engage in economic behaviors, which entail the exchange of resources for desired outcomes. These transactions may involve the provision of material goods, emotional support, or future anticipated benefits.

Some contributions are not susceptible to a straightforward valuation. For instance, the act of preparing a meal for one's family, regardless of one's professional designation, cannot be easily monetized. Similarly, the investment of time and resources into raising children, or the provision of assistance to friends in need, may not always be quantifiable.

Another example is the act of holding a door open for someone carrying something. In return, the individual may receive a verbal expression of gratitude.

Such acts of kindness may also include offering your seat on the bus to a fellow passenger. In general, these kinds of acts of kindness are directed towards strangers.

In return, one receives gratitude from others and a positive self-perception.

It is also evident that others will reciprocate. As long as one is alive, one is both giving to others and accepting what others give to one.

However, individuals may exhibit disparate attitudes toward their own contributions. Some may be inclined to act discreetly, while others may be eager to proclaim their actions to the world.

Some individuals may take into account the circumstances and the individuals involved.

Your assertion is correct. It is imperative to reiterate one's benevolence towards others. The underlying motivation for this phenomenon is multifaceted. Allow me to proffer a few hypotheses.

The first type of individual does not receive any form of reciprocation for their efforts.

Some individuals approach giving as an exchange. Indeed, each person possesses an internal scale that they use to assess their gains and losses.

An examination of human behavior through the lens of economics reveals a fascinating and readily understandable phenomenon.

Some individuals engage in reciprocal giving, seeking a commensurate return. This may manifest as an equivalent contribution, recognition, publicity, or a spiritual reward, among other possibilities. In essence, there is a pervasive sense of exchange. This dynamic may operate below the threshold of conscious awareness.

The individual who has provided the initial contribution will persist in urging the other party to reciprocate, citing the initial act as a precedent.

The second category pertains to instances wherein the individual who has exerted effort is not acknowledged.

On occasion, individuals' requests are quite straightforward. They may have invested a great deal of effort and simply desire for the other person to recognize their contributions and comprehend their actions.

This phenomenon is analogous to the sentiment expressed by some parents who perceive their children's lack of communication as ungrateful. Indeed, parents have invested significant time and resources into raising their children, and frequently express the hope that their children will recognize and appreciate their efforts.

In the absence of recognition, these individuals may experience feelings of isolation and a sense of being overlooked. They may reiterate their desire for acknowledgment and express a desire to communicate further.

If an adult persistently emphasizes their own contributions, it may be indicative of a lack of recognition or appreciation from others. They may be seeking to highlight their contributions and receive acknowledgment from their peers.

Thirdly, it may also be a form of moral coercion, whereby one uses one's own sacrifice to force the other person to submit and comply with one's wishes.

This form of giving is motivated by a clear purpose, whereby the giver may be compelled to engage in an action they are reluctant to perform in exchange for a desired outcome from the recipient.

It is recommended that this behavior be examined from an economic perspective. Some individuals have a price for their efforts and require a benefit in return. However, the specific benefit desired varies from person to person.

Such behavior may also be motivated by economic, behavioral, psychological, and emotional factors. In some cases, the individual may even benefit directly from the behavior, for example, by receiving praise for their generosity or kindness.

My recommendation for addressing this individual is to provide them with what they desire. Affirm their requests, praise their efforts, and express gratitude for their contributions.

It should be noted that flattery is a cost-free strategy.

In the event that one is unable to provide the other person with what they desire, yet they persist in their demands, it is advisable to address the situation directly.

I frequently identify as a Buddhist and a pessimist, yet I also possess the capacity for occasional positivity and motivation. I extend love and appreciation to the world.

Hello! I'm Strawberry!

In the past, there were many unknown "Lei Fengs." They were so focused on the happiness they felt after giving that they didn't care whether their efforts were known to others. And when they gave without seeking credit, many people took their efforts for granted and enjoyed them!

