Why is it that some people are nice to the people in their family of origin, but only nice to their wives?

Please accept this opportunity to meet.

After reviewing the questioner's account, I was intrigued by the mention of "blocking each other's accounts." I was curious to see how the situation would evolve. It appears that the questioner and her husband tend to respond to conflicts and disagreements in a predictable manner.

The Jungian concept of "personality masks" may be applicable in this instance. During the growth process, each of us develops a variety of personality masks.

In different relationships, we utilize different personas. When these personas become fixed or are employed inappropriately, they often result in various challenges.

For example, if a teacher were to bring the mask of a teacher back into the family, it would have a detrimental impact on the entire family, including the teacher herself.

In the incident described by the questioner, the husband was required to utilize two distinct personas: that of a husband and that of a capable relative. The questioner, on the other hand, primarily employed the persona of a wife.

It is evident that the husband was unable to synchronize the usage of the two masks and may have even temporarily relinquished the role of "husband" to respond to his wife's inquiry with the persona of a "capable relative."

With regard to the concepts of "good" and "bad," it is important to note that these terms are subjective and may not align with the perceptions of all individuals involved. It is possible that the wife's definition of "good" differs from that of her husband, or that both parties have a different understanding of what constitutes "good."

For example, "We are a family, so we don't need to be so polite. That's really good."

For example, "We are a family, so there is no need to be polite. That is what is really good." Or, "We are here for the long term, while our relatives are only here for a short time, so let's take care of them first." And so on.

It is possible that these are the elements that we can communicate and exchange.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,

#Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I'm modest as a valley and consistent as can be!

The more generous you are, the more you can make up for a certain deficiency—and it's a wonderful thing!

From your description, it's clear that there's a lot to talk about! It seems that the main point of contention is focused on the hospitality expenses for relatives and their attitude. In fact, to put it bluntly, it's more due to a lack of agreement. The reason for this inconsistency in position is something we're excited to figure out!

Our attitude is clear as day: we're not miserly! We just want to balance the budget and pay more attention to our actual situation. But the other party doesn't give you a chance to express yourself, and there's no room for negotiation. Over the past few years, these relatives have been involved one way or another, and the other party's behavior is proof of a certain problem.

It's not always easy to understand how someone else feels in a situation like this, even if you try to put yourself in their shoes. In this case, it seems like he's not feeling very confident, which might have made him react strongly. But that's totally normal!

Guiding is the way to go!

Let's increase communication and understanding!

In an amazing turn of events, someone who never planned suddenly became able to plan and arrange things! This wasn't because they couldn't do it at first, but because after meeting you, these things seemed less important. He didn't need to prove anything to you, but he needed to prove something to his relatives.

If you can suggest that you can communicate in depth, it will be a huge help in understanding the situation and also in understanding each other better, and in finding a more suitable way.

The other person is not good at solving these problems, let alone facing them. But he can prove himself in the most generous way he can! He is just trying very hard. It would be great if you two could work out an appropriate solution together.

Best regards!

Your description is really just your take on things. It's your interpretation, your point of view, and your judgment of the incident. While such thoughts come to the surface, I think the corresponding emotions and reactions are totally reasonable and self-consistent.

The way to behave is to always be right and to blame the other person. Do you have any problems?

Oh, there's no problem at all! We're all rational and reasonable, including you and him.

If both of you are right and reasonable, who is wrong? There's no need to argue!

That's because you're both talking about your own opinions, arguing about each other's conclusions and ideas, and not discussing the facts themselves. It's so easy to get caught up in this, isn't it? We're all just shouting at each other, when really, we should be discussing the facts.

Oh, what is the truth?

For instance, the welcoming hospitality towards guests and the relaxed atmosphere of small family outings might be things both of you agree on. Everything else is just our own opinions, judgments, and conclusions.

There's no need for any arguments here! The only thing to discuss is whether the facts are reasonable and whether they can be adjusted. You think you should do what you can, while he thinks that guests should eat well and drink well, obviously just because the butt is sitting in a different position. But they shouldn't object to each other's position, and it shouldn't be difficult to find a suitable solution.

For example, you could try eating at home with a little effort, going to free museums in the park, or going to a cozy restaurant with affordable and tasty food.

