Work is so painful, I dare not quit. Every day I am anxious and depressed, wanting to cry. Last night I couldn't sleep.

Hello! I can see that it's really tough for you to see your story and feel your distress.

It's totally normal to feel this way! Many people find themselves in your shoes, struggling to find the courage to quit a job that's not working out. It's not easy to find another job right now, and it's understandable that you're hesitant to make a change.

It's totally understandable to feel anxious when you're facing challenges at work. It's not easy to know what to do in these situations.

Overall, it seems like you really like your job! You don't seem to have any problems with your colleagues or your boss. So, why are you feeling so anxious? There are two main reasons:

First, you're not sure how to solve the difficulties you encounter at work. It can be really tough to feel stuck in a difficult situation all the time, and I can imagine it's making you feel anxious.

You said you don't have any colleagues you can turn to for help or advice, and your immediate supervisor is really busy. I can imagine you're feeling a bit embarrassed to ask for advice. It's so hard when you're trying to find a solution and it just doesn't work.

It's totally understandable to feel disappointed and helpless, and to blame yourself. We've all been there!

I'm sure your leader would be happy to help if you went to them and asked for advice. They're there to support you! So, if you went to them and told them about your confusion, what do you think might happen? And if the situation turned out as you hoped, how would you feel?

Let's chat about the second reason, shall we? This job is a little challenging for you, and the work intensity and work environment are still pretty okay with you.

So quitting is a bit unworthy of you, sweetie.

In view of this, my dear friend, what you have to do now is relax, reduce internal friction, and go all out to deal with work obstacles.

I wish you all the very best!

Do whatever makes your heart sing!

It's okay, we've all been there! The reason why you feel like you don't accomplish anything at work, have no confidence, and suffer every day is very simple: it's not something you like doing.

It's so important to love what you do! If you don't, you're not going to be good at it. And if you don't like it, it's going to be really tough to be good at it. So, if you're not good at it, you're going to dislike it even more. And the more resistance you feel inside, the more painful it will be.

It can be really tough to shift your mindset and attitude in this job. If you're struggling to make a change, it might be time to step away from the situation. Take some time for yourself to feel happy and healthy again. Negativity can take a toll on our well-being and luck. We're all shaped by our environments, and stepping back from a challenging one can bring a fresh perspective.

Hey there! No need to stress about what might happen if you leave your job. Even if the company goes bankrupt, you'll be okay!

You know what you need to do to improve yourself?

Everything outside is a reflection of what's inside. Your surroundings will show you where you are on your journey.

This is why changing jobs only allows you to temporarily escape your troubles, just like a painkiller. To get to the root of the problem, you need to find the source.

The root cause is that your current energy field is too weak. Don't worry, though! You can easily improve yourself, including your self-confidence, thinking, and cognition, etc. This will upgrade the freedom of your conscious energy by one level. After that, your previous situation will disappear, and you will integrate into a new environment, one that is closer to your ideal atmosphere and has less pain. If you want to continue to improve, your surroundings, including people and things, will all change for you.

That's why I'm here for you, as your source of everything!

Wishing you all the best!

Work can feel like a cage. We want to escape, to stop working. After resigning or being fired, we can see that although the outside world is free, without a source of income, we are even more miserable and can hardly get by.

In today's society, if you don't have money, you're basically stuck. You feel that work is so painful, but you're afraid to quit. This is a bit of a conflict of ideas, and it seems that this conflict cannot be reconciled. If you want to free yourself from anxiety and depression, you may need to make more efforts and adjustments.

It's clear how your current insomnia is affecting your life. If you don't sleep well, it's likely that other things will be affected too. It seems that your work requires you to constantly output.

It's easy to feel like everything you do is wrong and that no one else approves. It seems like everyone else is too busy to communicate, and no one else comes to your aid. This situation holds you back constantly.

I feel pretty helpless, sad, and confused. This kind of work environment isn't really suitable for long-term stay. If I can find a company that's better suited to work in the future—one where everyone respects and helps each other, and where the boss can also share their anxieties when needed—the situation might be a lot better.

