Why do you feel like you're speaking loudly in a crowded place, but others can't hear you?

Hello!

You care a lot about what other people think, and you rarely express your emotions and inner thoughts. You are often one of the quietest people in school, as you feel that there are many rules and regulations to follow.

When there are lots of people around, it's easy to get caught up in chatting with others and forget to listen to what others are saying.

It can be really tough when you feel like you can't speak up because you're too soft-spoken. It can feel like you're missing out on interacting with others, and it can be hard to see it as a positive thing. But you can speak normally! You can speak normally at home, and you can speak normally when you're out and about.

I'm guessing you feel a bit nervous and constrained when you're out and about, right?

This has something to do with your wonderful temperament: you are relatively mild, a bit timid, more rational, and a little sentimental. Secondly, you are relatively lacking in assertiveness, which is totally okay!

It's totally normal to focus all your attention on feeling other people's attitudes and opinions. It's a way of speaking your mind while "listening" to other people. You're used to having an inner dialogue, and you may feel as if there is a door between you and the outside world. You're inside, and they're outside. This is your habitual state, so you've always felt a barrier between you and them.

How can you speak louder?

First, it's important to remember that there's lots of tolerance in relationships. We're all different, with different personalities and ways of speaking and thinking. There's no one right way to get along with others, and we're all constantly changing.

You can speak more freely, because others will understand, be tolerant and forgiving, and even if you say the wrong thing, you can still make amends. And when you wake up after a good night's sleep, will you remember exactly what someone said yesterday?

Oh, don't worry about it! You're just getting a general impression and feeling, and sometimes you don't remember everything about unimportant words.

So speak boldly and loudly! As long as you don't mean any harm, you can relax and speak your mind.

Next, pay attention to yourself and express your thoughts more. You've got this! Slowly train yourself to organize your words to express your opinions and feelings. Over time, you will gradually find the right way to express yourself. When you are confident in your way of speaking, you will become sociable.

Finally, try to keep your volume close to the normal speaking level of others. Pay attention to the atmosphere of other people's conversations. Try to blend in and find the general pattern. After you become familiar with it, you'll feel a little more natural and relaxed when faced with the same atmosphere.

I'm rooting for you! You've got this!

Hello questioner, thank you for your question.

Your question is fascinating and brings back memories of similar experiences. I'm eager to engage in a conversation about it.

1. You need to work on the volume of your voice.

You feel like you're speaking loudly, but no one can hear you in a crowded place, right?

I want to know why my voice gets hoarse when I speak in a crowded place. And why, when I answer questions in class, if the class is noisy, the teacher can't hear me at all? When I'm reading, I make noise, but others say I'm not reading, and then I get named. I feel so aggrieved. When there are few people around, my voice can be heard, but when there are a lot of people, no one can hear me at all. But at home I speak normally. It's just like this when I go out.

I can feel your distress, discomfort, and self-doubt, right?

I believe there is a reason why you cannot speak up in such situations. As you said, you can speak normally at home, but once you are in a crowded place, you will speak in a very low voice, and even if you speak very loudly, no one can hear you.

It's extremely frustrating.

I don't know how old the questioner is now, but I know that your current identity and role is that of a student. This reminds me of when I was young and had a similar experience.

Whenever I went to crowded places or formal occasions with teachers and classmates, I spoke in the quietest voice imaginable. In fact, I spoke very loudly, with a deafening voice inside my head.

However, my volume often makes classmates ask me, "What are you saying?"

Over time, I became less and less willing to talk to them. I later understood that it was because of inferiority complexes.

You, the questioner, feel the distress of inferiority, just as I do.

2. Regarding our grievances.

When the questioner was notified, they felt aggrieved, didn't they? Obviously, the questioner had a reason, because "when there are a lot of people, it's hard to be heard."

When there are few people around, there is no problem. But they don't understand you at all, and they even report you for it. This really makes you feel aggrieved. You have to know that beneath our joys and sorrows, our emotions, lie the whole truth about our lives.

Be aware of our emotions. There are also emotions of anger and a feeling of unfairness underneath the sense of grievance.

These are just my personal guesses, but you need to be the one to self-reflect on your true emotions.

You need to be aware, understand, and accept these emotions if you want to solve your problem of having a loud voice.

3. What should I do?

In this regard, Ms. Satir was clear: "The problem is not the problem, but how to deal with it."

If you regard something as a problem, it will trap you.

If you don't see them as a problem, or if you see them as a resource (something that helps you grow), you can change the course of events by changing your mindset.

In other words, we must accept our inferiority and use it to our advantage. When we're around others, we should speak softly.

Adler said it best: "Inferiority is used to overcome."

The best way for the questioner to solve this problem quickly is to find a strong social support system.

The questioner can overcome their inferiority complex and heal the psychological trauma of being reported with the help of a professional psychological counselor.

I am confident that the above answers will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

Hello! I saw your question. You mentioned that when there are a lot of people, you can't be heard. It might be helpful to consider whether it is really the case that your voice is small, or whether you are afraid to speak loudly.

It might have been because there were so many people, and you were feeling a bit nervous and afraid, or perhaps you were not quite as confident as you would have liked, which might have made you speak in a lower voice.

You mentioned that people can hear you at home, but not in a crowded classroom. If you are used to speaking quietly and don't like to speak loudly, it might be the case that people won't hear you in a crowd.

If it's not your genes or a small voice, you have the option of building up your self-confidence. With more confidence, you may find that you naturally speak louder.

After reading your question, I was prompted to reflect on my own experiences. I recall being one of those individuals who was initially hesitant to speak up, particularly in the presence of the spotlight, eye contact, or being watched. This often led me to speak in a relatively low voice.

I'm not sure if you have some sort of social anxiety, but if it's not a psychological issue and you're naturally reserved, there's no need to blame yourself. It's important to accept yourself for who you are.

If you're unable to speak up, you can always explain your situation. However, if you're experiencing social anxiety, it might be helpful to gradually challenge yourself a little bit at a time. This could help you become more confident and speak up naturally.

In any case, it's important to be kind to yourself, accept your current situation, understand yourself, and gradually challenge yourself.

If you did take part in the book club and read the book, you might like to consider sharing your thoughts with the other person, rather than self-negating and excessively blaming yourself.

If you allow yourself to be yourself, accept your shortcomings, understand yourself, and gradually inspire and challenge yourself, you can make slow but steady changes.

I hope that these self-learning experiences and insights will be of some help to you.