It seems like you're both having a hard time understanding each other. I can see how you might think he's being mean to you, and he might feel the same way about you. But just because he's kind to his family doesn't mean he's not kind to you. And your consideration for him isn't a way of putting his family down. It seems like you're both stuck on your own ideas, and it's hard to find a way to talk when you're both so set on your positions.

Let's take a moment to reflect on the conversation. How much time was spent pointing out the other person's mistakes, how much was spent emphasizing your own point of view, and how much was spent discussing the facts and possible improvements? It's important to remember that it's not always helpful to focus on right and wrong.

He's just being considerate, and you just need to do what you can. I'm sure these facts won't lead to mutual accusations like the ones described above. But what is certain is that accusations only lead to confrontation and distract from the focus, and they don't help with each other's demands.

All you're doing by asking him to stand with you is asking him to stand on your side. There's no solution there! What you can do instead is try to get a little closer to each other. You can do that by understanding each other better or by compromising. Then you can find a solution that is acceptable to both sides. That's what a community should be like!

It might be a good idea to admit that the person you're looking for is out there!

Hello, I'm Xin'an.

During the Mid-Autumn Festival, when his relatives came to visit, he was warm, generous, and attentive. This surprised you because it seemed that he had never been so attentive to your little family.

For example, he poured water for everyone at the table except you. It seems that your husband's behavior made you feel neglected.

I don't know. What were your thoughts and feelings about your relatives from home? How did you respond?

What was your attitude?

What's a normal, reasonable attitude toward your extended family?

Your husband's reaction hurt you. It made you feel he doesn't consider you his closest and most intimate person.

"Consider costs, not just generosity to the extended family at the expense of the nuclear family."

How should this be understood? Does he care more about your family and not give enough?

"We end up blacklisting each other again." Does "again" mean something similar has happened before?

Why did you block each other's accounts? What happened?

How did it happen? What were your thoughts and feelings?

How was it handled?

"It feels like once it comes to his extended family, they are right about everything." Can you understand that you have always had your own thoughts about your husband's attitude towards his relatives?

Have you tried to make yourself feel better?

How do you interact with your husband every day? Is communication easy?

Do you share your feelings? If you were to rate your relationship, what would you say it is?

I don't know anything about your husband's family. Could his attitude be related to his upbringing? Maybe it's because of gratitude?

Maybe it's because of some complex? Have you talked to your husband calmly?

You decide.

You are the expert on your own problems. You are the only one with experience and knowledge of them. You are the only one who understands them. You are the only one who can decide.

You have the strength, wisdom, and potential to find the answers you seek because you are blessed with love.

Bless you.

Hello!

Husband and wife are one, and when they come together in unity, they can overcome any challenge. If they are unable to come to a consensus when faced with problems and feel a sense of division, it simply means they don't know each other well enough yet. This makes them vulnerable to internal instability and division in the face of any difficulties, but it also presents an opportunity for growth and learning. They just need to give each other more support and care in order to create a safe and stable environment.

Or is it the husband who is actually "destroying" the family's happiness?

In the past, when there were three of us, we were always up for spontaneous adventures and never planned our route in advance. We also had a set budget for eating out, which made it fun to explore different restaurants. This time, when the relatives came, we went out for a few meals at restaurants, and then bought tickets to the amusement park in advance. For the first time, I was amazed to see that he had planned the time well and led everyone to this spot to catch the next show.

Guess what! At the dinner table, he poured water for everyone except me. Today, I asked him what some relatives had brought over.

Oh my goodness, if you say you brought milk and fruit, and I say you didn't bring mooncakes, he'll say you didn't send any mooncakes!

There's no such thing as a family, and that's a good thing!

Family harmony requires mutual support among family members. From the questioner's question, we can see that the husband seems to be someone who is unable to make up his mind. When it comes to the extended family or relatives, he habitually plays the role of the "nice guy," taking all the credit for everyone's praise of him, or even being willing to do so even without encouragement or praise. So what makes him unable to break away from the old pattern of getting along with his family? He is "respectful" when dealing with his original family, but turns around and is stingy with his true love and children when it comes to giving more. Does he really not know how to give? Or is he exhausted and needs more love first?

