Why is it always hard to say goodbye and restart when leaving the front line?

It's not easy to leave a first-tier city you know and love, give up a job you love and have worked hard to get, and return to a third-tier city to start from scratch.

You have lived in the same place since graduating from university. This has occupied a third of your life and left you with many deep memories. It has also been an important stage in your transition into society and becoming an independent adult. All your past explorations have "landed" during this period. You have found a career you love and have the desire to devote yourself to it. You have also closely linked your future to this place.

It will undoubtedly be very difficult to "interrupt" this development process. You did not choose to return to a third-tier city; you have no choice in the matter. We often feel reluctant and regretful when we have to make a choice, but this is not something you have chosen.

It's time to acknowledge your current emotions and understand them. This is a natural emotional flow, so there's no need to restrain yourself or demand that you let go immediately. Give yourself time to transition through the changes slowly.

There are two main strategies for career development: a resource-oriented strategy, which starts from your abilities and resources and focuses on what you can do and what you do well; and a vision-oriented strategy, which starts from your long-term expectations and explores what conditions need to be met.

You must identify the abilities and resources you need to achieve your long-term goals and then pursue them actively.

Most people's career plans are a combination of these two strategies, and yours should be too. When looking for a job, first look for opportunities that you have the qualifications for or that are relatively easy to find. Then, based on your vision, learn and supplement the knowledge and skills you need, and continue to look for a more suitable space for development.

Your past experience is a valuable resource that will give you confidence in your next development. You can use your existing abilities and resources to find a foothold and then determine what you still need to learn and accumulate to get closer to your ideal, even if you change locations.

Everyone is different. We all have different characteristics and preferences, and we all develop at different paces. It's important to follow the path and pace that suits us. There's no need to force ourselves to make choices in other people's ways.

Hello, questioner! Thanks for putting your trust in me and asking your question. I'm happy to answer it. Here's my take on it:

Moving away from a first-tier city and starting over is tough. The feelings you're having—like nostalgia for the city, love for your work, uncertainty about the future, and doubts about your abilities—are totally normal and understandable.

First of all, you've got a strong emotional attachment to the first-tier city and all the memories you've made there. These memories are very important to you, including your youth, friendships, love, and all your growth experiences.

It's not easy to say goodbye because you're not just leaving a city, you're leaving a part of yourself.

Second, your passion for your work and your concerns are also holding you back from making a change. You've found a job you love and want to really dive into this field. The sense of professional satisfaction and self-realization is priceless.

However, you're feeling a bit confused and worried about the possibility of not being able to find a job that matches your skills when you return to a third-tier city.

On top of that, you're torn about the idea of starting your own business. Your friends think such services are needed in small places, but you're not sure about your abilities or image, and you're also worried about the economic risks.

All of this makes it tough for you to make decisions.

To tackle these issues, I suggest you start by thinking about your career plan and development goals. You can list your strengths and weaknesses and assess your competitiveness and development prospects in different fields.

You might also want to think about talking to a career consultant or a psychologist to get a better understanding of your situation and what you need.

Secondly, you can try to expand your social circle and learn more about the job market and entrepreneurial environment in third-tier cities. By attending industry events, joining social groups, or communicating with other entrepreneurs, you can gain more information and opportunities to better plan your future development.

Finally, don't be too anxious or self-deprecating. Moving away from a first-tier city and starting over is a process that requires courage and determination, but it is also a journey full of opportunities and challenges.

As long as you stay positive and take action, I believe you will be able to find a path that suits you and achieve your career goals.

Hello, You may have to leave the city you've lived in for ten years to care for your family. You're unsure about returning to a third-tier city to find a new job. It's hard to be an adult with an old parent and young children. I understand!

First, understand your current feelings.

1. People feel nostalgia and fear when leaving their hometown. Everyone will feel nostalgic once they have to leave, which is only natural. The fear is the uncertainty of the future. This includes the fear of having to change jobs again, the fear of fewer employment opportunities in third-tier cities than in first-tier cities, and the fear of financial problems.

2. You don't want to start your own business because you think you don't have the right skills. You think that starting a business requires marketing and management abilities. Even entrepreneurs are seen as having a boss-like image. There are a lot of misunderstandings here.

3. You feel torn between your family's expectations and your own doubts. You want to return, but you're afraid of the uncertainty and the fear of missing out on good job opportunities.

Let's look at what's possible based on your description.

