With my parents divorced and the grandmother who relied on me for survival passing away, how should I proceed in life?

Hello, question asker. I see you're confused. I hug you!

When you were young, your parents divorced, and you lived with your grandparents.

You depended on your grandmother, and now she has passed away.

You feel helpless and lost again.

Before, you could talk to Grandma when you came home from work.

You come home from work alone.

You can also talk to Grandma's photo when you come home from work.

Tell her you'll always remember her and live bravely to comfort her spirit in heaven.

Grandma wants you to take care of yourself.

Eat well, sleep well, and exercise.

Seek help from a professional counselor to cope with your grandmother's death.

You can also talk to the listeners here.

Or you can get a heart coach.

If you feel alone when you get home from work, you can plant a potted plant.

Or keep a bird.

Tell them when you have something to say.

I hope you can resolve your problem soon.

That's all I can think of.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I'm the respondent, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!

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It would be beneficial to provide the questioner with a comforting gesture. I can discern feelings of loneliness and helplessness within the questioner's emotional state. The grandparents serve as a vital source of support and love within the questioner's family structure. Despite the separation of the parents and their subsequent formation of new families, the questioner and their parents remain connected through their shared biological lineage.

While not biological parents, grandparents have provided the questioner with a level of companionship and care that neither of his parents has. It is likely that the questioner views his grandparents as parental figures in his life, and their role in his heart may be more significant than that of his biological parents. Consequently, the passing of grandparents in rapid succession has undoubtedly caused significant distress for the questioner.

It is understandable that the questioner feels sad and lonely in the face of the death of his grandparents. This kind of situation cannot be alleviated in a day or two, and it takes time. It is also possible that these emotions will be with the questioner for the rest of his life. It would be beneficial for the questioner to consider ways to repay his grandparents for their companionship, care, and love. One such way could be to get a tablet for them in the temple.

Given that the grandparents have already departed, it is likely that their spirits in heaven are still paying attention to and caring about the questioner. It is probable that they hope to see the questioner live a good life, work hard, and live well. This is rather than becoming depressed and giving up on life because of their departure. Therefore, it is recommended that the questioner makes a life plan for themselves, finds their life goals and direction, and takes each step of their life step by step to live a good life.

It is only when the questioner has a good life that he will have more energy to visit his grandparents during the New Year and other holidays, and to sweep the graves of his ancestors. This is also a way for the questioner to repay them for raising him. This is just my personal opinion, for the questioner's reference only.

Hello! I'm Rose, and I'm here to listen and support you.

Your story is short, but I can imagine your pain.

Your parents' divorce was sad. You didn't have anyone to love you. But your grandparents did. They kept you company and made you feel less lonely. Then your grandfather passed away. But you still had your grandmother. She kept you company, and you were still loved.

But now that even Grandma has left, you are alone and unloved.

Dear friend, I see you're sad and despairing.

Let's talk!

1. Life with loved ones

When we have family, we have someone to care for and be cared for.

Your grandparents gave you a home and family when you didn't have parents.

You have the motivation and warmth to keep living.

2. Life without your loved ones

Your grandfather is gone. You don't want to let him go, but he followed his own rules. Your grandmother is gone too. You have no motivation to live.

Your grandparents were the most important people in your life. Now that they are gone, you have no one else to rely on.

You're 26, but you still need your loved ones. You feel empty and don't know how to live.

Let's keep talking!

1. Accept and face

We must accept and face the natural laws of life and death. Grandpa and Grandma followed these laws too.

2. Think of them and have a conversation.

When you miss them, imagine grandpa is on your left and grandma on your right. Look at their faces and say what you want to say.

Imagine what they would say.

Write down what you want to say to them.

This will help you feel better.

3. What do they want for you most?

Your grandparents love you and want you to be happy.

Live your life well with your grandparents in your heart. They are always with you and love you.

You're not alone. They're still with you.

4. You can start a new life now that you're an adult.

Live a good life with your grandparents' love. They'll be pleased.

When you miss them, you can try the above exercises. The rest of the time, you can make friends and have a great life.

Dear friend, your life is the most precious thing to you. You deserve all the good things in life.