You also realize that it may not be the right time to change jobs recently, so you can look at other jobs during this time. After work, take some time to meditate and relieve some of your stress. Don't be too hard on yourself. In general, the unhappiness we feel is caused by our thoughts. The 80/20 rule tells us that 80% is human perception and 20% is external events. Although the world itself is not fair, we still have to cherish our dreams and move forward together.

ZQ?

Hello!

From what you've said, it seems like you're at your limit.

Dealing with such a significant psychological challenge, it's essential to consider your family, your role as a couple, and your shared responsibilities. I believe you're fortunate to have connected with each other.

If you love him, tell him how you feel, tell him about your embarrassment, and give him the chance to accept your imperfections. You don't have to be perfect.

Don't be afraid to show your weaknesses.

"I need to produce a lot," "Every time I suggest something, it gets rejected, and I feel like such a waste,"

"I'm not sure what to do when I'm asked to make decisions."

There seems to be a bit of a contradiction here. It's clear that the questioner wants to make a difference at work, but after experiencing rejection, it's understandable that it's becoming difficult to continue facing these people and the workplace environment they create, which is like a scourge.

It's affecting your sleep, too.

Do they really have that much of an impact on your life and happiness?

You have the power to make your own decisions. Right now, it's up to you to decide how to approach this situation and train your thinking and abilities to coordinate work appropriately. It may seem like an opportunity.

But you feel bad, so you can't see this as an opportunity right now. And maybe because you have high expectations of yourself, you'd rather pass on this opportunity.

This isn't about regret or helplessness. It's an opportunity for you to grow and improve.

I really hope you can find support and strength from your family and friends to help you face this problem.

First, try to understand some of the things your leader denies. You might gain a new perspective that makes up for your leader's blind spots. Then, take a look at your identity. You're not at the mercy of your colleagues. You're an individual with your own independent thinking and your own areas where you can shine in your work.

Instead of getting bogged down in the small stuff.

If the other party is just denying for the sake of it and doesn't respect your personality, you make your choice boldly, not as they say, "running away."

I have a feeling that the word "escape" is something that has been imposed on you from the outside. Of course, this is just my speculation. You can adjust to the rhythm of life.

Take a deep breath and look for the beauty in life. When you love yourself, you can love your family and your career too.

Hello, question asker! I'm sending you lots of hugs and love ?

I can feel your panic, helplessness, pain, and sense of powerlessness from your words, but I can also see that you are struggling and adjusting. That's amazing! Give yourself a round of applause for your efforts and give yourself a hug.

It's totally normal to face challenges in life and work. You're trying to get out of this tricky situation, and I'm sure you'll succeed!

You say that work is like a huge monster, and to defeat the monster we must also become a giant. Do you agree? If you do, then let's think about how to become a giant!

For example, there are so many ways to grow and strengthen yourself in this company! You can improve your communication skills, whether it's with your boss, colleagues, or other teams. You can also gain a deeper understanding of the company's operations, past experiences, and future direction. Plus, you can build your own personal connections and learn from the experiences of your predecessors. And let's not forget about creating your own work opportunities! These are just a few ways to make yourself stronger.

Quitting your job is equivalent to leaving an environment, which is a defense mechanism and a self-protection mechanism. And while this may not be the result you want, it proves that you still have an escape route! It may expose you to life's pressures, but we can also simplify the demands of life.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

You mentioned "frustrated," "can't sleep," and "something is wrong with me," which makes me feel that you are putting a lot of pressure on yourself and are in a state of self-negation. I really hope you're not taking sleeping pills or other drugs!

When you feel uncomfortable or anxious, take a deep breath, then another deep breath. Practice breathing to reduce the impact on your body. You can also review your work for the day every day to see what progress you have made and give yourself a little encouragement along the way!

Money and health are sometimes at odds with one another. But don't fret! You can absolutely strive to achieve a healthy balance between the two.

I really hope this is helpful for you!

Hello, I read your post and I can tell you're feeling anxious, irritated, and confused.