1. If an elderly person is sick and a child needs care, do you have to go back? Can your parents, wife, and children come to your city to see if there are jobs or money-making opportunities for them? You can decide.

2. Find out what companies and jobs are available in other cities. Contact them one by one, sending your resume and making phone calls. Ask your colleagues if your company has partners in your hometown.

3. Collect information about your hometown, the number of special groups of children you work with, how their needs are met, and visit to see how their needs match the local supply.

4. Determine whether there is a market opportunity. Talk to your company's leaders and colleagues about whether you can be sent to develop your city. There must be a related demand in small cities. You don't have to start your own business. You can connect various resources.

You have the expertise and can find resources based on research. Take the lead on this matter.

5. You don't have enough experience to provide services for special needs children, but there are people who can. If you need help, you can get it. What are the services for special needs children in your hometown? You can start with projects that don't need a lot of work. If you don't know how to market your services, you can ask relatives or friends in your hometown to help.

6. If there aren't any suitable opportunities in your field, see what other jobs are available that are similar and that you can handle.

There's always a way out, but it's made up of steps. Think about all the possibilities and take action to discover and seize opportunities. Passively waiting is an escape, but we can't escape our roles.

Hello, I'm Zeyu.

Most people feel confused when they leave their familiar environment and enter an unknown world. It's okay to be indecisive. It's only human nature.

The question says, "I have lived in this city for 10 years since graduating from university. I like the atmosphere and scenery here, and there are many things I remember." I can tell the question asker likes this city. If I were in the question asker's situation, I might also be as indecisive. Moving from a first-tier to a third-tier city can be challenging, but it can also be an opportunity. It depends on how we view this.

The questioner loves special education, but the resources in third-tier cities are weak. However, there are still opportunities. We can find a career in this area or a related one.

The question is about starting a business. Have you thought about setting up an institution or organization for special education in a third-tier city? If we can't find the resources, we can learn about the policies and information from the local government departments. The support for special education is strong. We can find direction and opportunities.

Finally, we should try to act so we can test what we've learned.

I understand your feelings. It is an extremely difficult emotional experience to leave a familiar and beloved city and say goodbye to a job that you have poured so much effort and love into.

You have strong feelings for this city. It holds your youthful memories, the career you have worked hard for, and the friends you have made along the way. This emotional bond is so strong that you find it hard to let go.

Let's look at this from a different perspective. You're feeling difficulty saying goodbye because you're nostalgic for the good old days and uncertain about the future.

Every goodbye is a better beginning.

They may not have as much experience and preparation as you do, but they know that only by trying can they find the path that really suits them. Just like those who dare to try, they are willing to take that step.

In psychology, there is a concept called the "comfort zone." It refers to an environment and state that we feel familiar, safe, and comfortable in.

You're stepping out of your comfort zone by leaving the first-tier city and returning to a third-tier city. It's normal to feel uneasy and anxious, but remember, it's only by stepping out of our comfort zone that we can continue to grow and improve.

I'm going to give you some advice on your current situation. I'm going to help you face the challenges ahead.

First of all, you should record the good memories of this city in a diary. Every day, write down something that makes you feel warm and moved, or draw some scenes that have made a deep impression on you.

This way, you'll always have these beautiful memories with you, even after you leave. You should also share these memories with friends and family. Their support and blessings will become your driving force going forward.

You need to develop a clear career plan. Find out about industry trends and the job market in the third-tier city to see if there are any job opportunities related to your major.

Use recruitment websites, social media, and personal connections to find suitable positions. When submitting your resume, attach your personal profile and portfolio to demonstrate your professional abilities and work experience.

Use this time to improve your skills and knowledge. Take online or offline training courses to learn new skills or deepen your professional knowledge.

This will help you adapt to your new working environment and increase your competitiveness.

If you want to start a business, you must conduct market research and a risk assessment first. Find out what your city's needs and competition are, and assess whether your resources and abilities are sufficient to support a business project.

If you feel you are lacking in certain areas, start with small projects and gradually accumulate experience and resources. At the same time, seek advice and guidance from business mentors or industry experts. They can provide valuable advice and assistance.

Seek the help of a professional image designer or stylist when it comes to image dressing. They will provide you with suitable clothing and styling suggestions based on your personal characteristics and needs.

You should also refer to some fashion magazines or fashion bloggers on social media to learn some new dressing techniques and styles.

You must believe in yourself and try your best, no matter what path you choose. Every attempt is an opportunity to learn and grow.