It's so important to understand the pattern of behavior that influences her husband. This is the reason to be clarified first. The formation of a person's personality is a long-term process. During this period, the environment is one aspect, and the personality is the second aspect. From her husband's behavior, we can see that he's still forming his independent personality. This is totally normal! Whether it's a large or small family, he's still learning how to leave and integrate. He's got a lot of growing up to do! This is a relationship pattern of "controlling" and "being controlled." This is something he can work on. He'll get there! He just needs to be patient with himself. He cannot truly be himself, and at the same time, he cannot give others true care. This is something he can work on, too. He'll get there!

Suggestion 1: Get to know your husband's family background and get to know him better!

As we've discussed, it takes time for our personalities to develop on their own. But once we're adults, we have a complete mind and can make mature decisions. We can understand our position and the social structure around us. But if we refuse to grow up, we'll miss out on the amazing benefits that maturity brings!

The husband's outward "generosity" of paying without regard to the cost is often overlooked in the small family, which can prove the husband's immaturity. Perhaps it is because the values of his original family have affected his values, and he is unable to break away from the "control" of his original family. His behavior is to unconditionally obey his original family, without his own principles or bottom line. And now he copies the mode of getting along with his original family in managing the small family, not knowing how to respect his wife. His way of expressing himself is to use denial and questioning to control the other person's thoughts. This cannot allow the family to have natural and smooth communication, and even less can it allow each other to build trust. But there's a way to change all of this!

Suggestion 2: Don't let anxiety get the better of you! Use positive thinking to motivate your husband to grow.

"Every family has its own difficulties." If the husband's performance disappoints the wife, it will definitely affect the overall core strength of the family. But don't worry! If you let it go, it will only make communication between each other more blocked and more disappointing. People with a positive way of thinking will use the crisis as an opportunity to turn the unfavorable environment into an opportunity to bring each other closer together. That is to first let go of the thinking mode of "labeling" and total negation, but to give the other party timely advice and communication, so that the husband can realize the true situation and the impact of unprincipled giving. If it is difficult to cut through the communication channel, you can also seek external assistance to alleviate the conflict, but in any case, you must hold onto the bottom line of your principles, rather than unprincipled tolerance of your husband's words and deeds. You can do it!

For example, the questioner could use a different form of influential communication: "This hospitality has exceeded the budget, which may mean that next month's expenses will be tight." "I hope you can listen to my advice, it's very important to me." Let's try something new!

Of course, changing communication patterns also takes time, and sometimes it is habitual to take the opposing side. But if you remember not to always use a dismissive dialogue, to reserve a little space in the dialogue, and to describe your inner feelings only about the current matter, then you will have given each other a great stepping stone! You can then think back and think positively, and not always retaliate or seek attention and care in a hostile manner.

[The most difficult interpersonal relationship to deal with is facing yourself], because we are unable to accept our own shortcomings. This is also the reason why when someone says "I" is not good enough, we fly into a rage, feeling rejected and worthless. But there's hope! If a husband is a man who cares about face, he can still find it within himself to accept the real self. Whether it is "hypocrisy" or "low self-esteem," the first thing is to let the other person realize their own problems. What others can give is only guidance and reminders. As a wife, in giving support and understanding, you have the power to set a basic salary and principles. You can choose to be the best wife you can be!

I wish you all the happiness in the world!

Reading the questioner's interactions with other teachers' replies, it's clear she's gained a better understanding of her husband's behavior and their relationship has become closer. I'd also love to share some of my own views for the questioner's reference, to see if there's any new inspiration!

The questioner can observe the emotional changes in their heart when their husband is more enthusiastic towards his relatives and less enthusiastic towards them, as well as the specific events corresponding to these emotions, to see what is being expressed deep within. Just as the questioner replied above, what is expected of the husband within, and what these expectations of the husband mean to oneself. This is an amazing opportunity for the questioner to gain insight into their own feelings and expectations!

Just imagine for a moment that the questioner were to switch places with her husband. What would it be like to be on the other side of the interaction, facing the same attitudes and approaches that she once used to face her husband?

Another great point is that the relationship between husband and wife is jointly managed and maintained by the couple. The closeness of the relationship reflects both the emotions that the two people have for each other during their interactions and also some of the problems that exist. Just as the questioner said, it feels like her husband is not on her side, and they are not a husband-and-wife community. But there's an easy fix for that! Perhaps in the questioner's opinion, a husband and wife should be with the husband standing by his wife's side, and they are one with each other.