Let's take a closer look at why we have such a strong fear and anxiety about work. Based on what I've seen, here are a few ideas:

1. It seems like your workload isn't that heavy, but you're expected to produce a lot. After a few months on the job, you feel like your sense of worth is very low because your proposals are rejected every time.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're new to the workplace or have just switched to a new one. This job is still pretty challenging for you because it seems to be a pretty open-ended position that requires you to draw on a lot of things from your past knowledge and experience and then apply them. Whether you've just graduated and started working not long ago or have just switched jobs, this job actually presents both challenges and opportunities for you.

Have you thought about whether you want to grow from these challenges or whether you'd prefer a more stable job? You might need to make a choice.

2. Let's take a look at your work environment and status.

"You have your own corner, you don't work with anyone in the same department, you don't have much to say to anyone, your direct supervisor is very busy and doesn't have time for me, there are so many things I don't know what to do about, so I just keep them to myself, I feel like I can't do anything right, I don't dare speak up.

I especially struggle when I need to make a decision.

It's just so hard to explain.

When I'm feeling frustrated, I sometimes wish I could just jump out the window and escape. At night, when I'm thinking about these things, I often can't sleep for a long time.

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I can see how you're feeling lonely and helpless in your new workplace. It seems like a lot of different things have led you to this isolated environment. At the same time, it seems like you've isolated yourself on purpose, afraid to engage with your colleagues and leaders. This cycle makes you feel more and more isolated and helpless, and then you get wrapped up in this emotion, feeling utterly frustrated.

Have you talked to your colleagues about work plans and methods? Have you taken the initiative to see how other colleagues communicate with their leaders?

I think it's safe to say that few people would turn down a colleague who's keen to learn and work hard. Why not be the first to take the plunge?

3. Let's take a look at your family relationships.

"But I can't bring myself to quit my job. After all, I need to make a living. The current environment is not good, and I don't think I can find a new job anytime soon. I can't just dump the burden of life on my husband."

From what I can see, you're not happy at work but you're stuck there because of other things going on in your life and because of your husband's concerns. Have you talked to your husband about your job and your thoughts?

I think it would help to talk about your worries at home as well as at work. It's possible that you've been carrying a lot of stress for a while without realizing it. It might be worth seeing if things are really as bad as you think.

After all, many people are still struggling to find work in the current pandemic environment, so you're actually in a pretty good position.

Finally, I want to tell you that it's normal to have various worries in life. Be brave and express them. Find the support resources around you and exchange opinions and ideas more often. The world is not as lonely as you think. Stay strong!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today because I would like to inquire about a potential opportunity that may be of interest to you. I understand that you are currently facing some challenges in your current role. I am writing to express my desire to assist you in navigating these challenges and to explore potential solutions that could benefit you and your organization. I am confident that I can provide valuable insights and guidance based on my experience in similar roles. I look forward to hearing from you soon. Sincerely, [Your Name]

From your question, I understand that you feel panicked about your current job. You feel like you are fighting a lone battle every day, without a clear direction. However, you also don't want to leave your job easily because you don't want to add to your husband's financial burden. I understand your conflict and confusion very well.

I note that you have been in your current position for several months, during which time all of your proposals have been rejected. This has understandably caused you frustration. However, it is important to remember that a job is a two-way choice between the company and the individual. The fact that you have been able to work in this position demonstrates that the company recognises your initial value and work ability.

It appears that there is room for improvement and a need for time to adjust to the work environment. In light of this, it would be beneficial to address any doubts about abilities.

Therefore, your panic and lack of confidence in your work may be due to what you mentioned yourself: "If I don't do it well, I dare not speak up." When your proposal was rejected, you did not receive a specific direction for improvement, which led to frustration.

In the event of a proposal being rejected, it would be advisable to be courageous and inquire further. Additionally, it would be beneficial to request clarification from your leader regarding the reasons for rejection. This approach will facilitate the identification of discrepancies between your expectations and those of your leader, allowing you to focus on specific areas for improvement and development.

Naturally, being able to perform to a high standard requires not only the subjective factor of having the courage to ask, but also the objective environmental factors that are also important.

"My workstation is in a remote location, and I lack colleagues with whom to collaborate. As a result, I have limited opportunities to interact with others, which is contributing to feelings of depression and anxiety."

