Why is almost every university on the internet described as hell?

I understand that it can be challenging to encourage someone to write about the positive aspects of something, but it's often much easier to prompt them to share their negative experiences.

It's a bit like eating. We enjoy a particular food or restaurant, but if we eat it every day, might our taste buds change? Could our feelings towards it alter?

Even if it's delicious food, it's not always easy to maintain that level of satisfaction over time.

I believe that every situation has two sides. If you feel that the school has shortcomings, I kindly ask you to leave a comment and share if there was ever a moment when you felt that this school was quite good. Was there any scene that left a deep impression on you?

If everything was negative, it would be difficult to understand why you chose this university in the first place. There is always someone with a good reason and a beautiful vision!

My university was also an ordinary university, and it was even very small, much smaller than the high school in my hometown. When I first arrived in Hangzhou, I saw the West Lake and was reminded of the beautiful girl with an oiled paper umbrella walking across the Broken Bridge in the misty rain and along the small bridge and flowing water in the book. I came from the seaside of Ningbo, and facing the West Lake, I felt that the grandeur of the sea could not contain the torrential emotions in my heart.

My school was also quite small. My high school classmates had to ride their bicycles for ten minutes to get to school thanks to the university, while I could leisurely walk there in ten minutes. My dormitory was even shared with the school next door.

I will always remember that when I first chose this school, I was impressed by the sight of the entire library. I had always known that the school I had chosen was a century-old school. It was already established in Hangzhou before I was born, before my parents were born, and before my ancestors were born.

I later learned about my major and discovered that the school had established partnerships with several prominent companies. I worked diligently to rank among the top third of students and secured a position with one of these companies. I am grateful to have had the opportunity to grow with the company as it expanded and became publicly traded.

Life has many sides, and they are not all as even as a diamond. While it's important to recognize challenges and address them, it's also valuable to focus on the positive aspects. Believe in your ability to see beauty in the world around you!

I'm so sorry to hear that.

I appreciate your kind and benevolent nature, but I also recognize your apprehension about the less savory aspects of society. This is a common sentiment.

I would like to extend my congratulations on your graduation from university and your decision to pursue further studies at a higher level. The Buddha observed that the world one sees within oneself is a reflection of one's own inner state, and that one attracts the kind of people who resonate with one's own energy.

Your positive outlook leads you to focus on the positive aspects of your experiences. This results in a tendency to recall warm, happy, friendly, and kind memories. Many individuals share this tendency, and you are not alone in this regard.

In regard to the negative comments that are often seen on the internet, it is important to remember that without thorough research and investigation, one does not have the authority to speak on the matter.

It is more probable that they will resort to name-calling. How many of them can provide specific examples? Do you have an understanding of the type of person these malicious individuals are?

Why does he express such negative views about the school he attended? If he believes the school is substandard and has caused him significant difficulties, why doesn't he report it through established channels?

Furthermore, it is important to note that comments made on the internet, particularly those made anonymously, may not reflect the views of the person typing them. As a result, it is often possible to choose to ignore non-real-name comments on the internet.

For an adult who has graduated from university and is about to start a postgraduate program, the ability to distinguish right from wrong is essential. Your question indicates that you may lack this ability.

I must admit that I am not fully aware of the full extent of some of these issues. However, it is important to remember that every society has its fair share of both positive and negative elements. It is essential to consider the bigger picture and view these issues dialectically.

This is applicable to children, to how we handle situations, and to how we interact with others. I believe it is possible to develop a stable worldview.

I wish you the best of luck.

The questioner is nice.

The host feels confused and helpless about the questioner's incomprehension of "scolding" his alma mater on Zhihu and his fear that he will die in a school that has been scolded as a hell where people eat people and spit out their bones. I give you a warm hug and tell you that there are still many good people in the world, and the same goes for schools. So gather your courage and use your best self to refute the online comments.

Philosophically, things develop through a process of change. When faced with criticism, do you have your own standards for right and wrong? Or do you just go along with the majority?

Many students attend school each year. How many will complain? Can they represent the school?

What are the bad things your classmates complain about? Are these personal, school-related, or objective problems?

If you think school is bad because it's strict, think about why you're there and decide for yourself.

Look at the world and school with an open mind. Search for the school's advantages.

What's the good history? Wait.

Students leave school with different talents and qualities. Work hard to become the best you can be!

I'm a Zen tea for life.

I hope this helps. Best of luck!