This reflects the questioner's expectations for her husband. However, these expectations are her own, not her husband's. It's important for the questioner to be clear about this, because even if her husband is her husband, he is first and foremost his own independent self, and only then is he the questioner's husband. If he also agrees that he and his wife are one, it will be easy for him to feel that he has lost his independent self. This may be the part that he cannot understand or accept, but it's an exciting opportunity for growth and understanding!

He just doesn't dare or can't express it to the questioner. He may be able to sense what the questioner means, but he can't explain this feeling himself, and he is afraid that saying it out loud will hurt the relationship between husband and wife. But there's another way! He can make the questioner feel uncomfortable, but at least he can continue their relationship as husband and wife.

And finally, the relationship between husband and wife is also a kind of interpersonal relationship! This means that the interaction model of interpersonal relationships is also in line with the interaction and development of the husband-wife relationship. There is a golden rule in interpersonal relationships: if you want others to treat you a certain way, you must treat yourself and others that way!

If the OP wants her husband to truly consider her a member of the family, she must first consider herself a member of his family and consider him a member of her family. It may be a bit of a mouthful, but the OP can think about it carefully and slowly. And it'll be worth it!

This is an amazing opportunity for the questioner to change her attitude and approach to interacting with her husband! With her intelligence and ability to understand, I know she can do it. The best kind of relationship between a husband and wife is one where they can both be independent and interdependent, be close but also separate, and trust themselves and each other.

Hello, I'm Jiang 61, and I'm thrilled to be here!

I'm so grateful to you for putting your trust in us and sharing your concerns. I'm excited to help you solve the mystery in your heart! You ask, "Why is it that some people are nice to the people in their original family, but only nice to their wives?"

"Your lover's approach makes you feel confused, puzzled, and uncomfortable. Let me hug you and comfort you a little before I tell you why your lover treats people this way.

1. Treat differently

1. The new family

A trip during the Mid-Autumn Festival gave me a deeper appreciation of this. In the past, when there were three of us, we were always up for an adventure! We loved exploring new places and didn't worry about planning the route in advance. There was also a set budget for eating out, which made it fun to try different cuisines.

He's a bit careless, but that's okay!

Your description makes me feel that your spouse has so much room for improvement in the new family. For one thing, when it comes to going out to play, he could be more prompt, more proactive, and more communicative about planning routes. He has so much potential to be a better, more organized person!

Be careful with money!

If you go out to eat together, you are super meticulous about budgeting and act like a housekeeper!

2. Large extended family

This time, the relatives came again and were extremely generous with the meals at home and at restaurants. They even bought tickets to the amusement park in advance! For the first time, they shocked me by showing me the planned schedule to lead everyone to this attraction and rush to the next one. At the dinner table, they poured water for everyone except me.

It was all so carefully prepared!

But after your relatives arrive, they say they want to go out and have fun! So, they buy tickets in advance, plan the time for each outing, and rush to the various attractions. They've thought of everything!

You are amazed by your lover's behavior!

Be generous!

When relatives come to dinner at home or eat out, they really put on a show! They're so friendly and attentive, and they go all out to make sure everyone's having a great time. They'll serve you tea and water and really make you feel welcome.

3. Questioning I was so excited to find out what my boyfriend's relatives had brought over. I asked him, and he said they had brought milk and fruit. But I was sure they had also brought mooncakes!

Guess what! I asked him what his relatives had brought over, and he said they had brought milk and fruit. But I said, "Did they not bring mooncakes?"

He said, "Oh, you didn't send mooncakes? Well, we have some at home!"

He sent several messages in a row, immediately rejecting my doubts and taking my side, rather than standing together as a couple.

Equality is a wonderful thing!

You believe wholeheartedly that everyone should be treated equally, and that your relatives should also show their appreciation for your hospitality. You asked your spouse a few questions, but he just brushed them off.

Positions

You asked him questions out of concern for the new family's finances and other considerations, but he spoke from the perspective of his original family. It gave you the impression that you were not a family, and that he did not consider the actual situation of his own family.

2. Reason

With this tone, the two of them didn't say many nice things to each other. In the end, I explained to him again that we were actually on the same side. After all, the hospitality expenses over the past two days were not small, and we also had to consider costs. Instead of being generous with the extended family, we usually feel aggrieved by the nuclear family. The end result is that we blacklist each other again. It feels like once his extended family is involved, they are right about everything.

