Will there ever be someone in this world who knows you 100%?

Good day. I understand your confusion. The question you have raised is an intriguing one: Is it possible for someone to know another person completely?

In other words, is there such a person in the relationships with our loved ones, friends, or lovers? My personal opinion is that there is no such person, because it is difficult for us to understand ourselves. This is where the profession of psychological counseling comes in. The objective of psychological counseling is to help us explore and understand ourselves, and to try to understand ourselves better from the level of our subconscious.

In other words, the majority of individuals dedicate their entire lives to learning and attempting to comprehend their own identities. Those in our personal and professional circles can only grasp a portion of who we are, given the complex and multifaceted nature of the human experience. This does not imply that there are no avenues for self-understanding.

How can we gain a deeper understanding of ourselves? One approach is to maintain self-awareness. When an experience resonates with our inner selves, we can record it to gain clarity and perspective.

Secondly, it is possible to seek external assistance by locating a suitable professional with whom to explore one's own thoughts and feelings. Thirdly, it is also possible to continue learning and developing one's own understanding.

These are the key points that I believe are relevant to the question that has been posed. I hope that they will provide some inspiration and insight. At Yi Xinli, the world and I love you.

Hello, I am a psychodynamic counselor. You can call me Qingyi.

From your question, it's clear you expect someone to understand you perfectly. But in reality, no matter how close you are, no one can truly understand you that way. You might feel lost and disappointed, and you might even feel sorry for yourself. But you have to ask yourself, why can't anyone understand you perfectly?

Nobody can understand themselves 100%.

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This is a troubling topic, but it's important to understand that neither others nor ourselves can understand ourselves 100%. Some of us spend our entire lives exploring this topic, and an important goal of psychological counseling is to understand what kind of person we are.

The "Johanari window" is a technique and theory of communication that was originally proposed by Joseph and Harry in the 1950s. It compares the information in interpersonal communication to a window, divided into four areas: open, hidden, blind, and unknown. Effective communication is the organic integration of these four areas.

There are two areas among these four that even we ourselves cannot understand.

It may sound pessimistic, but it's precisely this unpredictability that makes our lives more vibrant and interesting. Even if it's predictable, it's only temporary because we're all constantly changing. This unpredictability is what motivates us to explore and discover, and in the process, discover the unknown self.

Good day, question asker. I observe that you are inquiring as to whether it is possible for an individual to possess complete self-awareness throughout their lifetime.

This is an intriguing inquiry.

The "Iceberg Theory" in Satir family therapy posits that the conscious part of the psyche represents the tip of an iceberg above the waterline, accounting for only 20% of the entire iceberg, while the remaining 80% exists in the subconscious.

These subconscious thoughts frequently originate from analogous experiences during our formative years. Due to our relative immaturity at the time, our comprehension of circumstances and our decisions were readily influenced by our elders, resulting in a near-identical replication of their behaviors. Consequently, Jung postulated that "the subconscious mind exerts control over one's life, and you call it fate."

The desire to understand ourselves is driven by the need to break free from the constraints imposed by the subconscious. What form does the unresolved complexity take that is hidden in the subconscious? This is a question that requires further investigation.

Nevertheless, this is a challenging endeavor that necessitates the guidance of a trained professional with expertise in psychology and a structured approach to facilitate access to the subconscious mind. This underscores the importance of ongoing self-exploration and understanding of the subconscious throughout one's lifetime.

The objective is to gain self-understanding, cultivate self-love, and foster positive relationships with others. It also entails paying attention to the present moment, embracing the here and now, and envisioning a future with confidence.

For further reading on this topic, I would recommend the following texts: Psychology and Life and The Art of Love.

It is my hope that these ideas will prove helpful.

At Yiyi Psychology, we extend our warmest regards to all our esteemed clients. We hope to have the pleasure of welcoming you again soon.

Hello, questioner.

After reading your question, I can say with confidence that no one in this world knows themselves 100%. You have your own thoughts and ideas, which is why you are asking this question.

