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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hi, I'm Xin Tan Coach Fly, and I'm happy to chat with you about luck-4745.html" target="_blank">success and luck.
There's no one-size-fits-all definition of success. It's about achieving a breakthrough within your capabilities and reaching your personal goals.
Success depends on a number of factors, including personal ability, professional level, personal connections, available resources, and of course, luck.
Just like the apple that fell on Newton's head, which made him famous, Newton discovered gravity. He had perseverance and a passion for science. We can't ignore the role luck played either.
Dear questioner, why do you care about success being attributed to the luck of others? Do you care about the idea, or the person who holds that idea?
Why is it so hard for the brain to accept different opinions?
The brain experiences conflict when faced with different opinions.
It's a clash between what we think should be and what is. It's a disagreement between what we believe is right and what others think is right.
I don't know, no problem, I don't know but I should know/I don't know but I must know. This is conflict because the human brain likes certainty and has already predetermined the "certainty" program during evolution.
There's always a good reason for any behavior. Your lack of understanding is probably hiding an unmet need.
For instance, they work hard to be seen, affirmed, and respected, and they want to be understood, recognized, and accepted by others.
We all have our own values and standards for evaluating people and events. Having values means having judgments, and judgments are beliefs.
It's good to have judgment so we know where we're headed, but when judgment becomes fixed, we get stuck in a rut. Every stubborn belief is limited, like the idea that success is due to luck.
Stubbornness makes life unfluid and can damage relationships. If someone is stubborn, they'll remain stuck in their own perception and lose their curiosity.
A stubborn person loses the flexibility to adapt to new situations and makes it difficult to communicate effectively in relationships. They often fail to listen and instead label others.
Listening requires letting go of stubbornness.
The "law of Thorey-Dice" suggests that to assess someone's intellectual capabilities, we should look for their ability to hold two opposing views in their mind without it affecting their actions.
We can improve our awareness and at the same time expand the scope of our lives, seeing more truths and embracing more diverse perspectives.
I hope this has been helpful for you, and I wish you all the best in the world.
If you want to keep the conversation going, just click "Find a coach" in the top right corner or at the bottom. I'd be happy to chat with you one-on-one and help you grow.
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It's interesting how success can be such a subjective topic. People tend to see what they want to see, and sometimes luck seems like an easy explanation for achievements they can't relate to.
When someone accomplishes something remarkable, it's easier for others to chalk it up to luck rather than recognizing the hard work behind the scenes. It really overlooks all the effort involved.
I think attributing success to luck dismisses the persistence and skills that individuals put in over time. Success is rarely just about being in the right place at the right time.
It feels like a defense mechanism sometimes, projecting luck onto successful people could be a way of coping with our own perceived shortcomings or failures. It's complex human behavior.
The emphasis on luck can overshadow the importance of preparation and opportunity. It's as if acknowledging someone's success comes down to diminishing their journey and the challenges they've faced.