If you dream, you can do it.

I don't know what they talked about, but I believe they loved you and hoped you'd live a good life. You are the most important thing to them.

Life and death are natural laws. We cherish life because of them.

Take the love you have felt and live a wonderful life.

I'm grateful to have met you, heard your story, and had the chance to accompany you. Thank you.

I love you, and I hope the good things in the world are with you.

Hug you, my child. I hope you can feel some warmth and support, and I hope my answer can bring you some help.

I know you have a very close bond with your grandparents, and they must love you so much. When they pass away, you might feel like life has lost its meaning. It's natural to feel like no one can appreciate your good qualities anymore and look forward to your return home to give you praise and affirmation. But remember, life always needs to move forward. Your life is your own life, not your grandparents' life. While their life has come to an end, your life has just begun! You will have your own family, you will have the career you want to pursue, and you will have many wonderful life experiences to look forward to.

I'd like to offer you a bit of advice, if I may.

Your grandparents may be gone, but the love and strength they gave you is still there, and you can continue to move forward with that same love and strength.

When you're having a tough day or feeling down, picture your grandparents. Imagine how they'd support you and what kind of care they'd give you if they were there with you. Let that warmth, care, and emotional support fill you up. They're always with you, ready to give you a hug and a listening ear.

Life goes on from one generation to the next. We can't change the laws of life, but the wonderful thing about life is that although people will go, love will last forever. As long as you're ready to feel and move forward with this love and strength,

2. It's so important to establish your own social support system. When your grandparents are gone, you'll still have a whole new circle of people who love and care about you.

It's not just you, sweetheart. We all face this same predicament. Our grandparents will go, and one day, our mom and dad will also leave us. But we can also establish many new relationships. These new relationships can give us support and nourishment, share our joy, and share our troubles. Think of a group of like-minded good friends, childhood friends who grew up together, intimate relationships that support each other, leaders and colleagues who appreciate themselves. These are our social support systems. These relationships don't just happen. You need to create them yourself. When you can give your love in relationships, you will find that your love will all come back to you. This is the law of karma.

3. The most important thing is to recognize that you have limitless resources within yourself and learn to take good care of yourself.

It's easy to think that only grandparents can give you the care and love you want, but the truth is, you have everything you need inside. We are all self-sufficient, and our inner infinite resources are waiting for us to explore and use. When you feel isolated and helpless and your mood is low, remember to learn to care for yourself. You've got this!

You can care for yourself according to the guidance in the book "The Power of Self-Care" from the three levels of treating yourself well, common humanity, and mindfulness. And when you think about your grandparents and what you long for them to give you, please remember that you can also give to yourself. When you learn to give yourself support, care, recognition, acceptance, and appreciation, you will become independent and gradually be able to bloom the brilliance of your own life.

I hope this is helpful for you! Sending you lots of love!

It's normal to feel this way when a loved one dies. Losing your grandmother is hard, especially if you've been close to her since you were young.

Your grandmother's death can make you feel uncertain and alone.

It may take time to recover from this loss. Here are some suggestions:

1. Allow yourself to grieve. Give yourself time and space to mourn your grandmother. Allow yourself to feel sad, angry, and lost.

Don't ignore your feelings. Mourning is an important part of healing.

2. Talk to friends and family about your feelings. They can help.

If you need help, see a counselor or psychotherapist.

3. Stay healthy. Eat right, exercise, and get enough sleep.

4. Express your emotions: Find a way to express your emotions, such as keeping a diary, painting, music, writing, or exercise.

5. Set small goals: Learn a new skill, finish a project, or start a healthy habit. These goals can help you regain control and direction.

6. Think about what's important to you. This could be your career, personal interests, or contributions to the community.

7. Honor your grandmother by speaking at her grave, writing a letter, or doing something she liked.

8. Reconnect with family members if you can. This can be hard, but it can also lead to new family relationships and emotional support.

Everyone grieves differently. Give yourself time to find your way.

You are not alone on this journey of mourning.

Greetings.

