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Why do you feel so much resentment towards your family these days after ten years of being in a relationship? What should you do?

sickness, home, treatment, psychological counseling, divorce, family issues
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Why do you feel so much resentment towards your family these days after ten years of being in a relationship? What should you do? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

When I got sick, I knew I had to go home. I knew that if I got sick, I had to go for treatment. I felt that the outside world was dangerous at that time, and I didn't feel safe. Later, I got married. My husband was a kind of companion. Following him, I gained the courage to go out. However, every time I changed environment, I would get sick again. I have received psychological counseling. The counselor told me the truth about human nature. I am very simple-minded. Now that I have been divorced for six months, I am at my parents' home. I always have a grudge against my family, and I am angry. We don't communicate very well. I also want to live away from them on my own, but I am afraid that I will be alone and not be able to take care of myself. If people bully me outside and I have a relapse, I don't know what to do.

Amelia Brooke Carter Amelia Brooke Carter A total of 1589 people have been helped

My friend's father is also bipolar. It's been eight or nine years since he was diagnosed, and he's doing really well! He's been receiving medication at a regular hospital and taking his medication on time since his diagnosis. My friend said that his father is actually in very good shape now, with normal speech and behavior, and a gentler disposition (his father was more grumpy in his early years).

His father is actually a very self-disciplined person, even a bit of a perfectionist, and takes everything very seriously. That's why his career has developed very well, and his colleagues around him also think that he is a person with leadership and high emotional intelligence. He has indeed led his colleagues to better development, and the family lives in harmony. Before my friend mentioned this to me, I had never thought that his father had bipolar disorder – it's so inspiring to see how he's managed to turn his challenges into strengths!

I'm happy to say that everything I've told you is absolutely true!

So, with effective drug treatment (seek help from a doctor at a regular tertiary or higher-level hospital, a good doctor will help you determine the most effective dosage together, and sometimes the effect can also be greatly affected by the wrong dosage), and adjusting yourself, what's the point of actually getting a diagnosis?

Is there a rule that says such people are doomed to give up on something? Absolutely not! There's no reason why you can't succeed. In life, a lot of things depend on you.

I'm not old enough to give any advice, but I just want to share a true story to encourage you!

I know you will do your best, and I know you will achieve some amazing breakthroughs with our love and blessings for you and your family! It doesn't have to be done overnight, but you still need to make some changes.

The main thing is that you don't regard the illness itself as a burden. When you do that, you'll be amazed at how much better you feel! Your family will be tired too, even if you don't say anything. It's just a matter of adjusting your mindset, taking your medicine on time, drinking when you should, eating when you should, sleeping well (my friend's father just often sleeps when he's done things, maybe for him it's a way to repair himself and recover, and of course it could also be the effect of the medication).

Oh, and is it basically lifelong medication like my friend's father? The dosage will be adjusted over time. I really hope everyone, regardless of age, will be excited about taking medication!

I truly believe that if the medicine is helping you to maintain a stable state, then it is doing its job! Don't be afraid of taking medicine. When you feel out of sorts, get in touch with your doctor as soon as you can to adjust the medicine and dosage. You'll be amazed at how many problems you can solve!

Best regards! I'm so excited to see you soon!

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Blake Julianne Cook Blake Julianne Cook A total of 611 people have been helped

Hello, host!

Give you a warm hug. Some people spend their whole lives trying to heal childhood wounds.

The psychological scars from childhood are like being carved into our bones.

It's really tough to treat, and it can make people feel like they want to die.

Nobody wants to experience these symptoms. Just as our bodies can become unwell, our emotions can also become unwell.

We all need an outlet to get rid of bad emotions. This emotional garbage is the unease and anxiety that were left in the body early on and not soothed in time. After growing up, it will jump out and torment you from time to time.

We all have our own emotions and inner feelings.

Some people are sensitive, while others are more insensitive. Generally, the latter group isn't affected much.

People who are sensitive tend to pay a lot of attention to what's going on around them and to what others think of them.

Sometimes, they hide their true selves and find it difficult to express their true inner needs.

If you're not happy, you'll probably let it show in the form of a temper tantrum.

Right now, the host often

I often feel resentful and angry towards my family members, which makes it difficult for me to communicate with them. I also want to move out and live away from them, but I'm afraid that I'll be alone and unable to take care of myself. I'm also worried that people outside will bully me and I'll have a relapse.

Take a moment to think about why you feel resentment towards your family. It might seem like a minor conflict now, but it could be because of how your parents treated you when you were young and the fact that you didn't get the things you thought were important as a child.