Hello there, question asker!

I'm here to help!

I know it's tough to find the right words to put your mind at ease about your upcoming postgraduate studies in just a short description of more than 400 words. But I'm here to try to help! I hope my answer can accompany you in seeing more possibilities when you're feeling anxious or even afraid.

Let's talk about the "pregnancy effect" in everyday life.

I'd love to tell you about an interesting psychological phenomenon that I think you'll find quite fascinating! It's called the "pregnancy effect." Have you ever noticed that when a woman is pregnant, she often sees pregnant women everywhere she goes?

This is a kind of "selective attention." Some things are not that common, but because of our special attention, we get the feeling that they are very common and highly prevalent. "Almost every university on the Internet is described as hell," which is a pretty extreme example! When you say this, you may also be experiencing similar "selective attention."

[A shift in thinking from a one-sided event to a multi-faceted event]

As the saying goes, there are two sides to every story. And just as there are good and bad people in the world, there are bound to be people who like and people who hate any university. When you hear that online "current or former students use the vilest language to abuse their alma mater," remember that there must be another side to the story that you haven't seen yet.

To get the full picture, it's important to gather as much information as you can from all sides. It's natural for one-sided events to stick with you. On the one hand, search platforms often show related or similar results, and on the other, negative information tends to evoke stronger emotions than positive information. These emotions can linger in your mind and spread to others.

It's so important to be aware of the source of your emotions.

I'm so happy for you! You've spent four wonderful years at university, and you've even got into graduate school! That's amazing. But I noticed when you searched Zhihu for information about the school and asked questions on the Yi Xinli platform, you seemed to be feeling a bit anxious. I'm here to help you with that.

It's totally normal to feel anxious about adapting to a new environment. It could be that this is your main concern, or it might be for other reasons. The good news is that you can explore your feelings to understand where this anxiety is coming from. It's also possible that you've been feeling this way for a while, even before you started searching for school information on Zhihu.

And there are other ways you can learn to relax and manage your emotions so that they don't affect your daily life.

I really hope the questioner is ready to embrace all the wonderful things that graduate school has to offer!

Hello, question asker! I'm Shushan Wenquan. Let's learn to be our own spiritual gardeners and watch over the spring blossoms and autumn fruits!

In your text, you describe how you used a network platform to learn about the school you will be attending. However, you found that no matter which school you searched for, almost all you saw were insults. You discovered that the school was "described as a place that eats people up and spits them out," which made you afraid of your future studies.

So, you want to know why everyone loves to trash their school online? How to make sure your new school doesn't have a negative impact. Let's look at it together:

I get where you're coming from. I did something similar in the first half of this year. I was looking for a school for a nephew and the internet naturally led me to the Zhihu platform.

I clicked on it and was pretty shocked when I saw it. Most of the info about this school (local middle school teacher's college) was pretty negative. I read the comments and conversations above and saw that a few people who said nice things were attacked by others.

At the time, I was pretty shocked. How could it be so bad? Later, I found out more about the situation from a friend who worked there. Turns out, schools are actually pretty diverse. They're not as good as you might think, but they're also not as bad as you might think.

Everyone sees things differently, so their opinions will vary. How a school really is depends on how you interact with it and how effective that interaction is.

In terms of material things, high schools have a lot to live up to, and in terms of spirit, there's a kind of halo effect on universities.

From my own experience, I can say that many high schools have excellent facilities, especially the key ones at the county or municipal level and above. However, many universities don't have facilities as good as those of high schools because they've been around for a long time.

If you've stayed in a five-star hotel and are suddenly relegated to a three-star hotel, you're going to have to complain, aren't you?

On top of that, to get everyone to study hard and get into university, high schools and previous education often make universities seem like an amazing place to be. They make them seem like the best of the best, big and good at everything.

After years of hard work, you finally get to experience the "ivory tower of the university" and look at everything around you with a sense of accomplishment, only to realize it's not quite what you expected.

Teachers don't do as much one-on-one learning anymore, classmates aren't as close as they used to be, and you have to face a lot of new things and make decisions on your own. But none of this was taught in previous education, so people will feel like they've been misled and think college isn't what they expected. Your life in college depends entirely on you starting over.

This sense of loss and loneliness, brought on by material contrasts and spiritual ideals, has led to some college students feeling dissatisfied with their schools. However, most people are trying to adjust their mentality and actions as quickly as possible to adapt to the new environment and create their own success.