[Challenging] In fact, when we say that understanding a person usually includes an awareness of their character, emotions, thoughts, behavior patterns, values, experiences, and motivations, we are acknowledging the complexity and constant evolution of the inner world of a person over time and with changes in circumstances.

It is a challenging task to fully understand a person, and it is even more difficult to be fully understood.

[Cognition, expression, and being understood: limitations and dynamic changes in thought] Everyone's understanding of themselves is limited. Language and expression are constrained by limitations that lead to misunderstandings and distortions of information. We are unaware of some of our motives, subconscious thoughts, and deep emotions. Furthermore, people are constantly changing and developing. As experiences accumulate and the environment changes, a person's thoughts and behaviors change significantly. What we express is often not understood.

[Privacy and secrecy] Everyone has their own privacy and secrets, and they are not willing to share them with others. Therefore, everyone's perception and interpretation are subjective. Even for the same thing, different people have different understandings and feelings because they all have their own specific positions and principles, so they also have different ideas and concepts.

It is nearly impossible to fully understand another person. However, people in close relationships, such as family, friendship, and love, can often achieve a considerable degree of mutual understanding. Spending time together and sharing experiences can enhance mutual understanding and open and honest communication can help both parties better understand each other's inner world. However, it will never be 100%. People with a high degree of empathy can better understand the feelings and needs of others. Those who are simple, straightforward, or have low empathy skills will find it difficult to understand others. It is normal for them to understand a little.

Through hard work in communication, empathy, and mutual understanding, we can build strong interpersonal connections. In relationships based on trust and security, people show their true selves, promoting mutual understanding. This understanding may never reach the level of complete understanding, but it is a valuable step in building strong connections.

Finally, while fully understanding another person may be an idealistic goal, we can achieve a great deal by building relationships based on trust, respect, and understanding. At the same time, maintaining a certain degree of self-awareness and independence, accepting ourselves for who we are, there is always some part of each of us that can only be understood by ourselves. This part of self-awareness and exploration is an important part of personal growth and development. It encourages us to reflect on ourselves, understand our own internal needs and desires, and take responsibility for our own happiness and satisfaction. In fact, when you achieve this state, there may be no longer be a problem of understanding and being understood.

I am confident that the above will be helpful.

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

I also had the fantasy that there was someone in the world who could understand me 100% and tell me what kind of person I really was. Later, I discovered that after thirty years of life, I had not yet met such a person. My parents, partner, and friends from childhood did not know me 100% because they were all independent individuals and only participated in a part of my life. There are many feelings and thoughts deep within me that they do not fully understand. Even I myself am still far from knowing myself 100%. But that's OK! Our understanding of ourselves often only stays at the conscious level, while the truest self is at the subconscious level. It was only after studying psychology and delving into the subconscious through methods such as recalling early experiences, drawing analysis, and meditation that I gained some insight and understanding of myself. However, the inner world of a person is like the universe, which is actually endless. And that's a good thing! Knowing and understanding oneself is something we can do for a lifetime. The process of exploration is also full of fun. As we gain more and more understanding of ourselves, we will understand why we have such emotions, behaviors, feelings, and thoughts. We will also become clearer about what we really want and what we need to do to realize our core values and truly live our lives to the fullest.

I'm so excited to share some of my thoughts with you!

Have you ever wondered why we long for someone to understand us completely?

So, there's an assumption here. And it's a big one! You don't really know yourself. You can't be sure of what kind of person you are. But here's the good news: you don't need to! All you need is someone who knows you 100%. That someone can tell you what kind of person you are and give you a definite answer. And if even we ourselves are unsure of what kind of person we are, then who in the world will know us as well as we know ourselves?

It's so true that no one else can understand all our inner psychological activities, all our life experiences, all our joys, anger, sorrow, and fear. Others can only understand us through observation or by sensing some information during communication with us. But we can see ourselves more comprehensively! And that's why we so desperately need an outside understanding and certainty. When you can understand and know yourself more deeply and comprehensively, you will become more and more certain about yourself, and your inner world will become more and more stable.