This fascinating phenomenon can be observed in society and in the family. However, different environments and different identities lead to different expectations and ideas, which means they have the exciting choice to speak or not to speak!

Let's dive into the mentality of this group of people!

If you don't want to do it, that's totally fine! But if you do, don't go around telling everyone about it. This is just my opinion, but in many situations, we don't have a choice. We have to do things even if we don't want to, and we go around telling everyone about it. We can analyze this from the following perspectives:

1. Let others see your amazing efforts!

If they keep paying without saying anything, others will take it for granted after a while. But don't worry! This just means it's time to start a new approach. They will start to ignore the people who keep paying without saying anything, and the people who pay without saying anything will feel lost and sad because they want to maintain a cherished relationship through their actions. But they can easily turn this around! All they have to do is make sure their actions are noticed.

2. Wanting to get attention

Some people do small things to help others and they're quick to tell others about it or keep talking about it to others. The purpose is similar to the first one, but the mentality is different. This group of people is all about getting others' attention and letting others know about their contribution so that their contribution will not become others' credit.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this kind of person!

The questioner's question about this fascinating phenomenon shows that he has an opinion about this approach of these people. So how does the questioner view these people? Is it appreciation, agreement, dissatisfaction, annoyance, or resentment?

It's amazing how different emotions can represent different relationships with the other person!

Seeing their intentions can help us understand why these people do what they do. For example, the questioner mentioned in her confession that after doing something, she would mention it in front of relatives and friends they know, which shows that the person she helped did not respond in the way she wanted.

Her help has a certain purpose. By speaking up, she hopes that through the power of everyone, the person she is helping will know that your reaction is unsatisfactory. So I must tell others what I have done so that they can testify for me!

Let me tell you how to get along with this type of person!

I used to pay silently without recognition, but then I realized that this did not get me equal treatment, and I was even ignored. So I also started to say something when I did something. I would choose the person to say it to. For example, if it was housework, I would only let the family members I cared about know how much I had contributed. Don't pretend you don't see my contribution. After I said it, everyone did see my contribution, and it was so rewarding to see the appreciation!

It's up to you! Whether or not you belong to this group, the extent to which you accept this kind of behavior determines your attitude towards the other person's actions. If you cannot accept it, consider whether the other person's actions have affected you, for example, by being commented on by mutual friends and relatives.

If the other person's contribution is forcing us to accept it and they love to go around talking about it, then we have the power to express it according to the relationship and use any attitude we like! We can even reject it directly to let the other person know that we are not grateful. Or, we can express our gratitude to the other person in front of others to let the other person and others know that we can see the other person's contribution.

I really hope my answer is helpful to the questioner! Best wishes!

Good day, I hope this message finds you well. I am writing to inquire about a matter that requires your attention. Kindly let me know if this is not the appropriate channel for such inquiries. Best regards,

I am Listening Dolphin Floater, a psychological counselor, and I am happy to answer your questions and provide assistance if I can.

1. Could you please clarify which interpersonal relationship model this falls under?

Patting you on the shoulder to offer comfort is an annoying and manipulative behavior. It is akin to a form of moral coercion.

Please describe your feelings when you accepted the other person's help. Describe the impact that not having the other person's help would have on your life.

Please indicate whether you feel any gratitude towards this relative. Additionally, please provide the duration of this situation.

Please describe your opinion of this individual's behavior.

Please provide a detailed answer to the following questions: 1. What is the purpose of constantly talking about love after giving to others? 2. He repeatedly emphasized what he wanted in return for giving to others. What was the purpose of this?

2. Could you please clarify the rationale behind the insistence on discussing love after offering assistance?

If an individual persistently emphasizes their contributions to others, it is likely driven by a desire to portray themselves in a positive light, elicit gratitude, or receive something in return. Can you accept this as a possibility?

?‍♂️He continued the conversation because your gratitude has not yet achieved the desired effect, or he is very self-conscious and wants your approval.