Your future is bright. It will be full of sunshine and hope. You will find your own happiness and success soon.

Dear question asker,

Upon reading the term "special needs children," I am compelled to acknowledge the fortuitous circumstances that have brought us together. My daughter is also a special needs child, afflicted with a genetic disorder, and is undergoing treatment in a leading medical center.

In the event that a suitable institution exists in the hometown, it is arguably more suitable there. It must be acknowledged that, in addition to having good therapeutic intervention institutions, first-tier cities are not always the optimal choice for the rehabilitation of special children.

As a parent of one of these children, I increasingly feel that these children need a more down-to-earth living environment. Life in a big city is too fast-paced and there is too much going on. Children lack sufficient time to play and interact with each other, and it is challenging to find a suitable peer to interact with because they are all engaged in extracurricular and interest classes. It is also difficult to find a suitable adult to chat with, as adults are preoccupied with work and career advancement.

Additionally, there is minimal interaction between neighbors, with greetings being the extent of their interactions. Relatives and friends also do not venture as frequently due to the expansive city, considerable distances, and the demands of work and life. Appointments must be made several days in advance, with the possibility of cancellation.

In smaller cities, there is a greater density of relatives and friends, who are geographically proximate and therefore less encumbered by time constraints. It is therefore more straightforward to arrange social engagements, which are often characterised by a high level of activity.

Such an environment is conducive to the rehabilitation of children with special needs.

It would appear that there are also a considerable number of children with special needs in smaller cities. Otherwise, it seems unlikely that there would be so many parents and children from such cities in our organisation who have left their homes and families to come here, if there were no resources available locally.

In conclusion, your decision to return to your hometown and undertake this endeavor is a meritorious one.

In order to achieve a goal, it is necessary to identify the optimal time, location, and individuals to facilitate the desired outcome. Based on the aforementioned analysis, all of the necessary elements have been identified. The remaining challenge is to overcome the psychological barriers that may impede progress.

All theories must be tested through practice, all theories have potential for improvement, and all theories require individuals to remain current with the latest developments.

Theoretical knowledge can be acquired from a variety of sources, including books and online communities. The opportunity to learn is not constrained by geographical location, age, or temporal boundaries. The process of learning is a continuous endeavor that occurs throughout one's lifetime.

To illustrate, I have been taking my child to an institution for rehabilitation for a year, but I have since ceased these visits. I have acquired knowledge of the theories and practices of prominent figures through books and my membership of the Warm Star Community (online learning). I am intimately acquainted with my child, and thus I have devised a learning and training plan tailored to his needs. My child is happier and his emotions are more stable. Although progress is slow, it is steady. Furthermore, every day my child is not tired from intensive rehabilitation sessions, and we flexibly arrange time for him to attend a regular school, engage in family training, and play, which contributes to his mental health.

Moreover, you are a teacher yourself, having obtained your qualifications through self-study or further education. Consequently, you will learn at a faster pace than the average person. Additionally, you possess teacher qualifications, which you can utilise in a more flexible manner than the general public when instructing students.

Therefore, it can be concluded that the individual in question is not lacking in expertise or resources; rather, they are lacking in self-confidence.

With self-confidence, one is imbued with the fortitude to surmount any obstacles. With regard to the requisite capital and attendant risks, one must bear the responsibility of bearing the costs associated with one's endeavors.

Furthermore, if one selects a field in which they possess expertise, the associated risks are significantly diminished. Conversely, when one ventures into an unfamiliar domain, the psychological pressure is undoubtedly amplified.

Given your age and the demographic you serve, I urge you to consider this opportunity. It is a rare and valuable chance to fulfill your dreams while also addressing the needs of the young and old. I encourage you to seize this opportunity without hesitation.

It is recommended that you prioritize your career while also striving to facilitate positive outcomes for children with special needs in your hometown.

It is imperative not to be intimidated. There is a mutual growth and advancement to be achieved, with each party providing a unique contribution to the process. It is essential to have faith in one's own capacity for growth and development, as well as in the potential of the children and their guardians to undergo similar changes.

We have replaced numerous instructors and ultimately ascertained that our most preferred educator is not necessarily the one with the most exemplary professional abilities, but rather the one who exhibits the greatest patience, care, and capacity for considering matters from the child's perspective. As long as one maintains a profound sense of love and compassion, it is unlikely that any concerns will become insurmountable obstacles.

May blessings be upon you.

Hello.