Some people are still complaining and feeling uneasy, just going through the motions of their daily lives. After four years, when they look back, they realize that all they have is a graduation certificate. As a result, they find it even more difficult to accept it, and they blame the "university of their choice."

2. Keep up the good work and keep building that positive relationship. Make it a two-way street: "I am proud of my school, and my school is proud of me."

I'm not really sure what's going on. In any case, what I felt most during my four years of university was warmth, happy friendships, and kindness. There were indeed a lot of bad things, but overall most of the memories are good.

It's great that you're aware of this. Don't doubt yourself. You're one of the few people who are proud of your alma mater. And don't be upset. In fact, most people feel the same way, they just don't post it online. The fact that you have a harmonious relationship with your school also shows that you have grown over the past four years by using this platform.

As you're about to start at a new school and in a new environment, it'd be a good idea to put your "preconceived" notions to one side. Instead of thinking about whether the school is perfect (no school is perfect, after all), think about what you want to achieve in three years. As a platform, what resources can you use to achieve your own growth?

For students, the most important thing is to learn and grow. Most universities nowadays can meet everyone's learning needs. What we need to do is learn how to make use of these, rather than asking for more and better.

Students aren't at school to have fun, so if things don't go well, it's a great chance to learn and improve.

I wish you all the best as you embark on this new chapter of your studies!

Hello, I'm happy to have this chance to chat with you.

I'm happy to have this chance to meet with you here.

You're looking online to learn more about the university you're about to join, and you're feeling optimistic about your future. However, the comments you find are a bit of a shock, and you see mostly negative news, which almost drowns out your hopes.

I understand your concerns, and I'm here to support you. Let's take a moment to acknowledge your feelings and then move forward together.

I get it. It's natural to feel this way when you're worried. It's also understandable that you're only seeing negative things.

First, negative content tends to generate more interaction. It also tends to appear first because it drives traffic to the site.

Second, it's a kind of substitution psychology, where people blame their own failures on others and avoid facing their own shortcomings.

Another thing to keep in mind is that many people leave comments just to vent, so they're basically just expressing their dissatisfaction.

So, avoidance and catharsis have become the most important content on the Internet, which is why there are so many negative comments.

Don't worry about college life. Everything is relative and interdependent. Negative feelings can bring out the beauty of the positive, sadness can bring happiness, sadness can bring joy, and anger can bring calm.

People who badmouth their alma mater haven't had the chance to enjoy the good things in life. They keep the good memories to themselves, while bottling up their anger, so they need to let it out.

I'm an enthusiastic answerer and listening teacher at Yixinli. I'm learning knowledge to help me face life and summarizing experience to help others. I hope I can help you.

Dear Questioner, I am writing in response to your query.

Upon searching for the name of any university on Zhihu, one encounters a plethora of disparaging remarks, a considerable portion of which originate from current students at the institution in question. This prompts a sense of bewilderment, particularly when one is on the verge of attending such a university. However, upon perusing Zhihu, one encounters a multitude of unfavorable opinions, leading to a loss of confidence in the institution's reputation. Consequently, one is inclined to believe the negative sentiments and is plagued by concerns about the potential outcomes at the university.

This indicates that you are adept at gathering information and enjoy being well-prepared. You are accustomed to being well-prepared and knowledgeable about a wide range of topics, enabling you to confidently navigate challenges. However, you have recently encountered information that appears to be unfavorable, resulting in a sense of overwhelm and concern.

First, we must consider the nature of those who attack their alma mater. There are two primary categories of individuals who engage in such actions. The first category comprises individuals who did not perform well in their academic pursuits and may have experienced significant setbacks. These individuals often direct their frustrations and dissatisfaction towards their alma mater in a malicious manner. In essence, they utilize this method to disguise their inner feelings of inadequacy. While they may have not performed well, they deliberately attack others, thereby avoiding personal responsibility and concealing their sense of shame.

Additionally, there are individuals who engage in vicious attacks on their alma mater, despite having no justification for such actions. These individuals often exhibit a schizophrenic and antagonistic perspective, perceiving themselves as virtuous while attributing negative qualities to others. However, no individual can be wholly powerful and infallible, as we all experience fluctuations in our character and abilities.