As social animals, we have a natural need to interact with others and groups. Given the relatively closed nature of your work environment, it is understandable that you may experience some discomfort due to a lack of communication with colleagues and difficulty integrating into the group.

It would be beneficial to consider the situation from a more objective and comprehensive perspective.

What is this position offering in return?

What are the benefits to you?

Does it align with your career objectives?

To ascertain whether the position is a suitable fit and whether it is worth continuing, it is advisable to consider it from multiple perspectives, such as salary and benefits, room for growth, company development, and the work environment.

Alternatively, you may wish to make a choice that better suits your needs. This could include keeping abreast of market information, understanding the current salary and benefits of similar positions, the size of the company, and so on. You may also choose to plan and target your efforts to improve the skills necessary for your desired career position. This will give you more opportunities to choose the right company and position.

Best regards,

Hello, question owner! I can see that you're a great wife who loves her family and husband ?. I'm excited to answer your question and help you out!

As someone who has been in the workforce for many years, I understand the challenges you're facing. I'm here to support you through this journey! I'm not sure what led to your departure from your previous role, but I'm excited to help you find a solution.

Did you encounter the same problems at your previous job? From your description, I can gather that you have two problems:

Your various discomforts and lack of integration into your new job. Of course, from your description, it seems that the company has not done its job properly, such as the placement of newcomers and the arrangement of work tasks. But don't fret! Under this seemingly "force majeure" situation, why don't we try to adapt to the new environment?

Regarding the anxiety after "leaving," if I really can't adapt, do I have the courage to leave?

I'm excited to explore and discuss these two issues below. If there's anything you think is incorrect or inappropriate, please feel free to discuss it.

Now, let's dive into the exciting topic of integration into a new environment!

"After a few months on the job, every time I suggest something, it gets rejected, and I feel like such a waste." First, tell yourself that you are not a "waste" at all. Just imagine, what kind of a boss would be stupid enough to pay to hire a waste to work for them? Getting rejected is not a problem or something to be afraid of. Instead, think of it as an opportunity to communicate with your boss and colleagues. Go to them and ask for suggestions, and ask them how they do things. If you don't know where to start, why not start with a lunch or a cup of coffee or milk tea? And you will find that the problems you encounter in these tasks may help you integrate better into the team.

"My seat is in a corner by itself." I'm not sure about your company's situation. Nowadays, there is more and more open office space, so many companies are actually relatively casual about workstation arrangements. This is great because it means you have the freedom to choose where you work! Don't be limited by the physical location. Remember the first point we just discussed and take action:

"My direct supervisor is busy and doesn't have time for me." It's perfectly normal for your supervisor to be busy, with countless meetings every day. If your supervisor ever has a free day, you'll probably worry that you won't be able to get any work done. There's no problem with being busy. We can leave a message, come in early, and stay late. Trust me, you'll always find each other!

However, it's a great idea to prepare in advance and sort out the issues you want to discuss with your boss. It's also a fantastic plan to tell your boss the general topic when you make an appointment with him or her, so that they can be mentally prepared. For example, you can discuss your current situation, what kind of help you need, and the problems with your previous plan.

"There are so many things I don't know what to do about, so I just keep them to myself." You should know that many bosses would rather you didn't ask if you weren't going to do it, than have you do a messy job where you seem to know what you're doing but don't.

Let's talk about quitting your job!

"I'm not ready to quit just yet. I have to make a living, and I'm excited to see what the future holds! The general environment is not ideal recently, but I'm confident I'll find a new job soon." I mentioned it out of curiosity at the beginning. I'm curious to know what the reason for leaving your last job was. Did the problems you mentioned above also exist in your previous job?

If you leave simply because of "adaptation" problems, remember that there are all kinds of things in the world, and every company is different. You never know what the future holds! So let's learn and grow here, so that when you quit and change jobs in the future, you'll be ready to tackle any challenge.

If there are other problems besides the "adaptation" problem, such as discovering after starting the job that the job content is very different from what was expected, unable to use your strengths, or even exposing more weaknesses, or the boss has poor character and abilities, then perhaps "resignation" is a topic that can be discussed.