You have lived in this city for 10 years since graduating from university. You love the culture and scenery here. There are many people and things that have left deep memories. You have fallen in love with a city, with its favorite flavors and work, and the noisy streets and clamorous sounds that make you reluctant to leave.

You spent ten of the best years of your life working hard in this city, and it is full of your fondest memories.

However, they must return from the first-tier city to their hometown in the third-tier city due to the illness of the elderly in the family and the need to take care of the children. They also face the biggest obstacle of having to start a new job.

One is the practical difficulties at home.

When an elderly person falls ill, it is distressing for the children. The elderly person is suffering, and the whole family is saddened.

The elderly usually help with childcare. Now, not only are there no helpers for the children, but the elderly also need long-term care.

Family circumstances have changed significantly, and household chores have suddenly become very burdensome. You have undergone a major transformation in your role in the family.

You must also start over in a new place, away from a familiar work environment.

You're moving from the city to your hometown. It's been ten years, so it's like starting over in a new environment. You need to adapt again.

Some economic and social environments must be rebuilt from the ground up. The relationships with old friends and relatives and new colleagues and friends are also undergoing certain transformations.

Your family back home will see you as someone who has gone from a decent living in a big city to returning home without a job and giving up a good position in the city. They will also have to re-evaluate your new role.

You also have to deal with the issue of having to start over and find a new job.

It's more difficult to find a job you like in a third-tier city. You like your current position, and you're a pragmatic, hardworking type of person.

You're not cut out for marketing and management, so you're not going to develop in that direction.

Furthermore, your financial situation simply cannot afford the risk of starting a business. Given the current economic climate and your assessment of your ability to start a business, it is clear that starting a business is risky.

Overall, the practical difficulties before us may seem overwhelming, but you can overcome them. Trust yourself to slowly set off again on solid ground, and you will find the strength to solve the problem.

We will get through this. We survived the shock of the coronavirus pandemic.

When our real world suddenly changes drastically, and all previous efforts are at risk of being overturned and rebuilt, it can lead to a period of confusion. Don't let it make you feel trapped, unable to move forward.

You will overcome this period of confusion. If you need to, you can continue to ask questions here, or you can find a coach to accompany you through this difficult time.

We have already recognized the reality of the situation, and we know the way forward is to think about what we can do and then take action little by little. It may be that you have not yet found a good opportunity to completely transform your new role, but you will.

You have to believe in your own abilities, and you will definitely discover some opportunities in the process.

The world loves you, and you should love yourself too.

Dear Question Asker,

After reviewing your inquiry, I empathize with your predicament due to work-related challenges. I wish you the best.

I have worked in a first-tier city for ten years and am particularly comfortable with my work. It is challenging to leave, but the reality is that the elderly and children require care. It is a difficult decision. Best regards,

I believe that in order to better serve the elderly and children, we should consider relocating from first-tier cities to third-tier cities, closer to the populations we serve. Despite our initial reservations, I commend you for taking this step. I wish you the best of luck.

It is true that third-tier cities often have uncertain futures. However, it is also possible to find success in these markets if one is willing to take risks. In other words, risk and reward are two sides of the same coin.

I can see that you have conducted a thorough analysis of the problem and presented a well-reasoned argument. From your narrative, I can see that you have a strong foundation and a clear sense of purpose in your own profession. Since your friend has indicated that your profession is also in particular demand in third-tier cities, I believe that with your dedication and effort, it will undoubtedly flourish in the coming years.

Have confidence in your abilities. You can succeed. I am confident that you will succeed.

I believe the questioner is correct in saying that the present is good and that we should be grateful for the encounter.

From reading your description, I can sense some hesitation and uncertainty about the future. I'm sending you lots of hugs!

I would like to discuss this topic further with you.

1. Could I inquire as to why it is often challenging to say goodbye?

In your description, you mentioned that you have lived in this city for 10 years since graduating from university. You like the cultural atmosphere and scenery here, and there are many people and things that remain deeply etched in your memory. You also said that you finally found a job that you like, even though the salary is not high, through your own efforts and continued learning.

There are not many decades in life. In the 10 years you have been here, you have become familiar with the place and it has become a part of your life. You have worked hard, experienced a range of emotions, and have developed a positive relationship with your current job.

After all, you have experienced and contributed, and it is still 10 years. It is understandable that you might feel reluctant to leave for a while and find it hard to say goodbye.