2. People are amazingly complex, and understanding oneself is an incredible journey. We can understand ourselves through relationships and use some amazing tools to help us along the way. We also need to be aware and reflect constantly to make the most of this fascinating process.

People are amazing! Not only do they have their own personal characteristics, but they also share the common characteristics of humanity. This makes us incredibly complex, which is a wonderful thing. Understanding oneself is not a simple matter, but a systematic project that is well worth the effort. From birth to adulthood, each of us has had different experiences and environments, and encountered many different relationships and stories. This makes each person a unique existence, and the world a diverse and fascinating place. Just as no two leaves are the same, no two people are the same, and of course, it is impossible for another person to understand you 100%. But isn't it wonderful that we are all so different?

There are so many ways to understand ourselves! One of the most fascinating is through relationships. There's a saying that's so true: what others think of you is not necessarily true, and what you think of yourself is not necessarily true either. But you can see how you think of others, and that may be the true projection of your inner self. In "Accepting an Imperfect Self," it's said that the things you don't like about others are precisely the things you don't accept about yourself. And that's something we can all improve upon and learn to accept about ourselves! I'll give you an example. I used to dislike others' meanness, but in fact, it was precisely because I didn't accept my own meanness. Later, when I accepted that I also had a mean side, and understood why I was mean, and that being mean could also bring me a lot of benefits, naturally I wouldn't dislike others' meanness anymore.

And there's more! When it comes to relationships, we can also look to others for insights. I used to be surprised when people told me I had a pleasant voice or that I was good at summarizing. But after hearing so many people comment on these things about me, I was thrilled to discover these two strengths. I started using them, and it felt amazing! I was able to bring my strengths into play and realize my value.

There are so many amazing ways to get to know yourself! Some of my favorites are drawing analysis, meditation, and sandplay. I remember when I was feeling confused, I did this really cool themed drawing activity, and I saw that in any situation, I would choose to write and read. I suddenly realized that the two things I value most in life are writing and reading, but at that time, I had lost both. Later, when I resumed writing and reading, I felt so happy every day and my life was so valuable. Of course, you can also talk to a psychologist, join a group, and so on. The most important thing is that we need to constantly be aware and reflect, so that you can have a more and more comprehensive and objective understanding and knowledge of yourself, and also become more and more clear about what is important to you and what you need, so that you can take better care of yourself and make yourself happy.

3. To know oneself and become oneself is the most important mission and meaning for each of us!

In the ancient Greek Temple of Delphi on Mount Olympus, there is a stone tablet inscribed with the words, "Know thyself." This was the guiding philosophy of Socrates's life. He dedicated his entire life to the pursuit of self-knowledge and truth.

Many successful people in the world have achieved incredible success after coming to know themselves and becoming themselves.

Everyone is different! From innate traits, to the environment in which they grew up, to family background, to education and culture, to personal experiences...all are different. And that's a good thing! But very often, when we do something, we just see that everyone else is doing it, so we do it too. But is that really what we need? Absolutely not! The answer is to discover what we really need, what we are good at, and what our life's mission and meaning are. And we can do that by delving deep within ourselves, exploring our inner selves, finding our core values, and putting them into practice. In doing so, we can confirm whether this is what we need, and gradually find our own path in life, truly becoming ourselves!

I hope this is helpful for you! Wishing you all the best!

Hello! I hug you!

You brought up a good point. Let me share my thoughts.

Almost no one knows us 100%. Even close friends don't understand each other fully.

Soul mates are hard to find. It's enough to have one true friend. We should treat each other like soul mates.

The best way to share the same feelings is to be identical twins. Xu Zhimo said, "I will search for my soulmate. If I find her, I will be lucky; if I don't, it is my fate." Someone who knows us 100% can be met but not sought.

If you expect to meet such a person, you will be disappointed. It is better to be your own confidant.

