Why do we still focus on the superficial when everyone knows that the inner is more important?

Hello, host!

I totally get where you're coming from! I'm also not the most attractive person and I've had similar issues.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're happy and carefree when you're with your friends on the outside, but on the inside, you might feel a bit inferior and like you're not as good-looking as you'd like to be and haven't achieved as much as you'd hoped.

I can totally see why you're feeling this way. It's so frustrating when your friend doesn't understand what you're going through. It's natural to feel unhappy and dissatisfied with yourself when you're struggling with these issues. It's okay to feel a little depressed, too.

You said that you didn't understand when your friend said she looked ugly today, and sometimes you think she's vain. It's okay to have different definitions of beauty and ugliness.

I can see that you have your own thoughts, and I completely understand why.

And then you say that you don't understand why they like to discuss behind someone's back whether someone looks good or what someone else's figure is like. It's okay, we've all been there! You are not interested in these topics and are worried that if you don't join in the discussion, you will be considered unfriendly.

It's not very nice to discuss what someone looks like behind their back, is it?

I can see that you don't approve of such impolite behavior, but I know you're worried about being out of line.

You're already thinking about these issues, which is a great start! Give yourself a pat on the back for making progress.

And you said that you've seen a lot of people and think that as long as other people have a good-looking nose, they'll look better with a little bit of grooming. You see, you actually have your own sense of beauty, and that's great!

I've also met people who don't say they don't like their appearance. It's a great thing to do, and you're such a polite person, so you deserve a lot of praise!

"In fact, from the moment I had that thought, I was narrow-minded and dark after all. How can a person's beauty be limited to appearance alone?" This sentence is the golden sentence of the entire article!

It's also true that a person's beauty is not just determined by appearance, but by many other factors as well. It's so great to see you becoming more and more mature in your thinking!

That's wonderful!

From reading your whole account, I can see that you're thinking in a really positive way. It's great to see you thinking in the right direction, as this will really help you to grow.

At the same time, you are also a very polite person. You know how to speak and when to be silent.

At the end of the day, you do care about what your friends think. You act carefree to avoid worrying them, but I can see you're unhappy because your friends don't understand you. I can tell you feel inferior, that you're not pretty, and that you've accomplished nothing.

My dear friend, seeing you like this, I feel for you and I feel quite sad for you.

I really hope these next few points will be helpful to you.

1. Always try to improve your abilities as much as you can and make progress every day.

It's always a great idea to make more friends, especially those who share your interests!

3. It's a great idea to develop several hobbies! You could try growing flowers, playing chess, singing, dancing, and so on.

4. Show yourself some love! Every day, take a moment to appreciate one good quality about yourself. You can do this by making a list of your qualities on pieces of paper, or by asking your friends to tell you.

5. Get out there and join some group activities and community events! You'll be helping others while you're at it.

Welcome to the Yixinli platform! I'm Qingqingwindy, and I'm here to support you. I love the world, and I love you! I wish you all the best!

In fact, my psychology is similar to that of the original poster. I feel that I am just average and don't have any outstanding abilities. The original poster feels that her friend said she looked ugly today, and you don't understand. Sometimes she feels that her friend is extraordinary, but this is actually a very normal thought. Because in your own aesthetic judgment, she is very pretty and really can't be considered ugly. But is it possible that she just looked at herself for a long time and got tired of looking at her, or suddenly noticed that she had a pimple, so she doesn't need to be too obsessed with her own thoughts?

Over the past decade or so, schools have given us baggy uniforms and told us that "within books lie a golden house and a beautiful girl." They've encouraged us to focus on our studies and ignore appearances.

It's so interesting how people of all ages care about appearance and have their own internal standards and judgments about it. For example, in junior high school, girls were not allowed to wear bangs, and I didn't understand how bangs had anything to do with learning. But the teacher felt that girls with long bangs were not good people, so wasn't this also judging people's appearance based on appearance and using one's own standards as the criteria?

Absolutely! It's only natural for people to care about appearance. After all, if two people don't know each other, the first thing they will do is judge them by their appearance. But if you are a good person, with time, gold will always shine! As for people who are good for nothing except their appearance, not many of them will be the last to laugh.

It's important to feel good about yourself, but it's also good to pay attention to your appearance. Most people want to avoid conflict, and dressing neatly and tidily shows that you're sincere in your interactions with others. You don't need to wear complicated makeup or flashy clothes to be liked — you'll be liked by many people even if you don't.