It is understandable to have such thoughts and feelings when accepting yourself, and it is acceptable to allow yourself to feel sad and reluctant.

2. Could I respectfully inquire as to why it is so challenging to embark on a new beginning?

You have also written in your description that it is more challenging to find a job in a third-tier city that aligns with your skills and interests. You feel that you may not have studied as extensively as you would have liked and that you have always been pragmatic and hardworking, with less experience in marketing and management. Additionally, you feel that your personal style may not fully align with the image of a leader.

Another practical concern is the financial security that would be needed to withstand the potential financial losses that could result from starting a business. Additionally, there is the consideration of accumulating work experience and improving oneself, which might lead to a preference for waiting for a suitable job opportunity.

You feel that entrepreneurship may not be the right path for you at this time, so you plan to gain experience and wait for the right opportunity to arise.

You have a good understanding of your own strengths and weaknesses, but you are not yet familiar with the job market in third-tier cities. You have considered the possibility of starting your own business, but you are not sure if it is the right decision given the financial risks involved.

It's understandable that you might feel a bit uncertain about your future work in a third-tier city. It's natural to wonder if you'll be able to adapt, what kind of work you can choose, or how to plan for the future.

3. Try to look at it in a positive way.

You may recall how you initially established yourself in this first-tier city. There are undoubtedly numerous job opportunities in first-tier cities, but they do tend to prioritize individual abilities. However, you "encountered several challenges when searching for employment, and through your own efforts and continued learning, you eventually found a position that aligns with your interests."

You've come so far! This is your experience, and it is also your experience.

If you bring the same spirit of hard work and continuous learning that you showed during the interview, you will always find a job you like. Even if it is not quite right, or if you are not yet satisfied in many ways, you can always take things slowly and start by getting your feet wet and getting used to the environment.

You have the ability to learn and work hard, which is needed in any job. Life is a learning experience, and you can use your existing work experience in your future work. It may help you out at some point.

You have these abilities. Perhaps it would be helpful to start over again, as you did when you graduated from university. You may find that you adapt and develop in this third-tier city and find your place again.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. I wish you the best!

Hello. I can tell from your words that you're anxious and confused about a turning point in your life. First, I want to give you a hug and tell you that I'm here to help.

First, you mentioned "difficulty saying goodbye," which reflects your attachment to the status quo and uncertainty about the future. This feeling likely stems from a sense of security and comfort in the known environment, as well as fear of the unknown.

People typically feel secure in familiar things, even if they are not perfect, because they are knowable and controllable. The unknown, on the other hand, brings uncertainty, which can lead to anxiety and fear.

Your depth of emotion and commitment to the past are all part of your personality and a reflection of your character. This allows you to find meaning and satisfaction in your work.

Secondly, your hesitation and ambivalence about starting over indicates that you are experiencing an internal conflict. On the one hand, you desire stability. On the other, you fear change. This kind of conflict is a common emotional experience for humans, especially when faced with major decisions.

Your commitment to your current job and your expectations for the future reflect your high standards and sense of responsibility towards yourself and your desire for professional and personal development.

You have valid concerns about your current skills, image, and financial situation. These are real and common concerns. Your high standards and sense of responsibility are admirable, as is your reasonable concern about future risks.

This is a normal concern given the involvement of your career and family responsibilities.

We can explore together how to better cope with these emotions and concerns, and I am confident that it will be helpful to you.

Accept your current emotional feelings. Allow yourself to feel lost, uneasy, and afraid. These are normal emotional reactions. Don't criticize your feelings. Understand and accept them.

Take the time to think about your long-term goals and values. This will help you determine what is most important and guide your decision-making process.

Set small goals according to your own situation and move forward step by step. For example, start by understanding the job market in third-tier cities and gradually expand to other areas.

Discuss your thoughts and concerns with trusted friends or family members. They can offer you a different perspective and support.

Seek the help of a career coach if you can. They can provide expert advice and resources.

Practice relaxation techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, or yoga to reduce stress and anxiety.

Your life path is unique, and there is no "right" way to handle the situation. Your past achievements prove your resilience and ability, and these qualities will accompany you into the future.

You can get through this. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Your experience and enthusiasm have laid a solid foundation for you, and you can overcome any challenge.

I'm sure my answer is helpful. The world and I love you! ?

Hello, question asker!

It's totally normal to feel a mix of excitement and nerves about moving to a new city for work. It's natural to have concerns about your career growth and to feel a bit hesitant about starting your own business. It's okay to have some worries and fears, as well as some reluctance.