1. Point of disagreement

Hospitality

It's clear that your partner values his extended family greatly. It's not just out of courtesy, but also because of the amazing hospitality they offer. After all, relatives have come a long way, and some politeness is required.

Second, your lover is a person who cares about appearances and is very sensitive to criticism from relatives. Third, he may have been a more attentive person in the past, unable to show off his talents in front of you, but eager to let them loose in front of relatives.

You see his thoroughness in doing things, and you admire his hospitality. This is one of the points of difference. So, you find it hard to understand why he behaves so thoughtfully.

I don't know if you usually do everything in the family, big and small, leaving him with nothing to do and stifling his talents. But I know you're a very busy lady!

Family relationships

Your lover cares deeply about the relationship with the extended family, and he wants to do everything perfectly. From your conversations, I can tell that he has not yet fully established the awareness that he needs to maintain his new family well, especially in terms of giving you and the family the attention and love you deserve.

In terms of safeguarding the interests of the new family, your awareness is much stronger than his. You also consider the interests of the new family from the outset, so you are a little dissatisfied with his approach, which is also a point of contention between you. You ask a lot of questions that he doesn't consider to be problems, and you have arguments.

Your conflict also stems from the fact that your focus is on safeguarding the interests of the family, while his focus is on maintaining relationships within the extended family. Because of your different perspectives, you feel angry and uncomfortable.

2. Personality Your lover is an optimistic personality + a people pleaser. Optimistic personalities have so many great qualities!

In terms of personality, your lover is an optimistic personality + a people pleaser. Optimistic personalities have

Characteristics: broad interests, loves to talk, warm and enthusiastic, enjoys life!

He's got so many great qualities! He's optimistic and lively, seizing the moment and always ready to lend a helping hand. He's also very compassionate and great at making friends.

Disadvantages: impulsive, flighty, superficial, weak, prone to remorse.

Your partner's warm and hospitable attitude towards relatives and his lack of consideration for the family's financial situation are also due to his personality, which is great because it means he's got a lot of positive qualities!

A pleasing personality is one that focuses on pleasing others without regard for one's own feelings. It is an unhealthy state of mind. The essence of pleasing others is that others are more important than I am. I am only safe and loved if I make others comfortable.

Therefore, your lover is more concerned about the feelings of his relatives, which is a great quality! He is too busy to care about whether the relationship in his own family is good or bad, and whether his financial situation is affected, which shows he has his priorities straight. He ignores your true feelings, but this just means he's not interested in getting into that kind of drama.

3. There's room for improvement in this relationship!

From your narrative, it can also be seen that there's room for improvement in your intimacy and mindset. This is an exciting opportunity for you to work together to improve the situation!

3. Marriage management It's time to dive into the exciting world of marriage management! Here, you'll learn how to navigate the challenges and opportunities that come with being married. Get ready to explore the ins and outs of this dynamic journey together!

1. Mutual understanding

Marriage is a wonderful thing that needs to be nurtured and maintained. It's a journey that you can truly enjoy with your partner for a lifetime if you do it together!

The success of a marriage depends on first understanding the other person's temperament, likes and dislikes, and what they are thinking. Once you understand each other's actions and the motives behind them, you'll be on the fast track to a happy marriage! Quarrels and suspicions arise when there is a lack of true understanding. So, make sure you understand each other!

2. Trust each other!

Trust is the absolute foundation of a strong marriage! When you don't fully understand your partner's actions, it's time to adopt a trusting attitude and support his behavior.

Then, we'll dive into the amazing results of this practice in detail! Especially for men who care about face, face is more important than anything else. If you give him enough face in front of outsiders and make him feel a sense of accomplishment, he'll be grateful to you and will also have full trust in you!

3. Effective communication

Communication is the exchange of information, which refers to the whole process of conveying a message to a communication partner with the expectation of a desired response. And when this process is achieved, it's the ultimate in effective communication!

Communication is a two-way street! It includes both verbal and non-verbal messages, with the non-verbal part usually being more important than the verbal part. Effective communication plays an important role in both family relationships and complex social relationships.

Effective communication is a four-step process that can transform your relationships!

Step 1: Express feelings, not emotions — and watch the magic happen!

Step 2: It's time to get specific! Instead of saying you don't want something, say what you do want. Let's say you're angry. Instead of saying you're going to express your anger, just say you're angry!

Step 3: Be open and honest about what you need. Don't let the other person guess what you want.