Second, people may not understand themselves. Our subconscious contains things we don't understand. Jung said the subconscious mind controls our lives.

Psychological counseling helps us understand our subconscious motives. We all have problems we don't understand, but we can't change them. Often, we don't know ourselves well enough.

To understand ourselves, we need to be aware. Then we can look at our subconscious mind.

You can learn to understand yourself. There are many books on the subject. You can also go to counseling. Look for a counselor with a psychoanalytic orientation.

Third, accept reality and lower your expectations of others. Don't expect to meet someone who understands you. Be content if you do.

Even if you meet someone you can understand, you can't understand 100%. You just have to find someone you click with in one area.

Don't expect too much from one person. It's the same with friends, lovers, and colleagues.

So, lower your expectations of others.

Cultivate yourself internally. You are your best partner. Read and think. Read a lot and think about a lot of things.

It's simple, but not easy.

I don't know why you asked this. Why did you ask it? Talk to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who is Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, but I love the world.

The questioner is good.

I am Kelly Shui.

[There will always be someone who knows you 100%!]

From your question, I can tell you're a person who likes to think and is curious about human relationships.

[Explore yourself]

We will expect and long for someone to understand us throughout our lives, and we will also want to understand others.

From the very beginning, we expect to find someone who completely understands us in our family, among friends, or in love. We want to meet someone who understands us with just a glance or a gesture.

We may draw some of these feelings from literature or movies, including what the ancients told us.

The saying "a man will die for the one he loves" or "a thousand cups of wine are not enough for a drinking buddy" proves that being understood and known is a timeless topic for humans.

Everyone has 24 hours a day, and there are thousands of thoughts in an hour. There are also different periods of time. I still choose gifts and consider buying some things I like for my daughter, but I know it may not make her happy, so I'm asking her again.

It also suddenly hits you that you don't even know your own daughter.

I had expectations of my partner too. I wanted him to understand me when I wanted a bowl of ravioli on the sickbed and to get me the perfect present for my birthday.

I later came to understand that even my husband and daughter are independent individuals with their own early lifestyles and ways of understanding, including cognition, ways of self-education, and the influence of friends, which are all different. This realization helped me to gradually let go of my expectations and pay attention to and explore myself.

I was inspired to explore my own self-healing and growth by reading Carl Jung's "Self-Healing and Growth" and Carl Rogers' "The Theory of Personal Formation."

From their sharing, I learned that I too may not fully comprehend myself. I need the viewpoint of others—friends, counselors, or teachers—to gain insight.

It makes us see ourselves differently in the eyes and hearts of others.

Growing in relationships is essential.

At one point, we all want to fit in in a relationship. It's like a baby who can't leave its mother's embrace. In the blink of an eye, we're off to school and a new life. We grow up in a new environment and are influenced by teachers and classmates.

When we reach high school or junior high, we seek out friends with similar interests. We listen to music, study, or go for walks together. By the time we reach university, we have all gone our separate ways and have already started a brand new life in a new environment. At this time, junior high school classmates find that they have slowly drifted apart.

When it comes to falling in love and getting married, we want to meet someone who understands us, someone who understands our laughter and everything about us. We ignore that we both need space, as well as each other.

Empathy and understanding can be gained in a short period of time with a simple gesture. However, if you do it all the time with your whole heart, you will suffocate each other.

At a certain stage, we begin to understand ourselves, our moodiness, our ever-changing nature, our moments of kindness, and our moments of darkness. We see that these things are like the weather: sometimes sunny, sometimes rainy.

We like someone and we can also hate them. We enjoy hating them, too. We understand the many facets of human nature.

Accept yourself, even if you don't fully understand others. Everyone is destined to be understood only by themselves in some way.

Some flowers bloom alone on the cliffs, while others bloom by the roadside for others to admire.

Appreciate your own unique flower. Love it. Experience it. And feel this vibrant world.

Read the recommended book, "Growing in Relationships."

The world and I love you.