If you want to eat delicious rice, would you buy good rice to cook with, or would you research the various rice varieties, plant your own rice, harvest it yourself, and then cook it?

If you want to learn to swim, would you study all the different strokes and equipment, or just jump in and try it? I know it can be scary to try something new, but I'm here to support you!

When we meet a good mentor, we'll say, "Give a horse a helping hand and a lift."

We could really use someone to help us out for a little while, give us a little boost, and then we can start our journey on our own.

This is also the case with entrepreneurship. When you have a good idea, it's always a great idea to meet someone who can help you, and start doing it! You'll gain so much experience along the way.

You say you're great at hard work, but maybe not so much at marketing and management. And your image isn't exactly that of a boss.

It sounds like you have a lot of restrictions on yourself, and a lot of rules and regulations are holding you back, my friend.

If there's something you're not so good at, don't worry! You can always find someone to work with.

It's so true that our behavior and attitude can change depending on the situation. Not everyone who starts a business knows everything right away. When they push themselves to grow, they often find that the things they once thought were difficult are actually not that difficult after all!

It's true, there weren't that many people in Li Jiaqi's initial live broadcast room. Dong Yuhui also used to talk about his favorite books in English in a live broadcast room, but not many people paid attention.

But they kept at it, and thanks to their passion and persistence, more and more people were able to see them.

Your love for special children is so inspiring! It's amazing how your passion can attract so many people with the same frequency to help you.

Those who follow the right way are lucky enough to have lots of helpers, while those who follow the wrong way are sadly lacking in support. The cause you are engaged in may have changed the lives of many children and families for the better. Perhaps just telling their true stories is enough to move people. There is no need for exaggerated marketing. The most important thing in communication between people is authenticity and sincerity.

You've got this! Don't set limits for yourself.

I truly believe in you! You can absolutely have your own business. Come on!

When you're faced with the big decision of moving from a first-tier city to a third-tier city, I get that this isn't just a geographical move for you. It's also a deep personal exploration. The ambivalence you mentioned about leaving and starting over, the nostalgia for past memories, and the fear of the uncertainty of the future are all common emotional responses when people face major turning points in life.

First, let's talk about your emotional ties to the first-tier city. Over the past ten years, you've made countless memories, friendships, and achievements there, which are all valuable assets in your life.

However, family responsibilities and caring for children may force you to make this difficult decision. It's totally understandable that it's an emotional struggle, as it involves saying goodbye to your past way of life and exploring the unknown of a new life.

But remember, life is a journey of constant forward motion, and every goodbye is to a new beginning.

Next, let's talk about the challenges you're facing in terms of career development. The opportunities and environments for career development differ quite a bit between first-tier and third-tier cities.

You might find that there aren't as many job openings in a specialized field like special needs services in a third-tier city. But that doesn't mean you can't keep working in this field.

You can also expand your skills and knowledge to incorporate online services and remote work models into your work, which can help you break through geographical restrictions. At the same time, you can also consider launching innovative projects or activities in third-tier cities to meet the needs of special children there.

It's important to think about where you want your career to go and how your skills, abilities and values match up with that.

You can create a long-term and short-term career plan, define your goals, and figure out what you need to do to reach them. This will help you understand your career path better and work towards it.

At the same time, it's also important to assess your abilities and work on improving them. Think about your strengths and weaknesses, and find ways to build on them.

You might want to think about taking some training courses or workshops to help you communicate better and think more innovatively. You could also read some books on the subject and go to some industry conferences to expand your knowledge.

I just want to remind you not to worry too much about whether you look the part of a "boss." The truth is that true leadership and success don't depend on your appearance alone. What matters more are your inner qualities and abilities.

You just need to focus on your career goals and personal growth, and keep improving your professional capabilities and leadership skills. That way, you can win the respect and trust of others.

Finally, I've got a few tips for how to tackle the current challenges and opportunities. First, you can reach out to local special education service providers or organizations to see what they need and where there's room for collaboration.

This will help you get a better handle on the local market environment and industry trends, and set you up for success in your future career. Secondly, you can use the Internet and social media to expand your personal and professional networks.

You can also find entrepreneurial opportunities or cooperation projects that suit you by joining online activities and professional communities. This way, you can meet more like-minded people and get inspiration and help from them.

Keep a positive and optimistic attitude, and believe in yourself. You can overcome any difficulties and achieve your dreams.