Step 4: Look to the future! Express where you want to go, not complain about where you are. Focus on the end result, not on the event itself.

When you have a conflict with your husband, it's an opportunity to learn more about each other! It's possible that he doesn't understand your true thoughts, and you don't understand his thoughts either. In your communication, you haven't fully expressed your thoughts, and one of these four steps is missing, or the wrong method is being used. This is why you are having communication problems. But if you use effective communication, you will see harmony in your relationship, smooth communication, and a happy mood!

4. Expressions of love

In the management of a marriage, it is absolutely essential to use expressions of love more often! What is an expression of love? Everyone's understanding of love is different, and the way to express and receive love is likely to be different as well – so let's explore all the different ways we can show our love for each other!

Dr. Gary Chapman has come up with an amazing way to classify the ways people express and receive love. He says there are five "languages of love": "affirming words," "quality time," "gifts," "acts of service," and "physical touch."

Affirming words are a great way to show your love and appreciation for your friends, colleagues, lovers, or spouses. They're a wonderful way to deepen mutual affection and strengthen your relationship.

Special moments are wonderful times and memories that you share together, such as a candlelit dinner or doing something meaningful together. Make the most of these moments by giving your full attention to the other person!

Accepting gifts: Exchanging gifts on important holidays is a wonderful ritual that strengthens the bond between you and your partner. The gift itself is just the icing on the cake!

Service actions are a great way to show your love and appreciation for your partner. It's all about doing what they want and making them happy! These actions can be as simple as doing something for them or going out of your way to make their day.

Physical contact is a wonderful way to show your love and affection for your partner. Holding hands, hugging, and other forms of physical contact can increase feelings of love and intimacy between you, and it's a beautiful, expressive way to communicate your love.

If you're a couple who needs to work through your relationship, I've got great news for you! Using the five languages of love in your daily lives will strengthen your bond. Your loved one will pay more attention to you, understand you, and be more tolerant, so that your marriage can continue to be fresh and new. Believe that love can melt everything!

Topic Master, I'm so grateful for your trust! I just want to say that I've only given these opinions based on what I've felt. Thank you again!

I wish the poster a happy and harmonious family! May your family be filled with joy and love!

Hello!

Host:

After reading the post, I can see that the host is upset and confused. They are also seeking help, which will help them understand themselves and their husband better.

and adjust your mindset.

Next, I'll share my thoughts on the post. This may help the poster see it differently.

Our behavior shows what's going on in our minds.

You asked a question and I could tell you were confused. You and the other poster have also blocked each other in the comments.

I understand why the poster did it.

Let's discuss it from a psychological perspective.

Our behavior is a reflection of our mental activity. Let's explore the mental activity behind your behavior together.

From the post, I can tell you expect your husband to be kinder to you. Is that right?

You want him to understand you better, right?

If you have expectations and your husband doesn't meet them, you may feel resentment and anger. Anger needs to be expressed, so you blacklist. Is that right? This is just speculation, and it may not be in line with what you, the original poster,

If so, the original poster may understand their own feelings better. This will help us understand ourselves better.

2. See your husband's upbringing environment.

The original poster said her husband is nice to his family. This Mid-Autumn Festival, he invited them to the festival.

You lack a heart. Let's discuss it from a psychological perspective.

This is how the husband interacts with his loved ones.

This pattern of interaction may be related to his upbringing.

Some people are treated this way by their parents since they were young. They may have learned to please others as a way to cope.

People who try to please others think that if others are good, they will be good too.

If this way of coping has not been changed, it may be used all the time. Look at his upbringing, be curious about him, and see why he is like this.

You might ask, "If he's so good at pleasing others, why can't he please me?" It might be because he treats you as one of his own.

He may sacrifice his own needs to satisfy others. When he treats you as one of his own, he may sacrifice your needs when dealing with others.

3. Try a new way of communicating.

We may understand our husbands better through this. I have also noticed the communication style you described.

Your communication hasn't had any effect. Let's try a new way.

If you keep doing the same thing, you won't get different results.

The original poster may want to learn some communication methods in intimate relationships. You can read "Nonviolent Communication" if you're interested. It will be inspiring and helpful.

I hope this helps and inspires you. But remember, changing it takes more than one answer.

It's important to keep learning and trying new things. Give yourself time and space to do this. If you have any questions, you can also click to find a coach for one-on-one chat services.