When individuals observe positive qualities in others, it can trigger a negative response within themselves, leading to the projection of those negative qualities onto the other person and subsequent attack. This behavior serves to reinforce the individual's own sense of righteousness. In essence, they are attempting to safeguard the positive aspects of themselves. Individuals who are constantly subjected to criticism and comparison to others may experience paranoia, narrow their career prospects, and continue to encounter setbacks in their relationships. Alternatively, they may exhibit persistent concerns about not being loved and live in fear of being abandoned. They may appear to have an aversion to seeing others succeed or to believe that no one else is capable or deserving of success, and that they are the best.

Such individuals have developed a coping mechanism that involves denying the positive qualities of others while simultaneously disparaging them. This is a defensive mechanism employed to ward off the fear of being abandoned due to one's own shortcomings.

Let us examine the fear that resides within you once more. You are fearful that this negative information is, in fact, true, and it serves as a kind of protective mechanism for yourself. You are afraid of being hurt in that place, so it is relatively normal for you to feel scared now. Most people feel scared when they hear negative information about themselves. Have you noticed that there are two voices arguing within you?

It is my intention to pursue further studies at a reputable institution of higher learning.

The two voices in question are as follows: 1. I want to go to a good university to continue my education.

There are numerous online sources indicating that this university is a highly challenging environment that can have a detrimental impact on students.

Thus, a certain anxiety arises in the subject's heart. In order to avoid being hurt, the subject feels a sense of fear in their heart, which can help them escape from the adverse environment that causes distress and harm. However, this avoidance may result in missing an optimal educational opportunity and losing the chance to continue receiving a high-quality education.

It is possible that you may wish to consider changing your university once more. However, if you were to search on Zhihu, you would find that there are a significant number of people at that university who would suggest that you avoid it. This may help you to avoid any potential hurt, but it is important to note that there is a significant cost to this approach. It may be more beneficial to adopt a more adaptive defence mode, such as replacing avoidance and fear with curiosity. This would enable you to explore the university with a curious heart and ascertain whether it is as unfavourable as has been suggested. It is possible that you may find that the university you wish to attend is just as warm, happy, friendly, and kind as the one you spent four years in.

It is my hope that this response is of some assistance to you, and that you enjoy a happy life.

Dear friend, I have read your confessions and I know you're feeling confused. Let's talk about it together and work through it!

1. The amazing spread of content

Sometimes you'll find that a good thing on the internet has a lot of positive significance, but its spread is average. But a negative thing can really get people talking! They'll discuss it in various groups, and the discussion will intensify. This has a certain spreadability and a reason at the bottom of human nature.

2. School-bashing is a great way to absolve yourself of any blame for your failures by blaming them on your lack of ability!

Some people who have had negative experiences at schools they've attended really want to share their stories. Some want to blame their failures on their lack of academic ability and excuse themselves. Others write their own stories because they know that sharing their experiences can attract attention and traffic.

One of the most valuable lessons you can learn in college is how to think critically. It's essential to understand that not all information is worth accepting at face value. You have the power to use your own thinking to filter any content, anywhere, and selectively absorb what is useful to you.

3. And it gets even better! The algorithm is also a trap.

Once you've shared your thoughts on your university, Zhihu's algorithm will notice that you're into this kind of content. The more you read, the more Zhihu's algorithm will recommend to you. So, it's up to you to decide when to stop reading and take a break from the recommendations. You can choose to pause and come back later, or you can leave the platform if you want a break from the content.

You have the power to choose! You can either pause viewing and reading this type of content, or you can choose to leave this platform with a lot of negative information.

I'm so glad you found this useful! Thanks for reading!

Since you're here, you might as well get settled in!

You're a university student now, and you've already started your journey in the real world. It's important to learn when to let go, to let go of your dissatisfaction, and to sometimes close one eye to your troubles. You'll realize that university isn't that different from the real world, and that dwelling on the negative doesn't help anyone.

But don't use money to measure topics, because we're all adults and we have to be open-minded about everything!

Society is like a big kettle, and school is a place to teach and nurture people. Where there are people, there will be idle chatter. Let's not look at the negative issues; they're not what we're talking about.

But when we're actually in the real world, we gain a deep understanding of what it means to be in society, what it means to be ruthless, what it means to be human, and so on.

How many people will miss their college years? Some will have respect, nostalgia, and longing. I believe that when you finish your last year of college, you'll feel the same!

So, as a young person, you should be open-minded about everything. It's the same everywhere, and what matters is to keep a positive attitude. Remember, if you're here, then be at peace with it. It's the same at any university. On the other hand, think about how much cultural knowledge you can learn at university, and you'll be a winner!