At the same time, learn to listen to your gut and respect your choices. Whether you choose to stay in a first-tier city or return to a third-tier city to start a new way of life and work, believe in your choice and work hard for it.

I hope you find your own place in this journey, facing challenges and seizing opportunities, and make your dreams come true.

I hope you had a happy May 1st Labor Day! It's been a pleasure to meet in this question, so I'd like to explore it together if you're open to that.

It seems that the original poster is reluctant to relinquish this well-earned position in a first-tier city.

I am grateful for the opportunities I have worked hard to obtain over the years. I also appreciate the cultural landscape of this city, which has a bit of the flavor of a second hometown.

However, given the current circumstances of my elderly parents being unwell and my children requiring care, I have no choice but to return to a third-tier city and start looking for a job again. I have also considered starting my own business, but after evaluating the situation, I have found it to be full of uncertainties, and I am currently unable to make a decision.

We find ourselves in a state of indecision, conflict, reluctance, and anxiety. It is a challenging situation for anyone to navigate.

When we are faced with significant life decisions, it can be helpful to consider the advantages and disadvantages of each option and to have a clear career plan in place.

The current employment environment is indeed not as optimistic as we might hope, and the risks of starting a business are also very real. The fact that you can calmly analyze this and deeply evaluate your own strengths and weaknesses shows that we are no longer the age for impulsive decisions.

Now that we have returned to a third-tier city, it might be helpful to mentally say goodbye to the past and remind ourselves that it is gone. At the same time, it could be beneficial to consider whether there are still some external resources that can be utilized, and perhaps we can also think about our future career from this perspective. For example, we could reflect on the experience gained in a first-tier city, the contacts accumulated, the industry trends and customer resources accumulated.

It is also important to remember that you are not alone. Family and friends can provide invaluable support and emotional feedback, which can be a driving force in helping you to move forward.

Furthermore, it is worth noting that a growing number of jobs can be performed online, particularly with the assistance of social media and the Internet.

From this perspective, we may also be able to consider new possibilities. For example, if you previously preferred to be less visible, you might want to explore ways to develop your next work plan. You can also think more creatively in this area, and you don't have to limit yourself to a fixed way of working or a fixed state.

Once you have found a way to secure employment, it would be advisable to continue your previous diligent and pragmatic approach to work. I am of the opinion that those who help themselves will be helped by heaven, and that new opportunities will inevitably arise. Sometimes opportunities present themselves in this way, and it is important to be open to exploring and creating them. As the saying goes, when the mountain is heavy and the water deep, there is no way out, but when the willows turn dark, there is another village in the distance.

I hope these suggestions are helpful for the original poster.

Hello there!

I totally get where you're coming from!

First of all, you wrote in your description that you've been living in this city for 10 years since graduating from university. You like the cultural atmosphere and scenery here, and there are many people and things that remain deep in your memory. I'm so sorry to hear that you're returning from a first-tier city to a third-tier city due to the illness of the elderly in your family and the need to take care of your children.

"You also have to deal with the challenge of starting a new job, which can be tough. There are so many differences between first-tier cities and third-tier cities, like the level of development, economic strength, population size, and resource allocation.

First-tier cities are the heart of the country's economy, politics, and culture. They're hubs of high-end industries and financial institutions, boasting a highly developed economy and a thriving community. Third-tier cities, on the other hand, may not have the same economic might, but they have their own unique charms. Their industrial structures are relatively simple, and they offer a slower pace of life with low-key charm.

So, when folks who've lived in big cities for a while come back to smaller towns, they often find that their senses have become a bit dulled. Online, the most common explanation is that it's all just "slow," meaning that everything has slowed down, including their senses.

It's totally normal for young people to feel like this, but it can be tough for older folks who've gotten used to a certain pace. It's understandable that this can feel a bit overwhelming.

Secondly, you wrote in your description: "Since graduating from university, I have also been repeatedly rejected when looking for work. After working hard and continuing my studies, I finally found a job that I like. Although the salary is not high, I have found my true love. I have never wanted to climb the corporate ladder, but rather to work in this field and better help special needs children.

It can be tough to go back to a third-tier city and find a job you love. It's like you're looking for something that's a little bit different. You want to feel like you're making a difference, and that your work is special. And it is! You've been doing this type of work for ten years, and you've shown that you're patient and responsible. You have a lot of inner support, but you might need to build a little more self-confidence. If you're still young, you might have a fighting spirit that can take you far. But now it's time to find that same spirit, but make it your own.