When you can see this, give yourself a hug. You've grown up now, so you need to take responsibility for yourself and learn to stand on your own two feet, rather than relying on your parents and resenting your family.

It's important to accept your imperfect self, reconcile with your family of origin, and be grateful to your parents.

While on medication, the host also gradually affects his own state of mind with his own consciousness.

It doesn't matter if you're sick, as long as you get the right medication and psychological treatment, you'll get better.

The majority of human diseases are actually caused by mental illness.

First, accept that you're imperfect. Don't be too hard on yourself.

Then, try to reconcile with your family of origin, accept your imperfect parents, and be grateful to them.

When you can accept everything, you'll find that resentment just disappears.

Make meditation a part of your routine to help keep your emotions in check.

Meditation helps the mind relax and unwind, free from distractions.

People get tired, irritable, and lose their temper because they think too much, which messes with their minds.

When you make meditation a daily habit, your emotions will become more stable, and you'll find you lose your temper less often.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors!

I'm Warm June, and I just wanted to say that I love you all!

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Paulina Martinez Paulina Martinez A total of 4040 people have been helped

Dear Landlord, Thank you for your question. I am aware of the challenges you are facing due to your husband's bipolar disorder and your decision to return to your parents' home when needed. I understand that this is a difficult situation, but I am here to support you. I have been living with bipolar disorder for ten years and have experienced similar difficulties. I am aware of the benefits of having a supportive spouse and the option of returning to your parents' home when needed. I am here to help you navigate this challenging period. Please do not hesitate to reach out if you have any questions or require assistance. Sincerely, [Your Name]

Bipolar disorder, also known as manic depression, is characterized by alternating episodes of hypomania and depression, which can give the impression of emotional instability. When emotions reach a peak, the brain may suppress this involuntary excitement, resulting in a sudden drop in mood and interest. During depressive episodes, the brain may discount and correct the depressed mood, again not to restore stability but to make the individual more excited.

Are you experiencing symptoms such as sudden changes in body temperature in response to external temperature changes?

This emotional roller coaster is not a common experience.

Individuals with mood disorders are typically capable of maintaining normal work and study routines and communicating effectively. However, when stimulated, their emotions can become erratic and unpredictable. In such instances, a stable living environment is often crucial. Given that you have resided at your current location for over six months and are accustomed to the home environment, if you wish to make a change, I advise that you first consult with a qualified psychiatrist to assess your current mental health status and determine the stability of your condition.

If they concur, you may wish to consider a change of living environment, while simultaneously ensuring that your mental health is monitored during the transition period. We will assist you through this period of adaptation to the new environment.

It is recommended that you seek professional psychological assistance to identify the underlying causes of your bipolar disorder and to assess this emotional disorder through professional methods. I am pleased to have you as a client. 1983. The World and I Love You!

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Cooper Thomas A teacher's patience is a virtue that students cherish and learn from.

I can totally relate to feeling unsafe when you're unwell. It's comforting to have a safe space like home to retreat to. Marriage brought a new kind of support, but it's tough when changes keep affecting your health. Counseling has been eyeopening for me too, helping me understand myself better. Now, postdivorce, I find myself back at my parents' place, and the tension is palpable. I'm torn between wanting independence and fearing I'm not ready for it.

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Ronald Miller A well - read and well - versed person can bridge gaps between different groups.

It's hard to feel understood by family sometimes. They might not realize how much we've changed or what we're going through. After everything that's happened, I wonder if there's a way to bridge that gap and communicate more effectively. Maybe with time, we can rebuild that connection and find a middle ground where I can still feel supported while pursuing my own path.

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Ronald Davis Those who succeed are not afraid of failure; they see it as a necessary step.

The fear of relapsing is real, and it's scary to think about facing the world alone. But maybe this is an opportunity to build up my resilience gradually, in a way that feels safe. Perhaps starting with small steps, like setting up a routine or finding a hobby, could help ease the transition into living independently.

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Kennedy Anderson Time is a never - ending story of beginnings and endings.

I've learned that being simpleminded doesn't mean I can't make smart choices for myself. Sometimes, it takes courage to admit when we need help. Maybe reaching out to a friend or a support group could provide some reassurance and show me that I'm not alone in this.

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Katia Weller Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it.

Living on my own sounds liberating, yet the thought of isolation is daunting. I wonder if there's a balance to strike—perhaps a shared living arrangement or a community where I can be independent but also have support nearby. That way, I can grow at my own pace without feeling overwhelmed.

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