After reading your question, it is evident that you are experiencing a significant degree of confusion regarding how to survive, particularly given that you were raised by your grandparents following the divorce of your parents when you were young, and they have since passed away. I empathize with your feelings of helplessness and confusion, and I offer you a virtual embrace.

It is uncommon for parents to provide adequate care for their children, which can result in a lack of close emotional bonds. Alternatively, it could be argued that parents do not always fulfill the role of a nurturing figure. The absence of parental love and care during childhood can lead to feelings of indifference and sadness, particularly when the individual is left without support during their formative years. The loss of a family member, particularly one who provided care and support, can result in feelings of loneliness and helplessness. Despite this, individuals often strive to take care of themselves, even when those who love them are no longer present.

It may be beneficial to accept reality at this time. No individual is indispensable; we all have the potential to live better lives. To improve your own life, it is important to take responsibility for your actions. Consider the inevitability of death and the subsequent departure of loved ones. When we die, our children will also have to face this reality. It is crucial to prioritize self-care, earn more money, become more courageous and fearless, and enrich your life. You can read books or seek support from a trusted individual to process your emotions. By embracing these emotions, you can heal your inner child and envision a better life for yourself. It is possible to achieve this.

I wish you the best of luck!

Your grandparents left with love for you. As the movie suggests, they have turned into stars in the sky to bless you. It is normal to miss them, feel depressed and confused. There is no need to rush to pull yourself out. In fact, you cannot be pulled out even if you try. You will naturally come out of it when you find your own life, the joy of living and love. You will realize your grandparents' expectations. If you cannot find your own life, even if they are still with you, you will still be confused, right?

It's important to remember that your life is the only part you can control. The amount of love and care you can get from your parents and grandparents before you become independent is all there is. It's natural to have regrets, but it's also important to accept what you have lost and move forward.

Many people find it challenging to move on from the regrets of their original family and often have a strong desire to do something to satisfy the needs they once craved. This can sometimes affect their ability to build their own lives. If you reflect on it, do you feel a sense of longing for your grandparents, as well as expectations and disappointment towards your parents?

It might be worth considering whether your inability to move on is due to a continued reliance on the love of your family. If you haven't yet fully matured and become independent, you may lack the mental energy to support yourself in the future. It's possible that the best way to protect yourself is to grow up independently and not rely on the love of your family, regardless of whether they are divorced or still alive.

It might be helpful to consider that finding your own life could be a way to begin healing. This could include things like career advancement, expanding your social circle, and exploring your interests in depth. It's likely that everyone has interests that they're passionate about, and that there's always something out there that you'll enjoy discovering. It could be a good idea to try to connect with more people and to focus on building positive relationships. It's important to remember that your body and mind are connected, and that taking time to adjust gradually can help you to find your passion. You might find that you naturally become a better version of yourself as you do this. It's also worth noting that, without the support of your family, you'll have the opportunity to walk in the sunshine and find your own happiness.

Good day, question asker.

I empathize with your situation. You did not receive sufficient affection from your parents during their divorce, and now you are bereft of the care and support that your grandparents once provided. I am saddened by their absence.

You are experiencing a sense of abandonment reminiscent of the period when your parents divorced.

The individual who provided you with the greatest support is no longer available.

If you could communicate with the child you were at that time, what would you say? Would you inform him of the current situation?

Please be assured that your grandparents are treating you well.

He has now commenced employment.

Despite their absence, their affection for you will remain constant.

Do you recall the words of encouragement they provided? Do you remember the care they showed you?

While they may no longer provide direct guidance on personal health and wellness, you have developed the ability to prioritize your own well-being.

While they may not be able to express their pride in their grandchildren, you will be able to see the joy in their eyes when they look at you and say, "My grandchildren are amazing."

Apart from the eventuality of the death of grandparents, there is little hope for improvement in the quality of life. Do you have any other concerns or interests in your life?

Please describe your interests and preferences.

The process of facing the death of a loved one typically begins with disbelief and anger, and gradually progresses towards acceptance. I believe that time will be the primary factor in helping you to navigate this challenging period.

You will eventually get married and have children, and you will become a grandfather.

Assist them in living their lives to the fullest.

I encourage you to persevere.