You also mentioned in your description that even small places could really benefit from this kind of service. I can relate to that! I've always felt like I haven't studied deeply enough, and I've been really pragmatic and hardworking, not so good at marketing and management.

The industry you're in should be one of the projects the government is really behind. This is your chance! You also know yourself well enough to know that you haven't studied as much as you'd like. This means you need to embrace the idea that "learning is endless" or "live and learn." It's a saying that applies to many companies, but it's especially important for the industry you're in. In a way, individuals are also working hard in this direction, so your feelings can still be considered valid.

I've got some advice for you!

1. Your experience in big cities is really valuable in small cities because the industry you're in is pretty unique.

2. It's true that economic support in small towns is limited, and the population is also limited. For now, your energy may only be able to be used to its full potential in first-tier cities, but in third-tier cities it can be used to its full potential five times over!

3. Another great option is to start your own business! You might not be the best at marketing, but if you can choose the right direction and lead your team in that direction, you'll be golden.

I just wanted to say that the above content is for reference only.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who can help you understand your thoughts and feelings through images.

The questioner is now in a bind: they don't want to leave but they have to start over. Why is this? After reading the question a few times, it's clear that lack of self-confidence is a big issue. Although these words aren't written in the question, they're endorsed throughout.

For instance, when you're a recent graduate looking for a job and you're turned down everywhere, it can really knock your confidence. I finally found a place in the special education industry where I felt my value and was willing to work hard, but I passed up the chance to move up.

The original poster said she didn't want to climb the ladder, but we all know the benefits of promotion, at least in terms of income, and the ability to help those in need from a higher position. What's holding you back isn't necessarily a lack of professional qualifications, but perhaps a lack of confidence in social situations.

Now, due to a sick family member and kids to look after, you have to go back to your hometown. A friend suggests that you start your own business, but you're not confident in your profession and you also think you don't look like a boss. See, when we "rationalize" our own thoughts, our motivation weakens.

The questioner envies those who can try their hand at entrepreneurship with a bit of a foundation. She hopes to be seen by someone with discerning eyes and be carried along. But if you always feel that you are "not well-prepared in every way," how can you shine with confidence?

There's always room to learn and grow your knowledge. As long as you keep moving forward, you'll make a lasting impact. Give yourself a well-deserved pat on the back!

On top of that, if your main goal in returning to your hometown is to take care of your family, you'll need to find a job that allows you the flexibility to do so. It's not always easy to have it all. If you need to put in more hours to take on financial responsibilities, it might be best to let other family members handle it.

Know your strengths and weaknesses, accept yourself, and be true to yourself. You can be confident in living an ordinary life.

All the best!

I'm so grateful for the invitation!

I'm so grateful for all the answers that have already been shared! However, I feel there are still many unanswered questions. I'm excited to answer as many as I can! I've been invited to answer, so I'll give a brief response to one or two questions for reference.

Embarking on a new adventure after living in the same place for 10 years is an exciting opportunity to start fresh! While it may feel like a loss at first, it's important to remember that this transition will bring new experiences and growth. Having a plan in place and being prepared for the journey ahead can help to ease the transition and ensure a smooth start.

To draw an inappropriate analogy, a couple with a bad relationship finally divorced, but it doesn't seem to have much impact on both parties just because they have been fighting for many years and their relationship has been bad for a long time. The impact of the loss of a relationship not only lies in the objective reality of the outside world, but also in the subjective psychological level of the inside, and also in the depths of the unconscious. This is an exciting opportunity for growth and change!

The temperature you're used to, the smells, the wind, the sunshine, the sounds... they have become part of your whole life. And while it might take a little while to see and accept that you're leaving this part of your life behind, it will be worth it!

What's more, the questioner's words show that this "leaving" is more of a "passive" and "helpless" "have to." This means that the sense of loss will come faster and stronger than that kind of "active." On the one hand, there is reluctance, and on the other hand, there may be anger towards the new one. This is an important place for the questioner to focus on.

I truly believe that, when it comes down to it, the questioner has absolutely no problem with leaving and returning. The real challenge lies in the emotional level, but this is also what makes us human so fascinating! We are not machines that only seek profit and avoid harm; we also have complex and immeasurable human nature and emotions.

These will all pass and become part of life. Just like the respondents here, there are so many people who are willing to accompany you in difficult times.

I really hope this helps! Best regards!