It is also possible that when he provided assistance, he was experiencing personal challenges as well. Despite these circumstances, he offered help, which was commendable. However, he subsequently faced significant difficulties, which had a lasting impact on his life.

Perhaps all he sought was a simple expression of gratitude to validate his initial decision and provide internal affirmation of the value of his sacrifice. He was looking for a nominal reward.

In other words, providing positive feedback.

Please provide a detailed account of the circumstances surrounding this situation.

3. If you are reluctant to take on this task, what is your rationale for doing so? And if you have taken on this task, why have you chosen to share this information with others?

This individual is concerned about their reputation and is generally kind-hearted. However, they may engage in gossip and exhibit other problematic behaviors. The information you received was accurate, but it's unclear whether this person actively shared it with others.

?‍♂️There is a saying that rumors are more dangerous than tigers. What was your state of mind when you accepted the other person's help? Was the assistance provided by the other person what you required?

Did you experience any reservations about accepting the other person's assistance? Did you perceive this as a personal challenge that you were not comfortable with?

Or do you feel that the assistance provided by the other party has no bearing on your situation?

If you accept assistance from another party, it is expected that you will be grateful for their help. However, you have expressed that you feel the other person has gone too far and caused you a certain psychological burden. Is that an accurate assessment?

It would be advisable to ascertain whether the other party's perception is indeed accurate. Has the other party consistently expressed this view, or has your conduct caused the other party to feel discontented, leading the other party to convey this sentiment to your close relatives, who have subsequently disseminated the information in a detrimental manner?

It is also possible that you currently enjoy a good quality of life. When your relatives discuss this with others, they often make statements that are perceived as bragging by the other person, which can lead to resentment. As a result, the rumors can spread rapidly and evolve significantly by the time they reach your ears.

If the other person is talking to you personally and mentioning it every time they see you, it may be because they are embarrassed to ask for something or because they want you to remember the kindness they have shown you. They may also be hoping that you will be willing to help when their descendants encounter difficulties. They are seeking a promise, which is a reasonable request. I am not sure what you think about this.

Once you are aware of this information, you will discover that your relatives and friends are already aware of it as well. It is possible that this was not his intention. It is important to remember that everyone has a different level of education and a different ability to understand, which is why I encourage you to have the courage to find out the facts before making a decision. This will help you to avoid any potential issues with the harmony between relatives. You will still have to interact with each other in the future, so it is important to be aware of the facts.

I hope my response provides some insight and helps alleviate your concerns. I wish you the best in your future endeavors.

I hope my response will provide some inspiration, help resolve any depression you may be experiencing, and lift your spirits. I hope you will enjoy a happy life.

Good day, Sir. My name is July.

The issue you have outlined in your description can be seen as a tendency to seek external validation and approval. This behaviour often stems from a lack of self-assurance and is, therefore, a form of self-pleasing.

One possible explanation for a person's tendency to reiterate their actions after having performed them is that they seek attention and recognition. Consequently, they may persist in emphasizing their contributions, both to create a favorable impression and to gain external validation.

Another factor to consider is the potential for reciprocity. That is, individuals may engage in certain behaviors with the expectation of receiving something in return. Consequently, this kind of behavior may be more effective than simply doing something.

Indeed, there are numerous individuals who engage in such behavior, as disclosing one's actions to those affected can be an effective means of demonstrating generosity and securing recognition from others.

In regard to the final inquiry, it is my assessment that this particular individual is, in fact, quite conflicted, given the inherent complexities of the situation. Consequently, they may resort to utilizing this approach to attain their desired outcomes, as it is often challenging to explicitly articulate their personal objectives. It is often more advantageous to pursue these goals by assisting others, even if it entails navigating unexpected challenges and outcomes.

Furthermore, it is evident that in order to gain recognition and attention from this particular individual, one must exhibit specific behaviors that will garner them the desired attention, rather than relying on their own merits.

The world and I love you.

