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From what you've asked, it seems like this is a great topic.
I think it's important to remember that we all go through a process of becoming social beings from natural beings. A natural being is something that is natural and innate, something that has not been interfered with.
What happens when a person is raised without outside intervention? You can look at cases like wolf children, human children raised by animals, and see that they acquire animal behaviors, such as walking on all fours and eating raw meat.
They're also affected by what happens in the outside world.
The socialization process is how we go from being natural people to social people. It's a process that's guided by various external interventions. When we were young, our parents influenced us the most. After all, human children can't live independently for a long time and need to be nurtured by someone, so the influence of parents on children is profound.
Then, in kindergarten, at school, among peers, in social groups, etc., they gradually become socialized and learn to adapt to social life.
As a manager, the bare minimum you need to do is follow the law. Don't cause trouble or bring it to others or society.
This is a pretty low bar.
We all need to be socialized. Socialization is the process of being influenced by others and society. Unless you live in a bubble, without any outside input, without words, books, music, or paintings.
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All of these things can affect our thinking, and you might not be influenced by them.
It's inevitable that we'll be influenced by the people around us. Some of these influences are intentional, like the influence of parents and teachers on us. These kinds of people have a responsibility to teach. Some influences are unintentional, like when someone swears and wants to influence an unrelated third person by swearing, and wants the third person to learn from them and also swear.
This isn't the case at all. They don't intend to influence anyone else. But that doesn't stop someone else from being influenced and copying them, or from being disgusted by their behavior.
We're all influenced by others, but it's up to us to decide whether we're going to be swayed by it.
This means thinking for ourselves. Maturity is about finding a mindset, attitude, ideas, behaviors, etc. that suit you, between your own thinking and external influences.
It's a back-and-forth process. On the one hand, you have your own thinking, and on the other, external influence.
People who are easily influenced by others tend to think less for themselves. People who think more for themselves and have their own independent thoughts will often figure out whether external influences need to be accepted, kept at a distance, or directly criticized.
For example, everyone around you is playing TikTok. It's their form of entertainment, and they'll also give you points and share the short videos they see. This is probably the kind of subtle influence you're thinking of, but whether you want to play TikTok like them is up to you.
People who don't think for themselves are likely to follow the crowd and be easily influenced.
You don't need to worry about being subtly influenced by the people around you. There's a lot of influence out there, but you get to decide whether to accept it and how much to accept it.
This means you need to think for yourself and be able to judge things. People who don't have any views are the most likely to be influenced by others.
If you have concerns, I suggest you read more, think more, and spend more time with people you admire.
I'm often a Buddhist and a pessimist, but I try to be a positive and motivated counselor. I love the world and I love you.


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I understand where you're coming from. It's true that our environment shapes us, but being aware of this can give you the power to choose how much it affects you. We all have the ability to stay grounded in our values even when surrounded by negativity.
Awareness is a big part of not letting negative influences shape you. When you're conscious of their impact, you can actively work on maintaining your own positive outlook and behavior. It's about setting boundaries and staying true to what you believe in.
It's important to acknowledge that while we can't always control our surroundings, we do have control over our reactions. By focusing on selfawareness and personal growth, you can minimize the influence of undesirable traits and maintain your integrity.
You're right to be mindful of who you spend time with, as they can affect your mindset and habits. However, sometimes encountering these challenges can strengthen your resolve and clarify what you stand for. It's an opportunity to reinforce your own principles.
While it's natural to worry about becoming like those around you, remember that awareness acts as a shield against unwanted influences. You can observe without absorbing, learning to differentiate between what aligns with your values and what doesn't.