Sincerely,

Happy New Year! I just wanted to wish you a very happy new year and good luck in the Year of the Rabbit.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're having trouble understanding why some people behave the way they do. I can relate! I know quite a few people who act this way. As you mentioned, some folks will go on and on about how they've helped someone, even in front of that person's friends and family.

Even if he did it on his own, he'd still want to talk about it with others.

At the same time, it's totally normal for such people to have the same doubts as you: "If you're not sure about doing it, why do it? Since you did it, why tell everyone about it?"

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From a psychological standpoint, this is a pretty complex process. First, you have to think about why you do it. Then, you have to figure out whether it's something you choose to do or not. After that, you have to think about why you say it and then to whom you say it.

From a logical perspective, it seems that this series of questions is easier to sort out and answer than to understand from a psychological perspective. In this case, the question seems to change to "Is the goal of doing these things to help others or to be a good person yourself, to quietly give or to receive rewards from others?" And this seems to point to one question, which is "Is it to satisfy the needs of others or to satisfy your own needs?"

At the same time, there's another way of looking at this that might help us understand why people tell others. It's about whether they do it just to talk, or if they want recognition or a reward from others afterwards. It's important to think about this in each situation.

I just wanted to share my personal views with you, but please feel free to take them or leave them. I hope you take care of yourself ?

Hello, I'm Xin Tan. Happy 2023!

I'm honored to discuss this with you. The other person does something for you but likes to talk about it in front of others.

Everyone has their own patterns, which they bring into relationships. The other person's talking makes you feel like a showoff.

There might be an element of showing off or wanting to be appreciated, but there is a positive motive behind it. The person wants to feel like they matter and have value. They feel like they matter through what they do for others.

Our parents, especially mothers, are often dedicated to their families. They dedicate a lot to their families every day and look forward to their families showing them love and gratitude. They want to be recognized and feel like they matter.

Let's look at it from your point of view again.

You care a lot about her behavior and feel disgusted. Sometimes the other person does things for you, but then says they're giving to you.

We usually judge people and events based on our own values and feelings. If you were in their shoes, you'd see that the other person is trying to gain something and is only giving to others for a reason.

The truth often comes from looking at things from different points of view.

This pattern is part of who she is. It has also helped her in the past.

The higher a person's dimension, the freer their life is. Inner thought frameworks are limited.

Live your life your way.

We think about things from our own perspective and the other person's point of view to make it a win-win.

Upgrading our dimension means accepting different existences. Allowing different opinions is also important for self-growth.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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Hello! I'm Jialan.

I hope you don't mind if I share my views directly using your serial number. I really hope it can help you, and I'm happy to do it!

1. What kind of interpersonal model is this?

Your question is very professional. Absolutely! Once everyone forms their core beliefs about themselves, a corresponding compensation strategy will emerge, which is to say, our behavior. A person's way of dealing with the world comes from it. And the friend you mentioned has his own inherent pattern of behavior.

How should we think about his way of getting along with others? It seems like he might need a little more confidence in this area.

2. I'm just wondering, what is the purpose of saying "love" over and over again after giving to others? It seems like he's emphasizing that he wants to get something by giving to others.

From what you've said, it seems like he's someone who needs to be seen, affirmed, and paid attention to. It's like what he does and what he says are just ways of getting that same thing.

3. If you're feeling a bit reluctant, I'd love to understand why. And since you've done it and are sharing it so widely, I'd love to know more about your motivation.

If he's reluctant, it's a good idea to check in with him to see what's going on. You can confirm his wishes through communication and questioning. It's important to remember that our understanding is always a little bit unilateral because different people have different perspectives, and none of it is 100% objective.

If this pattern bothers you, you might as well tell him directly. First, let's affirm and thank him for his efforts. Second, let's tell him what we need and what we don't need him to do. Let's tell him what we would appreciate if he helped, and that we won't blame or complain if he doesn't want to. If we can agree like this, it will be more conducive to getting along.

Happy Spring Festival! I hope it's a wonderful time for you, filled with good health and happiness!